Jump to content

"I want a girlfriend/boyfriend", and other such relationship advice


Da_Latios

Recommended Posts

"Played with her pet bird" WINK

 

I wouldn't count her out of the running just yet. I'm on board with Ring's theory that she might not have wanted to sleep with you on the first date for a reason outside of your control. But if no second date lay, then Id agree that shes a tease and not worth your time. Maybe if I was there for the sexual history/relationship end of the conversation I'd have a better Idea as to which it really is.

Quote

 

Quote

Anyone who likes tacos is incapable of logic.

Anyone who likes logic is incapable of tacos.

 

PSA: SaqPrets is an Estonian Dude

Steam: NippleBeardTM

Origin: Brand_New_iPwn

Link to comment
Share on other sites

be more specific, you're probably doing something wrong :P

 

Well, I'm working graveyards for the summer as a favour for my management (plus my hours increase to like 40-44 hours a week from like 30). This girl used to come in all the time with her friend to study for her summer courses. She's solid 10/10 and is finishing up her degree before she'll start her second one (same one I'm doing; Medical Science) and we really hit it off. I finally took up the courage to ask for her number which she enthusiastically gave me. We hung out late at night on our days off (go see the stars, go see the sunrise/sunset and get ice cream or whatever) or whenever and she used to come in every morning before work to see me. We went to see a concert one night and got drunk so I walked her home. We held hands and kissed at her house. We held hands a lot and I had my arm around her whenever we watched the sunset or watched a movie together after that. We were pretty much dating (I did hint at the possibility of us dating, but she said she wants to stay single for now and see where this leads). 

 

Ultimately, this changed almost overnight when me, her and my best friend hung out. I did get jealous because he was extremely touchy feely with her (touching her almost constantly, arm around her, shit like that). I told him off silently, but he kept doing it, so obviously I got pissed off at him. Thing is, he already has a girlfriend so it made me even more aggravated. What sucks is that I don't have my own car, so it's either her or him driving. So I'm always the one stuck at the back almost third wheeling. It seems to be the case every time we hang out now. So I don't know if I can hang out with them both now. My friend wants me to hang out when they both go out because he doesn't want her to fall for him but ... the damage has already been done. One time I ditched them to hang out with another friend, but it seemed to put me in more of the dog house with her it seems... (them hanging alone watching the sunset instead of us three going out).

 

Anyway, she gradually starts pulling away from me. She's not texting me as much (plus they're less relationshippy than they used to be; she doesn't send hearts or things like that either anymore) and the snapchats she sends me are less racy (she used to send my snapchat pics of her in the shower, except covering everything up... or nudging me that she's in her room naked, etc.) That's when I started to notice she started getting closer with my friend. He admits that he put his arm around her while they watched the stars together because he "thought he was with his girlfriend for a split second" which I immediately knew was bullshit and called him out on it. Plus now whenever we hang out she always seems to want him to come along. 

 

Tl;dr my best friend of three years stole this girl away from me despite him already having a girlfriend (he's a bit of a douchebag with a flashy new car and is just more socially confident than I am to say the least). I also didn't make a move fast enough and took it slow because of the trainwreck of my previous relationship I guess. So I'm trying to move on despite meeting the best girl I'll probably ever meet in my life. And no, I'm not being dramatic. Literally 10/10 body/face, stable personality, she's in a rich family (when her mom dies she'll be a millionaire), she's hard working and we clicked pretty well. God dammit.  :wall:

 

Also, this girl I was dating previously came back into my life at the same time. I'm sort of iffy about this because she seems like a whole box of crazy. 

j0xPu5R.png

Link to comment
Share on other sites

If your friend is cockblocking you, he's not your friend

 

also, she's not a special snowflake. as much as you may feel like it right now there are millions of women out there who are just as good as her or better.

  • Like 4

polvCwJ.gif
"It's not a rest for me, it's a rest for the weights." - Dom Mazzetti

Link to comment
Share on other sites

If your friend is cockblocking you, he's not your friend

 

also, she's not a special snowflake. as much as you may feel like it right now there are millions of women out there who are just as good as her or better.

 

Pretty much this.

 

Good job touching/kissing her and asking for her number. Bad job doing romantic stuff like watching the sunset w/ a girl who you haven't slept with yet-- you kinda just friend zoned yourself by doing girly, wimpy shit like that lol

77yLQy8.png

Link to comment
Share on other sites

 

If your friend is cockblocking you, he's not your friend

 

also, she's not a special snowflake. as much as you may feel like it right now there are millions of women out there who are just as good as her or better.

 

Pretty much this.

 

Good job touching/kissing her and asking for her number. Bad job doing romantic stuff like watching the sunset w/ a girl who you haven't slept with yet-- you kinda just friend zoned yourself by doing girly, wimpy shit like that lol

 

Was her idea. Not mine. She invited me inside the day I walked her home, but you know, sleeping with a drunk girl is bad on so many levels.

j0xPu5R.png

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Didnt sleep with her when you had the chance and she slipped away. Definitely blows. Also your friend sucks and isn't your friend.

