"I want a girlfriend/boyfriend", and other such relationship advice

[AnneFrank]

I want a girlfriend can anyone help

[Omar]

I want a girlfriend can anyone help

 

Yeah.

[RpgGamer]

It really sucks being broken up with. I feel like [cabbage], and I miss her.=\

 

 

 

*pats on back* There there. There there.

 

Well you have an excuse to look at other females now. I know it sucks for like a few days or weeks... Offer the same ol' advice. "plenty more fish in the sea"

 

 

 

If you don't mind me asking? Why, did you guys break up :o

 

It's kind of a long and complicated story, not in the mood for explaining it all right now, I'll post later.

 

 

 

Yeah it sucks, but it happens to damn near all of us. There are 6 billion people out there. She just wasn't the right one for you, there's still a few billion to choose from ;)

 

 

 

I want a girlfriend can anyone help

 

Yeah.

 

 

 

:lol:

[Nero]

I want a girlfriend can anyone help

 

 

 

Not really, we just hand around here to laugh at people's stories.

[Someguy42]

Anonymity ftw! :

 

 

 

Anyway, just wanted to hear some people's thoughts on this.

 

 

 

I guess the traditional date involves a movie theatre, or going somewhere, but what do people think of inviting the girl over to your house? I guess people usually don't want to do this to avoid the awkwardness of parents and other siblings around, but what if you're alone? I have 2 brothers, but they've both left home, and quite often, my parents go away for the weekend, or just a day, and I'm home alone. To me, it would be a good opportunity.

 

 

 

I mean, it's private. You don't have to worry about doing things in public.

 

Movie theatre? We can a movie here. What's more, if we don't like it, we can stop, and start another.

 

I can do other things that she might like. For example, I play piano, so I will be able to play her some music. (Apparently girls like guys who play a musical instrument?)

 

 

 

I'm just wondering if there are other reasons that people tend to stray away from this. If you were in my situation, would you use it?

[RpgGamer]

Anonymity ftw! :

 

 

 

Anyway, just wanted to hear some people's thoughts on this.

 

 

 

I guess the traditional date involves a movie theatre, or going somewhere, but what do people think of inviting the girl over to your house? I guess people usually don't want to do this to avoid the awkwardness of parents and other siblings around, but what if you're alone? I have 2 brothers, but they've both left home, and quite often, my parents go away for the weekend, or just a day, and I'm home alone. To me, it would be a good opportunity.

 

 

 

I mean, it's private. You don't have to worry about doing things in public.

 

Movie theatre? We can a movie here. What's more, if we don't like it, we can stop, and start another.

 

I can do other things that she might like. For example, I play piano, so I will be able to play her some music. (Apparently girls like guys who play a musical instrument?)

 

 

 

I'm just wondering if there are other reasons that people tend to stray away from this. If you were in my situation, would you use it?

 

 

 

My only concern is to how the girl would react. Some girls like to be shown off in public.

 

But a bigger reason being, being alone in your house on the first date puts you pretty much #1 on the creeper list. If you ask a girl to your house after just meeting her she'll either say no - or she's a [bleep]. Traditional usually works best for the first date. If you two are already dating, then being alone at your house could be great amounts of fun. And yes, there are other things to do besides each other ;)

[Skill_Caster]

Lolwhut I'm posting for advice on this thread and I'm not using an alt?

 

 

 

I wanted to throw this out there and get some advice...I'll be honest, I'm not a godly ladies man (are any of us?). The couple or so relationships I have had were nothing more than awkward or pity relationships, none of which lasted more then 4 days...

 

 

 

A lot of stuff has happened since my last one, and over that time I have certainly become more attractive-looking and more confident. I could get dates, maybe not from 10s, but average so-so relationships. I have a lot of friends and stuff, life's great...there's just one issue...

 

 

 

This might sound corny, I really don't know. But it seems after every relationship I've been led on, pitied, screwed with, part of the feeling just dies off. The amazing feeling of liking someone? I just don't feel it anymore. I still am attracted to girls and such obviously, but I can't imagine myself being in a relationship with them, or anything. It's like I don't see the point in it anymore. Granted I haven't really had that much experience before, but I just think about movies, dinners, etc; and they don't carry the 'omg<3' feeling anymore...in fact, it seems pointless to me.

 

 

 

So, anyone else experience this? Or, any advice?

[RpgGamer]

Lolwhut I'm posting for advice on this thread and I'm not using an alt?

 

 

 

I wanted to throw this out there and get some advice...I'll be honest, I'm not a godly ladies man (are any of us?). The couple or so relationships I have had were nothing more than awkward or pity relationships, none of which lasted more then 4 days...

