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Made a subtle, but significant, change to my profile text on the dating sites. Changed a part from "I don't like giving orders or being told what to do..." to "I don't like giving orders outside the bedroom or being told what to do."

 

Response rate and first date rate have gone WAY up! Lots of hot girls initiating contact w/ me too. Wish Ginger still posted here so I could be like, "See! I told you girls prefer dominant guys!" :P

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Not like she's your girlfriend dude

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when a girl hangs out with you and is touching and cuddling with you the whole night and texts you three days later saying she's going on a date with another guy >>>>>>>>>>>

When you say "cuddling the whole night," that sounds like friendzone behavior. You should be getting sexual instead; and if she isn't into you sexually, then you leave

 

Sex precedes cuddling. Otherwise you get friendzoned

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Not necessarily.

 

Some girls don't jump at the idea of sex on first date or whatnot. Cuddling might be the most they are willing to take it.

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So I've noticed this thread's regulars all follow similar trends.

 

RPG is constantly dealing with psycho exes.

Muggi reminds us of the joys of polygamy.

Saq is totally oblivious to how much chicks dig him.

I strike out every other week.

Kalphite wages a war against the friend zone.

Randox pretty much stays rational.

Etc, etc

 

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That's true in highs school saq, not the real world

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If I was given the chance from a hot guy who managed to turn me on, i'd jump into bed with him in a heartbeat. Mind you I'm also picky with guys as I dont dig "daddys" or 18 year old idiots which limits me because that's all that's here :v

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Not necessarily.

 

Some girls don't jump at the idea of sex on first date or whatnot. Cuddling might be the most they are willing to take it.

If they dont put out on the first date but they'll put out on the second or third, cuddling on the first date will only hurt your chances and make you look like a "nice guy" to them

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I'd say that if you're cuddling you're miles ahead of someone in the friendzone. Who cuddles with their friends?

Most women

My experience with female friends is vastly different than yours it seems.

Aren't you a virgin though >_>

 

My point is: cuddling with a woman isn't something you should be celebrating since if you haven't banged her yet, it's only going to make it more difficult to bang her in the future.

 

I get the feeling that some of you guys are falling into the trap of being affectionate and loving towards women first, and expecting sex (and a relationship) to just fall nicely into place afterwards. That's not how it works unless your goal is to have a platonic friendship. If you want long-term happiness then sex comes first, affection comes second.

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Here I'll just quote an old post from a mentor of mine which sums up my thoughts on the friendzone (and cuddling, etc):

 

 

We have 2 needs.

Until you balance these 2 needs your life with women will be in conflict.


Need 1: Sexual Debauchery

[bleep]s
Facials
Handjobs
Threesomes
Quickies
Thongs
Bangin' Asses
Sluts
Big [bleep]

Need 2: Feminine Energy

Cute
Smiles
Bright Eyes
Enthusiasm
Reassurance
Laughter
Snuggle
Beauty
Kindness
Shy look
Inspiration
Compassion
Adventure
Art, Poetry
Soft
Peace


1.

Guys with 1itis (who haven't had sex with the girl yet) have too much Need 2
and suppress Need 1.

That's fine, but the goal is to start a SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP with a woman.

For some strange reason sex gets her more emotionally and physically invested
in you (go figure) giving you a much better chance of enjoying her
feminine essence for a MUCH longer time in a MUCH better role.

I'm convinced these guys don't want to [bleep] their 1itis. They are content
just basking in her feminine aura (need 2).

IOW, they're just happy to be there.

My friend asked me how he could "get" this girl he's liked since high
school.

I told him he will never get her because I believe he doesn't really want to
[bleep] her.

He is so awed by her feminine energy he can't believe that she wants to be
taken and [bleep]ed hard.

Thus he doesn't project & subcom enough sexuality around her, thus he will
never seduce her, thus he will never "GET" her

These types can't or don't want to picture their special girl as a sexual
being so they subconsciously neuter themselves and become her gal pal in the
hopes of spending more time around her and sucking up her feminine essence
like a vampire.

We tell these guys to GFTOW but they really just need to learn how to want to
[bleep] ONE woman. Their 1itis.

Until they realize that the same "special" woman in which they experienced
true feminine beauty (list 2) is the same woman who would truly ENJOY
deepthroating their [rooster], they will never have the sexual vibe/presence necessary
to SEDUCE their 1itis and lead her to the bedroom.

Getting the girl MEANS starting a sexual relationship.

When you become needy for FEMININE ENERGY you forget about your sexual
drive.

It's much harder to start a sexual relationship (get the girl) when sex is
5th on the list of things you want from her. Right after self esteem,
compassion, understanding, and a cute smile.

It's funny because women think all guys are only after one thing, sex.

If they only knew how many guys hang around just to leech off their feminine
energy due to their own NEEDINESS, they would be shocked.


2.

I enjoy feminine energy and sex equally.

In fact, if someone asked me why I am here and what my goals are, I would
say...

- To have more sex
- To be around & enjoy feminine energy

But when I was younger I had 2 problems

1. I had a NEEDY desire for feminine energy
2. I suppressed my true sexual desires

IOW, my NEEDY desire for the feminine outweighed even my desire to get a
[bleep].