Quote

 

Quote

Anyone who likes tacos is incapable of logic.

Anyone who likes logic is incapable of tacos.

 

PSA: SaqPrets is an Estonian Dude

Steam: NippleBeardTM

Origin: Brand_New_iPwn

Link to comment
Share on other sites

 

 

If your friend is cockblocking you, he's not your friend

 

also, she's not a special snowflake. as much as you may feel like it right now there are millions of women out there who are just as good as her or better.

 

Pretty much this.

 

Good job touching/kissing her and asking for her number. Bad job doing romantic stuff like watching the sunset w/ a girl who you haven't slept with yet-- you kinda just friend zoned yourself by doing girly, wimpy shit like that lol

 

Was her idea. Not mine. She invited me inside the day I walked her home, but you know, sleeping with a drunk girl is bad on so many levels.

 

 

in the future if a girl suggests stupid stuff like that, just say no :D

77yLQy8.png

Link to comment
Share on other sites

 

 

 

If your friend is cockblocking you, he's not your friend

 

also, she's not a special snowflake. as much as you may feel like it right now there are millions of women out there who are just as good as her or better.

 

Pretty much this.

 

Good job touching/kissing her and asking for her number. Bad job doing romantic stuff like watching the sunset w/ a girl who you haven't slept with yet-- you kinda just friend zoned yourself by doing girly, wimpy shit like that lol

 

Was her idea. Not mine. She invited me inside the day I walked her home, but you know, sleeping with a drunk girl is bad on so many levels.

 

 

in the future if a girl suggests stupid stuff like that, just say no :D

 

Thing is, we're both the outdoorsy adventure types, so those kind of activities are kind of a mutual interest. In my opinion (now that I have a clear head) what ruined it was my reaction to my friend (it got blown out of proportion by said friend) and also me not making a move fast enough. Obviously if someone else is clearly jumping in there doing what I didn't do, then it's pretty clear why it got [bleep]ed up.

  • Like 2

j0xPu5R.png

Link to comment
Share on other sites

 

Thing is, we're both the outdoorsy adventure types, so those kind of activities are kind of a mutual interest. In my opinion (now that I have a clear head) what ruined it was my reaction to my friend (it got blown out of proportion by said friend) and also me not making a move fast enough. Obviously if someone else is clearly jumping in there doing what I didn't do, then it's pretty clear why it got [bleep]ed up.

 

The bold bit pretty much sums it up.  

I am no expert but I think girls tend to like decisive guys who know exactly what they want without putting pressure on them.

I don't think you were going about it that wrongly, if she was sending you racy Snaps then it was probably going the right way and the chemistry would probably have increased into something better, but your 'friend' has shafted you. Which is something he shouldn't be doing because a) he's supposed to be your friend - a good friend would leave you to it or even help you out if you needed actual help with the situation, and b) he has a gf so that's extra wrong on his part. 

 

I don't really have a problem at all, but we think a girl who works with my boyfriend might like him. He's walked her home twice and I've encouraged him to do it when he can because they finish at 12am as well as the fact that she's 19 and new to the area so I wouldn't want her walking home alone. She confides in my boyfriend quite a lot and "jokingly" asked him to go to a theme park with him. She also goes overboard and calls him her best friend at work, even though she's only worked there for a matter of days. She always says "You're the best at doing task x, y or z" to him at work and does not really say anything like that to anybody else. I am not uncomfortable with anything so far and her life seems like a bit of a mess. She doesn't know who her parents are and she's a week pregnant. The guy who got her pregnant is an ex-boyfriend who wants her to keep it but wants nothing to do with the baby until the child is 5. The landlord for her flat wants to throw her out of her place because she's pregnant so it's a bit tricky figuring out what we can or can't do...

 

My boyfriend quits work in two weeks to get ready for Uni as well so we have no idea what she'll do. 

He's added her on Facebook to make it kind of clear that he's in a relationship but this was all speculation and she might not like him in that way at all.

  • Like 1
Link to comment
Share on other sites

Agreed Ring. If you sent a girl a dick pic (don't, but for the sake of example) and she responds with anything other than something sexual you'd take it as she wasn't into it.

 

@Muffin

sounds like her life is shit and your bf is quitting soon so you shouldn't have to give her a second thought in 2 weeks. Fly any closer to that sun and you'll burn your wings

  • Like 1
Quote

 

Quote

Anyone who likes tacos is incapable of logic.

Anyone who likes logic is incapable of tacos.

 

PSA: SaqPrets is an Estonian Dude

Steam: NippleBeardTM

Origin: Brand_New_iPwn

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Agreed Ring. If you sent a girl a dick pic (don't, but for the sake of example) and she responds with anything other than something sexual you'd take it as she wasn't into it.