 

 

 

A lot of stuff has happened since my last one, and over that time I have certainly become more attractive-looking and more confident. I could get dates, maybe not from 10s, but average so-so relationships. I have a lot of friends and stuff, life's great...there's just one issue...

 

 

 

This might sound corny, I really don't know. But it seems after every relationship I've been led on, pitied, screwed with, part of the feeling just dies off. The amazing feeling of liking someone? I just don't feel it anymore. I still am attracted to girls and such obviously, but I can't imagine myself being in a relationship with them, or anything. It's like I don't see the point in it anymore. Granted I haven't really had that much experience before, but I just think about movies, dinners, etc; and they don't carry the 'omg<3' feeling anymore...in fact, it seems pointless to me.

 

 

 

So, anyone else experience this? Or, any advice?

 

 

 

Believe it or not that's normal. College humor once posted a "phases of relationships through life" list. There were 2 or three times where being sick of relationships, or simply bored were in there. Basically you don't want a relationship right now. Simple as that. Maybe you're too busy, maybe you don't see the point. For you, it looks like the latter. Why are you losing faith in relationships? It could be because you never had a good one, but if you're happy the way you are...why bother changing it? You got a good thing going. You don't need a girl in your life to ruin that. When the time comes, you may find a girl you like and all those "i love relationship" feelings will return. And then you'll post on this thread again about how happy you are and how much you don't wanna screw it up :D

[AnneFrank]

What is a good p lace to take a girl on their first date

[Knotch_Blade]

I should try and give you a hand, because your situation will be 10x harder than mine. I'm just gonna try and ignore the fact that her friends hate me for some reason, because it probably won't have that much of an effect.

 

 

 

For you, I recommend just hanging out with her friends. Forcing friendship onto them. Try one more time, and that's it. If it doesn't work, I recommend moving on, because you'll never get anywhere - and I doubt you're so selfish that you would make her lose all support from her friends and family just for you. Romeo and Juliet were major [wagon]. A whole lot of folks got killed just because they were horny, hormonal teenagers.

 

 

 

She was unhappy being torn between me and her family/friends.

 

 

 

So I told her to stop talking to me... Haven't spoken to her in a few days now...

[Kenshinjapan]

What is a good p lace to take a girl on their first date

 

 

 

Depends, how old are you?

[Iamdan]

Anonymity ftw! :

 

 

 

Anyway, just wanted to hear some people's thoughts on this.

 

 

 

I guess the traditional date involves a movie theatre, or going somewhere, but what do people think of inviting the girl over to your house? I guess people usually don't want to do this to avoid the awkwardness of parents and other siblings around, but what if you're alone? I have 2 brothers, but they've both left home, and quite often, my parents go away for the weekend, or just a day, and I'm home alone. To me, it would be a good opportunity.

 

 

 

I mean, it's private. You don't have to worry about doing things in public.

 

Movie theatre? We can a movie here. What's more, if we don't like it, we can stop, and start another.

 

I can do other things that she might like. For example, I play piano, so I will be able to play her some music. (Apparently girls like guys who play a musical instrument?)

 

 

 

I'm just wondering if there are other reasons that people tend to stray away from this. If you were in my situation, would you use it?

 

 

 

There are logistics issues. She can feel uncomfortable at your place unless you have developed enough comfort, which should be after attracting her. (Again, if you're in high school it's not as important because you need no game anyway) If you have built comfort, invite her over as a casual thing. Just hanging out etc.

 

 

 

As rpg said, unless you have built comfort it's likely to seem creepy and weird, but not definite.

 

 

 

What is a good p lace to take a girl on their first date

 

 

 

Somewhere original, don't go with a movie. I love taking girls ice skating :thumbup: Very few people in australia have done it before so it's fun, original, and I DHV by teaching her.

 

 

 

Play to your strengths. For example if you have a great body take her to the beach.

[fubol]

Soooo , I have started with little conversations ..

 

 

 

Everytime I got a class with this girl (5h/week) or when I walk past her I say a simple 'hi'

 

And sometimes we got small conversations (+MSN conversations \ )

 

 

 

So there is a little progress :

 

Now I'm debating where I should ask her out when I think it is appropriate(Spelled?)..

 

 

 

It is or :

 

 

 

- Fireworks (in 3 weeks , should be more familiar with her by then)

 

- Ice skating (in about a month)

 

 

 

The thing is : I totally suck at ice skating , but I was thinking that this maybe would work in my advantage (If so , tell me how you think this would)

 

 

 

 

 

So what do you guys think?

