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I chalk it to "whatever" unless she's in high school. Then it's weird.

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Reminds me of rumours about people getting into clubs with bus passes and $20 on my year abroad lol

I loved having hot friends cause we'd be allowed to skip the line so often, it was bad but I loved the corruption

 

On a side note I'm doing so great compared to a week ago. I go back to campus in a few weeks for the last few days and I have a guy I might be "hanging out" with but the only thing is I think he likes me and that is a problem because I don't like anyone, I don't want a relationship for sure and I don't want to have any sort of cutesy affectionate couple-y intimacy either. I'll do feelings one day, just not for the forseeable future so I'm probably going to have to drop this sooner rather than later that I am very unlikely to stay the night, spoon or want anything more and if he's not cool with that then I'd rather not do anything/lead someone on.

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  • 3 weeks later...

Bloody [bleep]ing hell.

 

Been with my girl half a year now.

I am seriously considering whether I should break up with her.

We are two completely different people. I think that if she knew what I was doing bi-daily, she would have dumped me a long time ago.

I have never cheated on her or anything like that. It's just that I go out. A lot. And sometimes happens that I am in mainly or pretty much only in girls' company...

 

I also like to drink a lot.

And I am lazy.

 

Meanwhile, she is a girl who had only been semi-drunk once before I met her. I have gotten her to somewhat drink alcohol sometimes. She also doesn't go out. At all. At her birthday there were only her relatives and me, making a total of 5 of us.

 

I also think sometimes that she has no ambition. She is too pessimistic and with low self-esteem. She studies to be a doctor and is doing so with flying colours. Yet she was happy to get a job as a cashier for summer. I tried to convince her that she could get nearly triple the wage as a waitress, and she said that nobody would want her and that she does not like to communicate with people...

Not to speak of anything remotely related with her curriculum. And there are lots of jobs for people with medicinal background.

 

Also, she is pretty much never initiating anything... I understand that I should be the main escalator, yet sometimes there should be some enthusiasm...

 

Yet she is pretty and is now pretty much hand over heels into me... Breaking up with her would devastate her... I am her first bf pretty much.

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So I've noticed this thread's regulars all follow similar trends.

 

RPG is constantly dealing with psycho exes.

Muggi reminds us of the joys of polygamy.

Saq is totally oblivious to how much chicks dig him.

I strike out every other week.

Kalphite wages a war against the friend zone.

Randox pretty much stays rational.

Etc, etc

 

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Sounds like you aren't happy with your relationship. Either leave her or confront her about issues you have with it. 

 

Also, there's really nothing wrong with her choice of summer jobs. I'd take less pay over a job that would make me feel super uncomfortable every day.

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“I had a feeling we weren’t coming back from this fight when it began.”

“Do you have any regrets?”

“I don’t. It seems surprising, I know, but I wouldn’t change a thing. This is how it was meant to be.”

“Huh, you never really notice how lovely the day is until you realize you’ll never see it again.”

“Mmmhmm.”

 

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Her summer job choice isn't really much to guage anything on, so if you feel that strongly about it there's probably a larger unhappiness that's amplifying it.

 

(And waitresses probably make nearly 3 times as much as cashiers in America, but in tips, because hourly the wages would be 4:1 the other way around)

 

Saq I like that you want to drive her to do better, but I also want to make sure you're not pressuring her to drink all the time because that's not all that healthy for the relationship either.

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I am not pressuring her into anything. I have invited her to events and concerts and stuff where she can have something without parents keeping an eye on her. She's never gotten seriously drunk.

 

I have planned to confront her for about a week now, just waiting for the right time.

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So I've noticed this thread's regulars all follow similar trends.

 

RPG is constantly dealing with psycho exes.

Muggi reminds us of the joys of polygamy.

Saq is totally oblivious to how much chicks dig him.

I strike out every other week.

Kalphite wages a war against the friend zone.

Randox pretty much stays rational.