 

@Muffin

sounds like her life is shit and your bf is quitting soon so you shouldn't have to give her a second thought in 2 weeks. Fly any closer to that sun and you'll burn your wings

 

I feel really bad for her, so much gone wrong so early in life. But yeah, I am sympathetic from a distance, hope she sorts her life out because it's sad.

  • Like 1
Link to comment
Share on other sites

[hide]

 

 

 

 

 

If your friend is cockblocking you, he's not your friend

also, she's not a special snowflake. as much as you may feel like it right now there are millions of women out there who are just as good as her or better.

 

Pretty much this.

 

Good job touching/kissing her and asking for her number. Bad job doing romantic stuff like watching the sunset w/ a girl who you haven't slept with yet-- you kinda just friend zoned yourself by doing girly, wimpy shit like that lol

 

Was her idea. Not mine. She invited me inside the day I walked her home, but you know, sleeping with a drunk girl is bad on so many levels.

 

 

in the future if a girl suggests stupid stuff like that, just say no :D

 

Thing is, we're both the outdoorsy adventure types, so those kind of activities are kind of a mutual interest. In my opinion (now that I have a clear head) what ruined it was my reaction to my friend (it got blown out of proportion by said friend) and also me not making a move fast enough. Obviously if someone else is clearly jumping in there doing what I didn't do, then it's pretty clear why it got [bleep]ed up.

 

 

Well if she was sending nudes and you weren't saying that you want to bang her and then having a conversation about sexual preferences then she probably took that as your not that into her

 

[/hide]

 

It's not like I said "nice" and walked away from the conversation after she sent me those. Just throwing it out there. 

j0xPu5R.png

Link to comment
Share on other sites

I was talking to a girl on Tinder and got invited to her place tomorrow night to "show her how to torrent anime". I can't find anything on Google but I'm pretty sure that's some kind of new-age slang for sex. I'll let you guys know what happens.

 

UPDATE: Ended up not going. She didn't want me over while her roommates were home and she didn't want to come to my place either. Future isn't looking so bright since she's been responding slower and with less content. Oh well, onto the next one.

  • Like 3
lighviolet1lk4.jpg
Link to comment
Share on other sites

I went to a party school. I've been attempting to socialize so much I literally have blisters on my feet from walking around as much as I have been. I still don't have any friends and nobody wants to do anything with me. I've been initiating everything. I've introduced myself to probably at least 100 people by this point (forgot to mention I'm talking to both males and females) and I think maybe 3 or 4 of them have said hi to me in the ~week I've been here. Other than sleeping, I think the time it's taking me to type this is the longest I've been in solitude since I've got here. There's no point in exhausting myself as much as I have been anymore because classes start on Tuesday and I want to be well-rested. Nobody wants anything to do with me. Even the couple of people that I've spent time with outside of school with at my old community college that are now also at the same school as me keep making excuses to not interact with me. I've been inviting people everywhere pretty much every time I've left my room. Now you can go back to circle-jerking about how I'm not doing this or that right or I'm not putting enough effort in or whatever. I've been going [bleep]ing balls-to-the-wall trying to put myself out there and be friendly since the second I stepped on campus. Just in case anyone was curious.

 

P.S.

Navigating to specific pages on your mobile site sucks. Someone should make it not suck.

  • Like 1
Link to comment
Share on other sites

Horatio! Good to see you! And good effort! Maybe tweak your approach and phrasing a bit but it sounds like you're on the right path! Keep up the social spirit!

  • Like 2
Quote

 

Quote

Anyone who likes tacos is incapable of logic.

Anyone who likes logic is incapable of tacos.

 

PSA: SaqPrets is an Estonian Dude

Steam: NippleBeardTM

Origin: Brand_New_iPwn

Link to comment
Share on other sites

In other news...

 

On OKC whenever I message a girl I "hide" her profile from my search results since there's no point in having her pop up again if I've already messaged her.

 

Sometimes I'll be left with only unattractive girls on my search results so I hide them too.

 

Interestingly, as soon as I hide the last girl so there's 0 girls left in the search results, suddenly OKC will show me about a dozen new girls I've never seen before >_> I've yet to run out of hot women to message by abusing this lol

77yLQy8.png

Link to comment
Share on other sites

  • 2 weeks later...

It's only gay if the penises touch.

19509_s.gif

 

“I had a feeling we weren’t coming back from this fight when it began.”

“Do you have any regrets?”

“I don’t. It seems surprising, I know, but I wouldn’t change a thing. This is how it was meant to be.”

“Huh, you never really notice how lovely the day is until you realize you’ll never see it again.”

“Mmmhmm.”

 

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now
×
×
  • Create New...

Important Information

By using this site, you agree to our Terms of Use.