Ammako Posted April 18, 2015 Share Posted April 18, 2015 It is done, and everything went several orders of magnitude better than expected. <3: 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Boris5000 Posted April 18, 2015 Share Posted April 18, 2015 Well now you have to share the gory details! (I'm kidding you don't) Luck be a Lady Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RpgGamer Posted April 18, 2015 Share Posted April 18, 2015 Glad it worked out :) Quote Quote Anyone who likes tacos is incapable of logic. Anyone who likes logic is incapable of tacos. PSA: SaqPrets is an Estonian Dude Steam: NippleBeardTM Origin: Brand_New_iPwn Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Estonian dude Posted April 18, 2015 Share Posted April 18, 2015 Aaand I have ended up with a pretty girl... Who is a bit on the smaller side. In fact she probably fits in my backpack.In my custom-made backpack that can hold 140 litres and was built with metal frame n shit and is meant for longer than week long hikes.But still, she is pretty small and cute.Only thing is, we are both pretty shy, especially in bed, so I don't know how to get things going. So I've noticed this thread's regulars all follow similar trends. RPG is constantly dealing with psycho exes.Muggi reminds us of the joys of polygamy.Saq is totally oblivious to how much chicks dig him.I strike out every other week.Kalphite wages a war against the friend zone.Randox pretty much stays rational.Etc, etc Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Riku3220 Posted April 18, 2015 Share Posted April 18, 2015 Did Saq just tell us more about his custom backpack than he did about this girl? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Major Dash Posted April 18, 2015 Share Posted April 18, 2015 I too am a fan of backpacking, but who uses external frame backpacks these days? “I had a feeling we weren’t coming back from this fight when it began.”“Do you have any regrets?”“I don’t. It seems surprising, I know, but I wouldn’t change a thing. This is how it was meant to be.”“Huh, you never really notice how lovely the day is until you realize you’ll never see it again.”“Mmmhmm.” Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RpgGamer Posted April 18, 2015 Share Posted April 18, 2015 Bahahahahaha Quote Quote Anyone who likes tacos is incapable of logic. Anyone who likes logic is incapable of tacos. PSA: SaqPrets is an Estonian Dude Steam: NippleBeardTM Origin: Brand_New_iPwn Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Boris5000 Posted April 18, 2015 Share Posted April 18, 2015 Only thing is, we are both pretty shy, especially in bed, so I don't know how to get things going. Foreplay? Like, srsly? Luck be a Lady Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Low Levelled Posted April 18, 2015 Share Posted April 18, 2015 Just take charge Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hedgehog Posted April 18, 2015 Share Posted April 18, 2015 Touch her [bleep]oris 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Iamdan Posted April 18, 2015 Share Posted April 18, 2015 Only thing is, we are both pretty shy, especially in bed, so I don't know how to get things going.You're the man, take the lead. Encourage her to express herself, try different things and calibrate with her reactions. If you're awkward then she will feel awkward. If you're comfortable she will be too. No means no, but otherwise do what you want to her. Also keep in mind that with women, it's all about creating the right vibe and environment. It's more mental than physical. A few women have asked me how do I seem to know exactly what they want and even knowing speed and pressure and finding "special spots." The truth is I'm just dominant and whatever I do seems like a good idea to them. (Hopefully that makes sense) sex god method isn't too bad of a skim through. Lots of stuff in there I think is off target or bullshit so take it with a grain of salt but the gist is good. Also tease her, do it more than you think is appropriate. My girlfriend told me that a few guys shes been with said they liked to tease but didn't end up doing it much but that I certainly did. Sometimes she swears at me and hits me because I'm not giving her what she wants but thanks me afterwards. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Iamdan Posted April 18, 2015 Share Posted April 18, 2015 Double post 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
champion Posted April 19, 2015 Share Posted April 19, 2015 sup everyone. haven't posted on tif for a few weeks. here's where i was about a month and a half ago: [hide]So, here I am again. With a situation that's pretty significantly different from my last one (the whole thing with the girl who had a boyfriend. It was a quick casual thing and we never contacted each other again and I don't care lol. She was kind of crazy). This post will hopefully help me clear my mind and put the situation in perspective. Also welcoming any input/advice/whatever. About a month ago I started chatting with this girl on Tinder. We exchanged numbers, casually texted back and forth for a week or so before hanging out for the first time, which was like 3 weeks ago (seems longer). It wasn't established as being a "date" or anything, we both just seemed like cool people to each other and wanted to meet each other. I was the only person she's ever met off Tinder, it was really a big coincidence that it even happened in the first place. We both just had a couple beers and walked around downtown at night talking, goofing around, skateboarding, etc. We ended up learning that we have an insane amount of stuff in common. We're both psych majors, both have the exact same Myers-Briggs personality type, both enjoy weird goofy humor (like the Eric Andre Show), among a ton of other weird little