[The Dark Lord]

What is a good p lace to take a girl on their first date

 

 

 

To eat out at a nice restaurant. ;)

[Boris5000]

It appears I haven't had a relationship problem for awhile now... But since now I'm back at school and now near girls, I'd say that my hormones have chucked themselves up a gear. And now I'm looking at girls like I used to look at them :P

 

 

 

But anyway the real problem is, I lack severe confidence, that is the long story short. But since everyone likes a good read... Well I'll type out some crap for you.

 

 

 

Right, so on friday, first day back I walk into the common room and bam. Theres a new girl and she I'd have to say is very pretty (aren't they all). But anyway, almost like dogs to bones, the more confident boys waltz over and grab her attention before I'm able to get a word in. (I was meeting the other new people... and talking to my friends). So yeah, She is in my class along with the confident boys (yup, unlucky.) Also everytime I have looked up and glanced at her she has been looking at me, even when the other confident boys are talking to her (:o, just what I noticed).I'm not a mind reader ofcourse, I'll just wait till day 2 to see what actually happens... I'm pretty sure she will befriend my female friends and I can get to know her when she is near me xD... Or failing that, there are seating plans and I hope like hell I get lucky... But even then I'll have to hope I feel confident and Mr. Awesome on Monday/Tuesday. She does appear to live close to me...

 

 

 

We do seem to walk the same way... Although she did take a bus, I didn't see where she got off at. :evil:

 

 

 

Yeah, that's basically it... Joy.

 

 

 

Just a bit about me... I am quite loud in the classroom, voicing my opinions as such... Being the first person to get questions wrong as well(not often xD). But I'm never shy around my friends. Just new people, but after a convo has started I can keep it going... Some people say I'm funny too, with my... whats that word... perks?

[ElkNight]

 

"plenty more fish in the sea"

 

 

 

 

"SergioThree: there's other fish in the sea, man, she's just a girl

 

Beatsfromkorea: no dude, that's [cabbage].

 

Beatsfromkorea: Think of it this way. if your precious copy of street fighter third strike broke and i told you "it's ok man, there's other games in the sea. here, play mortal kombat instead" what would you say? you'd be like, "[bleep] that, gimme third strike."

 

SergioThree: ...

 

SergioThree: you just reached me on a level that i never thought possible"

 

 

 

I had to.

[Boris5000]

 

"plenty more fish in the sea"

 

 

 

 

"SergioThree: there's other fish in the sea, man, she's just a girl

 

Beatsfromkorea: no dude, that's [cabbage].

 

Beatsfromkorea: Think of it this way. if your precious copy of street fighter third strike broke and i told you "it's ok man, there's other games in the sea. here, play mortal kombat instead" what would you say? you'd be like, "[bleep] that, gimme third strike."

 

SergioThree: ...

 

SergioThree: you just reached me on a level that i never thought possible"

 

 

 

I had to.

 

 

 

I don't blame you xD

[NinjaChicken]

Lol i can just imagine you voicing your opinions in class in your funny accent :lol: Just play it smooth, dont rush in but dont leave it too late and if you can, talk to her on the way home and on the way to school too :thumbsup:

[Furah]

Lol i can just imagine you voicing your opinions in class in your funny accent :lol: Just play it smooth, dont rush in but dont leave it too late and if you can, talk to her on the way home and on the way to school too :thumbsup:

 

Hey, the Aussie accent is great with foreigners, or in his case, non-foreigners. I've had people interested in me just because of my accent.

[Wongtong]

Lol i can just imagine you voicing your opinions in class in your funny accent :lol: Just play it smooth, dont rush in but dont leave it too late and if you can, talk to her on the way home and on the way to school too :thumbsup:

 

Hey, the Aussie accent is great with foreigners, or in his case, non-foreigners. I've had people interested in me just because of my accent.

 

I think Aussie accents are gross, but maybe it's the whole NZ-Australia rivalry thing.

[RayOxide]

Lol i can just imagine you voicing your opinions in class in your funny accent :lol: Just play it smooth, dont rush in but dont leave it too late and if you can, talk to her on the way home and on the way to school too :thumbsup:

 

Hey, the Aussie accent is great with foreigners, or in his case, non-foreigners. I've had people interested in me just because of my accent.

 

I think Aussie accents are gross, but maybe it's the whole NZ-Australia rivalry thing.

 

 

 

I think NZ accents are kinda funny, but you may not have a NZ accent?

 

Like I dont have a particularly Aussie accent.

 

 

 

Charming as ever.

[Furah]

Lol i can just imagine you voicing your opinions in class in your funny accent :lol: Just play it smooth, dont rush in but dont leave it too late and if you can, talk to her on the way home and on the way to school too :thumbsup:

 

Hey, the Aussie accent is great with foreigners, or in his case, non-foreigners. I've had people interested in me just because of my accent.

