Ishamael
-
Posts
179 -
Joined
-
Last visited
-
Days Won
1
Content Type
Profiles
Forums
Gallery
Events
Blogs
Posts posted by Ishamael
-
-
Wait, you're telling me there's other people from Quebec in this thread?
Three-way date anyone? :P
-
Girl I'm chatting with is "looking for Mr. Wright."
Must... Resist... Urge to ask her who Mr. Wright is and where she thinks he could have run off to...
I hope you did it.
-
Facebook is amazingly useful when meeting new people, actually.
Add them.
Check out their likes/interests.
Avoid all the awkward small talk looking for common ground.
Success!
I'm sure muggi has better stats than I do for the success rates of online dating.
This. Almost every relationship that I've been in since like, 2010, has started on Facebook (meet in person, add her on Facebook, talk online and eventually set up an actual date). However, I'm noticing that this isn't really a good thing. The last two chicks that I dated ended up being total b****** that pretty much used me for my truck/money (*AHEM* RPG ;) ). This is because we mostly chatted on Facebook before actually really meeting in person. So I guess it has it's Pros and Cons.
*sigh*
I know you're right, but...I just haven't found the right line-crossing moment that makes me want to give up. She made me promise to never let her go. She practically quoted A Day To Remember at me. It's gonna take something more than logic to get me to stop.
I can accept this. You can't really help who you fall for, and once your heart is set on someone it's hard to change it's path . However, I need to ask you something. Before you met this girl, were you into drugs? Were you the the type of guy who drives his girl wherever she wants to go? Don't let her change you too much.
-
Tread carefully. I'm pretty sure you're getting played.
See I think so too, to an extent. But if I can keep my head on straight, I can minimize the personal damage. I lost ~$350 in 4 days to her. She's an expensive habit. Plus I drove her left side of everywhere. And yet, I feel she wouldn't cheat on me. Just using me. But that's just a theory. Trying to screw my head on straight, not merc it with paranoia.
As I've mentioned before, I've been in a similar situation, although the girl I was seeing wasn't quite so hardcore. Trust me, just forget about her. She's the kind of girl that will slowly destroy you and once you're nothing but a crater she'll move on to someone fresh. I think you're getting attached to her because you're afraid that you won't be able to find anyone else but trust me man, it's not worth the effort on your part. Do yourself a favour and get over her.
-
In the long run you would save money with Bandos, with the repair cost of Barrows armour.
-
Nope. She was out of my league from the start. I actually didn't even hope too much before I started talking with other people who told me to go for it.
I've been rejected about 13 times until I finally hooked up. You just gotta keep going.
This this this this! Not every woman is your type, so it's dumb to assume that you are that one guy that every woman should be attracted to. Now, don't get me wrong, I'm not targeting anyone in particular here. I'm just saying that not everyone finds "the one" on the first attempt. Just don't let it bring you down and continue trying.
-
Damn. I always knew I was doing something wrong back in high school. :lol:
Same. Making up for it now though haha ;)
-
I feel weird. Talked to the girl again tonight, but something seemed off. Maybe I was just tired, and she was just stressed. My trust issues are rising, and I want to put it off as stupidity (or just take the humans gonna human route and not care) but...I dunno. It's dumb. She makes me feel good, she makes me smile, but she's like a drug. Closing out of a skype call is like coming down off a high, it kinda blows. Can't wait to see her still, but she keeps adding more and more BS that's going down, like how this chick wants to fight her, this ex wants to get with her, this guys shes moving in with is ignoring her...it's all just so...blah. I just don't feel I'm in a position to really change anything. I just want to enjoy the small amount of time I have with her dammit. Part of me wants more, sure but...it just doesn't seem like an option right now. I'm working all the time and in school, so visiting her is hard, and it's going to get worse when she moves. If I had a place of my own, she could just move in with me. But by now you're going to screech at me for being too far ahead of myself. Which I am. I'm just not in a good position.
Do you always see these kind of women? Seems a little too much on the wild side, even by my standards.
I've tried dating someone like this before. She was my ex's best friend and I kinda decided to see her to make my ex jealous (ex told me explicitly to not date her, hehehe). I ended up spending a weekend with her (nothing happened except kissing) and I started to develop feelings for her. I was just intending on sleeping with her a few times and moving on, but she was such an awesome person. She was sarcastic and funny and just so energetic that I started to crave being with her. Anyways, it ended up blowing up in my face. An easy way to describe what happened is by doing this:
Saturday - Went to her parent's house, chatted with her mom, looked at baby pictures. Went to see a movie that night (Identity Thief). Went home afterwards
Sunday - Went to see another movie. Made out in the parking lot in my car before bringing her home.
Monday - She texts me something like: "I miss you, can't wait to see you again".