coincidences. She's incredibly easy to talk to, like I don't think I've ever talked to a girl where we could just talk for hours without it getting awkward in the slightest. She's lived an incredibly interesting life and has all sorts of awesome stories. Oh, I also find her very physically attractive. Needless to say, I'm completely infatuated. We've hung out two other times, the latest being a couple days ago. It was pretty similar to the first time we hung out, we got drunk and walked around and talked for hours. We ended up going back to her place and smoking cigarettes by the beach, talking more. It got really late and I didn't have any good way to get back home, so I stayed the night at her place, which she was fine with offering. It's worth noting that all the while leading up to this we still both just seemed to consider each other friends. That whole night hanging out we both seemed to be pretty flirty, and the majority of it was on her part. Nothing super obvious, just brief-ish arm and leg touches and stuff. We fell asleep in the same bed together, again with a lot of physical closeness but nothing expressing explicit romance (also to be fair it was a really big bed so it's not like we were exactly cuddling). I know that at this point in the story, it might seem like the obvious response is "dude you were in the same bed, she was being kind of flirty, and you like her, why didn't you make a move?" Believe me, I've asked myself the same thing. But I think it goes back to the infatuation thing. I'm at this point where I'm so infatuated with her as a person that I didn't have the balls to just be like "[bleep] it, I don't care if I get rejected, I could get over it pretty quick." If she'd rejected me, I probably would've been pretty [bleep]in' crushed. It'd be nice to have that closure, but our friendship that we both value would've been significantly more awkward, if it didn't just end right then and there. It's kind of a double edged sword though even if she did want to pursue something with me. I'm only here in Seattle until June for school until I go back home for the summer, and next fall she's entering college somewhere in California, so if we were to have a "thing," whatever that might be, it'd just be for like 3 months. She recently broke up with a long-term boyfriend of hers due to distance, so it's not like realistically we'd be able to last. She's going back to California for like a week or something to get her wisdom teeth removed, but I can only assume we'll hang out again not long after she gets back. After rambling up to this point, the only conclusion I'm coming to is that next time we meet up I should just explain to her my feelings (in a more articulate, less needy-sounding way than this post haha). Weighing the costs and benefits here, I think there'd be a lot more long term self-loathing if I never told her how I felt and there was this weird sexual tension between us before drifting apart than I would if I just got flat-out denied. And of course there's always the chance that she reciprocates my feelings, which would be great (up until we'd stop seeing each other after a few months but OH WELL). As you can tell by now, I overanalyze shit way too much. It's weird with girls, I'm either fine with hooking up, have pretty high self-confidence and I don't get attached at all or I fall desperately into the snares of 'oneitis' and doubt everything I do, which I'm experiencing now. There never seems to be an in-between. But this post helped confirm that I just gotta grow a pair and let her know how I feel rather than deal with this anxiety and lack of closure forever. Anyways, thanks to anyone who read this and wants to give any input, it was cathartic for me at least.[/hide] and then there's where i am now, in case anyone's curious. it's kind of weird looking back on that post and seeing how much i cared, but it's not like i regret it really cuz my feelings were genuine. so yeah, things with that girl progressed. wish i'd made a move sooner rather than later, but alas that's another good lesson from this whole thing. we kissed for the first time last week and we had sex a couple days ago. lots of mixed emotions about it, i'm simultaneously stoked about it because she's gorgeous and a really interesting awesome person, but i'm also just sorta ... bummed i guess? because of the fact that i know this thing has an expiration date of less than 2 months on it, since i move back home at the end of the quarter. i kind of wish we could do the whole relationship thing even just for now, but i think we both know that just wouldn't really work. i also just seem to have more feelings for her than she does for me, but i think i'm good in terms of not showing neediness, however much i may feel it. i'm planning on just continuing what we have and seeing where it goes. i already know i'm gonna get pretty bummed when it's over, so i guess i'm just trying to deal with those feelings now so they sting less later. but i also am just trying to enjoy the present moment as much as i can, because what i have is pretty objectively great from any outsider's perspective. i'd like to have a more serious conversation with her about where things stand though, because i hate all the grey area of this whole situation. overall i'm just trying to look at this as a really good learning experience/confidence booster, as much as it'll suck when it's done. but if anyone has any related experience, advice, input, whatever, feel free to throw it at me! 