As you can imagine this lowered my sexual drive around the girls I really
liked.

This always led to not [bleep]ing them, thus only getting to enjoy their
feminine energy the few times I was around them as the "friend". The sexually
confident guys got the [bleep] and got to enjoy their feminine energy.
Bastards! LOL

These girls could sense my NEEDINESS

Not my neediness for SEX... but my neediness for the FEMININE.

For their softness, their beauty, their love, their kindness, their
reassurance.

I was not a man yet.

I had to learn to be happy being alone.

I had to learn to love myself first.

After a long journey I can now enjoy feminine energy but I don't NEED it.


I appreciate it and I want it in my life... but I don't NEED it and I am
definitely not afraid of it.

I step to women as a sexual man first, never apologizing for my desires...but
besides sex, I love feminine energy.

I tried to explain it in words, but no matter how you define it, feminine
energy is one of the great pleasures in life.

3.

The so called "bad boys" do good with women because they are tuned into need
#1 and don't apologize for it.

They have the sexual threat part down.

This is attractive to women.

But, some of these guys (as tough as they act) are scared of need #2.

THEY FEAR THE FEMININE

Thus, they call all girls sluts and [bleep]

They are scared to have relationships. (see LG thread below).

Some men who get burned by the feminine become bitter and only focus on need
1.

"All girls are sluts blah, blah, blah"

If you think like this you are also out of balance

* * * * *

Tap into the power of need 1 and let it enhance your overall sexual presence.


Never be ashamed or apologize for it. Even your special snowflake would
rather you want her because you find her sexy than because you want to hide from
the harsh world in the bosom of her feminine energy.

This will lead to starting more sexual relationships (what society calls
getting the girl), giving you the chance to enjoy her feminine energy from a
much better position.

Is she screens well, than you may choose to spend more time around that
energy.

But don't let fear of the feminine or one bad experience turn you into a
jaded guy who thinks women are all untrustworthy and only good for sex.

Don't be afraid of feminine energy. Appreciate it, enjoy it...just don't
NEED it.

Oh, you can never OWN it either.

You will not feel complete until both needs are in balance.

Yes, one woman can satisfy BOTH needs.

60


"Feminine energy is best when simply appreciated, not needed"

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I'd say that if you're cuddling you're miles ahead of someone in the friendzone. Who cuddles with their friends?

Most women
My experience with female friends is vastly different than yours it seems.

Aren't you a virgin though >_>

 

Not anymore actually. But either way neither I or nor anyone I've known has ever cuddled with a platonic friend. Cuddling is pretty much universally seen as an intimate act. Like, if someone in a monogamous relationship saw their partner cuddling with someone else, that'd be grounds for a break up.

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I posted a picture of myself with my hair back and suddenly I've gotten like 10 tinder matches all at once. Not really sure what to call that style but it was night and day

 

Do you have a man bun? That's like the most attractive men's hair cut at the moment

 

Edit: you look a lot more "alpha" in the top pic. You'd prob do even better w/o sunglasses if you're looking aloofly away from the camera, doing the squinch. It's your vibe/facial expression more than your hair IMO

 

Notice how most of the guys in the top results of all time in ladyboners all have very similar facial expressions/attitudes: https://www.reddit.com/r/LadyBoners/top/

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Many a girl I've met cuddle their friends regardless of gender

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Anyone who likes tacos is incapable of logic.

Anyone who likes logic is incapable of tacos.

 

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5 people living in one room? I'd go nuts in a week.

I'm having trouble temporarily living with my brother.

 

And so far, until like 20-21 the not giving in on first date is quite common or even more like a rule here.

 

I can't say for all, but that has been my experience and by now I have some of it. And that is confirmed by my flatmate, who is pretty much muggi in behaviour and philosophies. And he is almost 10 years older than I am and still very actively in the game.

t3aGt.png

 

So I've noticed this thread's regulars all follow similar trends.

 

RPG is constantly dealing with psycho exes.

Muggi reminds us of the joys of polygamy.

Saq is totally oblivious to how much chicks dig him.

I strike out every other week.

Kalphite wages a war against the friend zone.

Randox pretty much stays rational.

Etc, etc

 

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5 people living in one room? I'd go nuts in a week.

I'm having trouble temporarily living with my brother.

 

And so far, until like 20-21 the not giving in on first date is quite common or even more like a rule here.

 

I can't say for all, but that has been my experience and by now I have some of it. And that is confirmed by my flatmate, who is pretty much muggi in behaviour and philosophies. And he is almost 10 years older than I am and still very actively in the game.

That's either a cultural thing or you're just giving off "provider" vibes instead of "player" vibes. In the US, young women (18-22ish) have the least hangups about sex and are the quickest to get into bed. They're all about having fun. As they get older they come up with more and more "rules" for themselves before they'll have sex

 

That said, if you come off as a boring nice guy rather than a player, then you either won't get to have sex with her or she'll make you wait a long time for it. Players get laid on the first date with all kinds of girls all the time, despite the taboo of it. That's why they're players.

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