Tuesday Morning - She texts me: "If I want to make you mine this weekend, would you accept?". We had agreed to take it slow and see what happens. I saw this as a sign that she wanted to make things more serious.
Wednesday - Went to her place. Bought her a pack of cigs (she had no money, didn't smoke since monday), bought her McDonalds. Get home, she tells me we can't date, that she isn't attracted to me but "we can be friends". I basically tell her to [bleep] off, and leave.
Saturday - I text her saying sorry for Wednesday night. She replies with "Whatever. By the way I slept with a guy Tuesday night. He was so much sexier than you ;)"
Anyways, all that to say that things are not always how they seem. Have fun with her but just be prepared for anything. Look out for yourself :P.
17 and 19 is not a huge age difference at all. The problem in that scenario was the parental supervision. American girls (especially of that age) are quite promiscuous.
They weren't when I was 17...or maybe I just wasn't hanging out with the right girls. :P
You weren't hanging out with the right girls. I've dated two 17 year olds so far this year (I'm 20) and both were quite...naughty ;).
-
1
-
-
So, remember the random girl I mentioned in the last chunk of my spring break video part 2? The one that I gave slight mention to earlier in my postings? My today thread post might spoil a bit, but I'll get more detailed in here cause I know you all love reading my bull crap. Or at least read it.
She's awesome. Her literal job is to be a party girl. She plans raves, meets DJs, gets connections, rents spaces, hosts parties and rages hard. She's far from perfect, and I love it. She's like wildfire surging through a forest. On acid. God she makes me smile. But I was in it before I learned more about her, and the more I know the more awesome it becomes. She was a ittle nervous about talking about her drug usage, but assured me she's chilled out with it. She actually reminds me a lot of the rave girl I nearly dated last year. But I suppose they'd all have something in common, right? Anyway, she's of Jewish hertiage (random bonus points in my book), loves beads and acid, especially in combination, professional club dancer, willing to try anything, really into BDSM as a submissive, and she cam girls on the side for extra cash. Oh, and she's got a handful of tattoos, the devil's smile and heart stopping glances.
Could she be any more fantastic?
Unfortunately, due to her lifstyle, she's moving to NY (like 2 hours up from me) in a month and a half so our 'relationship' will be short lived. She's moving in with an old FwB who's rich out of his mind for free so you know something's going on there. I'm going to have to put up with meeting a bunch of her old scuzzy exes and stuff on Saturday when I party with her, but you know what? I don't care. It's gonna be a little dramatic, she'll likely dose me with something, and I'm gonna have a [bleep]ing blast. It won't last forever, but dammit I'm going to squeeze the life out of every second I spend with her when I move in with her for the allotted time period. It's like a lightbulb's last few seconds of life - shinging brighter than ever before, and than; poof. And it's out.
And while there is a fairly designated end point (I think she said like April 15 or something is when she moves) Our light is going to shine BRIGHT until than.
And I have the biggest grin on my face.
Just don't let yourself get too attached man, caus she probably won't feel the same about you. Have fun though :P.
Who said 15? They were 17. And I am 19. But still, that is difference enough for not parents to like any mingling,
There won't be any mingling.
-
It's not that I want to screw everything on two feet. I have standards. But we're young and now is the time to have fun and experiment a little with this kind of stuff. No point in being shy or whatever. It's the time to get out there and show people who Prets is :P.
It's nice to have female friends, however. They have different point-of-views on certain affairs and who knows, they may have hot single friends.
-
SaqPrets, you overthink these things way too much.
-
I didn't mean only physical standards. Those of mine are quite easy to pass - no excess fat and not looking hideous. But I am personally very intelligent and knowledgeable, so it kinda makes it hard to find a girl with who I can hold an intelligent conversation aswell. Because frankly, most of the girls are plain stupid imo. If one doesn't know who Lenin was, [bleep] off.
Are you looking to get laid or to find a life partner? Who cares if she's dumb or not lol.
So anyways, went to a dance last night and saw my ex. I haven't seen her in like, 2-3 months and I've been working out pretty hardcore these past months. The expression on her face was priceless when she saw me, she knows what she's missing :P. It was a country dance so basically the dance floor is surrounded by tables. So every time I danced with someone, she was forced to watch. So yeah, that was a crapload of fun haha.
-
If she would approach you when you're sober and asked you to sleep with her, would you?
-
1
-
-
If google images isn't doing the job, no other search engine will.
-
What's your budget?
-
Got me an objective. Try to seduce the unseduceable girl.
Actually, thing is not that bad. I am talking about a girl in my class that I have developed a crush in. So deep crush that I had my first ever lucid dream. About her. So good one that the reality ruined my day.
But the girl I am talkng about is like the queen of sarcasm. She has brilliant remarks about everything. Also, she is quite pretty.