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muggiwhplar Posted April 19, 2015 Share Posted April 19, 2015 You're still way ahead of the average Joe, good job. Keep using Tinder and keep dating as much as you can while you're seeing her. If you aren't making her orgasm every time you bang, that should be your highest priority. That way, when she's gone in a couple of months, you'll have a new mindset: "It's really easy to meet hot women like her" and "It's really easy to be sexual around women because women like having sex with me." Most guys have the opposite belief of "dating's really difficult and scary, and I'll never find another girl like this one" and "sex is really awkward" etc Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Low Levelled Posted April 19, 2015 Share Posted April 19, 2015 Nobody knows why I can't stop ta Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Iamdan Posted April 19, 2015 Share Posted April 19, 2015 overall i'm just trying to look at this as a really good learning experience/confidence booster, as much as it'll suck when it's done. but if anyone has any related experience, advice, input, whatever, feel free to throw it at me!At least you've learned from it. Being afraid to make a move because you might get rejected is needy behavior. I had something similar with my ex but it was 4 years instead of 3 months. Things sucked for a couple months, especially since I lost my job at the same time but I'm glad I dated her. I learned a lot and had a great time while it lasted. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Estonian dude Posted April 19, 2015 Share Posted April 19, 2015 I thought you guys knew I am weird like that. Well, apparently we are a couple now...I still can't imagine what I messed myself in this time. So I've noticed this thread's regulars all follow similar trends. RPG is constantly dealing with psycho exes.Muggi reminds us of the joys of polygamy.Saq is totally oblivious to how much chicks dig him.I strike out every other week.Kalphite wages a war against the friend zone.Randox pretty much stays rational.Etc, etc Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RpgGamer Posted April 19, 2015 Share Posted April 19, 2015 Have fun in the present. Let the pain of tomorrow be tomorrows problem Quote Quote Anyone who likes tacos is incapable of logic. Anyone who likes logic is incapable of tacos. PSA: SaqPrets is an Estonian Dude Steam: NippleBeardTM Origin: Brand_New_iPwn Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kalphite Posted April 22, 2015 Share Posted April 22, 2015 Just had the most awkward end to a date ever lol. We just got coffee and we had a shitton in common and I thought it was going well. After it ended we were walking the same way for a little while and eventually we hit the point where I was going to split off to go back to my apartment. I tried giving her a hug goodbye and she looked at me, said sorry, and started walking off in a different direction. So [bleep]ing awkward lol, didn't really know what to do so I just kinda stood there and laughed for a second before walking home. gg Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
champion Posted April 22, 2015 Share Posted April 22, 2015 lol that's bizarre. all you can do is laugh it off. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RpgGamer Posted April 22, 2015 Share Posted April 22, 2015 Pls respond Quote Quote Anyone who likes tacos is incapable of logic. Anyone who likes logic is incapable of tacos. PSA: SaqPrets is an Estonian Dude Steam: NippleBeardTM Origin: Brand_New_iPwn Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Estonian dude Posted April 23, 2015 Share Posted April 23, 2015 God-[bleep]ing-Damn.Didn't expect that it would start off so intense. This time I really am in a pickle.Sent her off 5 PM today and gonna see her again tomorrow.She is in over her heels, I know that if I would make it public I'd break a few hearts...And yet I still also think of the "ex". So I've noticed this thread's regulars all follow similar trends. RPG is constantly dealing with psycho exes.Muggi reminds us of the joys of polygamy.Saq is totally oblivious to how much chicks dig him.I strike out every other week.Kalphite wages a war against the friend zone.Randox pretty much stays rational.Etc, etc Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Low Levelled Posted April 23, 2015 Share Posted April 23, 2015 I don't really understand how this is a problem. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
muggiwhplar Posted April 23, 2015 Share Posted April 23, 2015 Just had the most awkward end to a date ever lol. We just got coffee and we had a shitton in common and I thought it was going well. After it ended we were walking the same way for a little while and eventually we hit the point where I was going to split off to go back to my apartment. I tried giving her a hug goodbye and she looked at me, said sorry, and started walking off in a different direction. So [bleep]ing awkward lol, didn't really know what to do so I just kinda stood there and laughed for a second before walking home. gg who the [bleep] rejects a hug hahahaha sounds like a weirdo 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Estonian dude Posted April 23, 2015 Share Posted April 23, 2015 I have gotten rejected for a hug. Granted, I had totally [bleep]ed up that time, but still. And the problem for me is, that I still think of another, for me now unreachable high. But now, come to think of it, I have made a move 6 times and I have gotten rejected thrice. That's quite a bit better than average, isn't it?And twice they have been so good, that other guys also want them and I have lost friendships because of it... So I've noticed this thread's regulars all follow similar trends. RPG is constantly dealing with psycho exes.Muggi reminds us of the joys of polygamy.Saq is totally oblivious to how much chicks dig him.I strike out every other week.Kalphite wages a war against the friend zone.Randox pretty much stays rational.Etc, etc Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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