 

I think Aussie accents are gross, but maybe it's the whole NZ-Australia rivalry thing.

 

Yeah it is, NZ is kinda like our little brother that we like and all, but nobody can know because we want to remain cool.

[RayOxide]

Lol i can just imagine you voicing your opinions in class in your funny accent :lol: Just play it smooth, dont rush in but dont leave it too late and if you can, talk to her on the way home and on the way to school too :thumbsup:

 

Hey, the Aussie accent is great with foreigners, or in his case, non-foreigners. I've had people interested in me just because of my accent.

 

I think Aussie accents are gross, but maybe it's the whole NZ-Australia rivalry thing.

 

Yeah it is, NZ is kinda like our little brother that we like and all, but nobody can know because we want to remain cool.

 

 

 

How true.

 

Australia is like the attractive older one who gets all the girls and NZ is like the smaller younger one too fragile to do anything manly.

 

:-k.

[Tim]

Lol i can just imagine you voicing your opinions in class in your funny accent :lol: Just play it smooth, dont rush in but dont leave it too late and if you can, talk to her on the way home and on the way to school too :thumbsup:

 

Hey, the Aussie accent is great with foreigners, or in his case, non-foreigners. I've had people interested in me just because of my accent.

 

I think Aussie accents are gross, but maybe it's the whole NZ-Australia rivalry thing.

 

 

 

I think NZ accents are kinda funny, but you may not have a NZ accent?

 

Like I dont have a particularly Aussie accent.

 

 

 

Charming as ever.

 

You and me both. I don't honestly HAVE an aussie accent. I have a boring, low toned voice that hasn't broke and will never due to genetics. which sucks

[Kalphite]

[hide=Background as of August 28]Alright, after posting this, most people here said i should make a move within a week or so. Seeing as a week has passed, I figured I should give an update.

 

 

 

Basically, I didn't really make any more advances, and I really don't think I'm going to. I went to band camp thinking about how I should attempt to advance things there. There was a lot of free time and most of the drum line hung out together, so I spent more time with her in person rather than texting. After getting to know her more, I decided that I honestly would rather have her as a friend than try to make something more out of it and that I didn't really want to date her or anything anymore.

 

 

 

However, wednesday was the day of the dance at camp. It was a lot of fun, despite the fact that I haven't the slightest clue how to dance. However, something sort of significant happened, otherwise I wouldn't be mentioning it. At one point I left my friends for a minute and was standing there, and she just came up to me and asked me if i danced. I was caught off guard and responded that I didn't know how, which she responded with an "oh" and walked away to rejoin some of her friends. After that I realized how stupid that probably was on my part and proceeded to mentally facepalm for the rest of the night. After the last song she hugged me, but I realize that that probably doesn't mean much to you people.

 

 

 

Nothing else of that sort really happened on thursday or today aside from her basically convincing me more to join lighting in drama. I've basically decided not to pursue anything anymore because after spending more time with her I am fairly positive that she is not attracted to me and that any sort of relationship like that would just be utterly awkward. I guess things might change again, but I'm content with how things are now.

[/hide]

 

 

 

I didn't expect to have to bring this up again, but now more stuff happened and figured I should share, I guess. After I posted that, things still kept going to a let's just be friends sort of area, especially since she started dating some other guy before we even left for away band camp. I was fine with this, and was starting to get over it a bit. I mean, after she threw me into a pool at a party we were both at (marching band football afterparty thing), I figured I was basically friendzoned if anything xD.

 

 

 

Then, at midnight last night, she started texting me. I asked what was up and she said she was just laying in bed and thinking about homecoming and school starting up soon. I tried to ignore any sort of connotation and said I was just working on an essay and I wasn't too worried about homecoming (I pretty much figured nothing would happen with her and I doubted I would meet anyone in that first month). She then asked if I was taking anyone, and I replied I would probably just end up going with some friends. Then she told me that she just broke up with her boyfriend and didn't have a date.

 

 

 

I asked her if she would just be going with friends then, and she said, "I guess if the boy I ask doesn't want to go with me lol." After this I figured it was a bit obvious where things were going, so I asked if i knew whoever it was and she said "Kinda lol." I figured it was probably already obvious to her by then what I thought of her and asked who it was, adding that obviously if she didn't want to tell me she didn't have to. She replied to this by telling me not to worry about it and that I would see when she asked him.

 

 

 

From this, I basically assumed it was either going to be me or someone else on drum line, seeing as she doesn't really talk to anyone else I talk with usually. Am I right in thinking this, or is it more likely that she's screwing with my head or something?