As in unseduceable I mean that she has never had a boyfriend. At least as far as anyone knows. Her biggest advancement was like two weekends with an university student which didn't go further than a kiss. So she is less experienced in those things that even I am. She once told me how she likes romantic walks and everything but she can't help and starts laughing at it. Laughing at everything.
She does have some messy stuff around with her. Her parents divorced while she was young and she has some quite weird quirks. Her parents are even weirder. Apparently her mum has tried to send her to a psychiatrist for she is 18 and has never brought a boyfriend in for dinner. Yet she is not allowed to go out on the weekends... Or she just feels that life is too depressing to go out without a boyfriend. Last month she has told me she is super annoyed that noone has asked her to the prom that comes in April. And we are in the final grade, so the prom is quite important.
Yeah, I just got 19 and never had a girlfriend and I think my mum would even prefer it that way, or at least she has said that she doesn't want me to bring anyone home...
If she mentioned Prom to you it was most likely a hint, depending on how she brought it up. If she still doesn't have a date, ask her!
The thing is, forgot to make that clear I suppose, I don't know her, like at all. Except for that one party, lol.
With that in mind, would it make any sense for me to talk to her? That's what I'm worried about.
If you meet someone at a party that you are interested in or had fun with, you should try to contact them a day or two after the event, while the memory of you is still fresh in her mind. If it's been longer than that, don't worry, it's not too late. But try to get in contact with her ASAP.
Personally, what I do, is that I contact them on the same night that I met them. Not always, but I do this often. Ask for their number before they leave and then call them 15-20 minutes after they leave and ask them something silly like "Hey, it's Anthony from the bar. I was wondering what colour shirt I should wear on our first date? I want to make sure I look good.". All the times I've done this, I've gotten at least a first date. It takes a lot of balls to do but it works like a charm because nobody calls anyone anymore. Calling a girl shows them that you are really into them and it shows that you have confidence. Women love confidence ;).
-
So, I was at this party the other night, and talked to several girls, etc. But I really hit it off with this one girl, but she and her friends left early. Anyway, when I got home I was still a bit drunk-ish and added her and several other people I met on FB, and most of them accepted (yey).
As I'm quite interested in that particular girl, I am wondering what I should do, or if I should even do anything in the first place. I don't really know her at all, only just met her at that party, and she's a friend of a friend.
I basically have zero experience in the whole dating thing, so any advice is helpful. :<
If you're interested in that particular girl, you should totally take action. I don't know if you see her at all at school/work because you didn't make that clear. If you do, you should just talk to her. If you don't know how to spark the conversation, just bring up stuff that you talked about that night or just try to get to know her more by asking her various questions. In my experience, women love to talk about themselves so just work with that.
If you don't see her in person, chat with her on Facebook the next time you see she's online. Try to not ask too many questions online because you'll use up any conversation starters for when you actually meet up again in person. Try and see if she would be interested in hanging out some time. I'm not saying to go on Facebook and write something like "Hey, wanna hang out some time?". Just chat a little and ask her when you think the time is right. I normally just chat once or twice during a 7 day period and then on the third day I'll ask her out but it really varies on how much you've known her before and how interested she looks. Don't take too long though because someone could come around and snatch her from ya :P.
-
Just try to get on the subject of relationships and mention that for the time being, you aren't looking to date anyone. As simple as that.
-
Honesty isn't what I'm after here, I just want as little drama as possible in my interactions with her. It's just going to get in the way of the association's goals.
Why aren't you interested in her, in the first place?
Also, be honest. Sure, she may not like it but just talk to her and tell her that you're not interested in her like that, and that you wish to just be friends.
-
Not to sound cocky or anything but I've been with three different people since New Years. I think I know how to approach girls ;).
Don't get me wrong, who know what could happen in this situation. I'm just saying that I would personally not bother her.
-
^Terrible attitude.
If you approach her and that happens you've wasted ten seconds and maybe bruised your ego slightly. However it may also succeed and you'll never know unless you try.
I'm going to sound pretty hypocritical here due to how difficult I find meeting new people, but you're over thinking this.
I would personally keep walking and not talk to her because I feel like I would be bothering her. Besides, she has horrible taste in shoes.
-
She would probably just tell you to screw off if you approached her anyways.
-
She looks busy, I wouldn't approach her. She would probably just tell me to screw off or something. Also, tentacles aren't a turn on for me ;)
-
Of course every woman is going to have different tastes in men, and they won't always be honest about it. I personally think that more women prefer tall men, but that's not always the case. I say, don't worry about it buddy, height isn't the only factor that's going to make you attractive to someone.
"I want a girlfriend/boyfriend", and other such relationship advice
in Off-Topic
Posted
Foreveralone :'(