Etc, etc

 

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I've started semi dating a girl that's a bigger partier than I am and that's weird. I've usually been a bigger partier than girls I've been with, but she and her friends are machines lol. She's also much more averse to texting than myself, which is interesting because that's been a problem in the past for me but the other way around.

It's weird being on this side of things, I much prefer the other side

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I don't know yet what to do. I am torn between 2 girls and one of them is completely innocent, mega-shy and silent girl. The other is the exact opposite.

I have never rejected a girl, but this town is too small for risking seeing 2 girls at the same time.

Saq, this is what you posted back in November. I'm assuming you had a reason you picked the shy innocent one over the other girl that had more in common with you. You have to decide if that reason is still good enough to keep dealing with these frustrations you're having.
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The other was the girl that committed suicide...

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So I've noticed this thread's regulars all follow similar trends.

 

RPG is constantly dealing with psycho exes.

Muggi reminds us of the joys of polygamy.

Saq is totally oblivious to how much chicks dig him.

I strike out every other week.

Kalphite wages a war against the friend zone.

Randox pretty much stays rational.

Etc, etc

 

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Tip.it, I am here once again to ask advice.

 

Prom is approaching (~3weeks out) and I finally decided to look for a date. Thankfully, so far as aware had based on good sources, my first choice is still free. So I messaged her a couple of days ago asking her if she wanted to go for lunch, she replied a long afterwards and relatively enthusiastically (reading tone in a message) yes and asked she . I replied and said today, however she never replied.

 

I sent the messages in messenger so I can see that she hasn't even opened the message since I sent it. Only message I sent after that was my phone number thinking it might speed things up.

 

My question really comes down to whether I should bother to try and get her as a date where she seems to not be interested or if I should just love on and try someone else?

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Ask her in person directly yes or no and that you need an answer on the spot. That will indicate if you need to continue your search. She doesn't sound interested, but there's too much grey area to say she's absolutely uninterested.

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Origin: Brand_New_iPwn

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It seems that only the Today thread or the Relationship thread can be thriving, never both...

 

So for the last couple of months I've had nothing but pictures of my cat on my Tinder profile, ended up with over 100 matches. While I got a lot more matches it felt a lot harder to actually engage any of them in conversation and meet up with them. It seems to be universally agreed that having a dog or cat in one of your pictures is a huge boost, I just wanted to see what happened if it was ALL cat pictures.

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Ok so... is it wrong to put my own feelings ahead of someone else's happiness?

 

An old friend of mine and I reconnected about 7 months ago, and we've gotten to be really good friends again after not speaking for about 5 years. We generally spent several hours a week talking and/or hanging out, like friends do I suppose. I've felt happier these past 7 months than I have in years having a good friend back in my life that I can share almost everything with without feeling judged etc. However, this past month or so I've began having very bi-polar feelings towards her. Some days I feel happy, other days I feel very angry, depressed, malevolent because of her. I couldn't take it anymore, so I basically cut off all contact with her. My mental state sort of went back to it's not really happy not really sad state. However, I found out that she's been very upset about the whole thing (rightfully so I suppose) and has been feeling depressed, angry, sad, and some days physically ill because I've stopped communicating with her.

 

What do I do? I feel like shit knowing that I'm hurting one of the few people I care about and I don't feel very happy (I feel quite sad a lot of the time actually). If I were to try to re-mend our friendship, her state would improve drastically, but mine would dip back down and go back to feeling violently angry several hours of the day again.

 

Do I stay the course or clear my conscience? 

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“I had a feeling we weren’t coming back from this fight when it began.”

“Do you have any regrets?”

“I don’t. It seems surprising, I know, but I wouldn’t change a thing. This is how it was meant to be.”

“Huh, you never really notice how lovely the day is until you realize you’ll never see it again.”

“Mmmhmm.”

 

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In the end you need to do what's best for you. You don't have to live with your friend 24/7 and need to look out for you whom you do live with 24/7. They should hopefully be able to find their own help it solution but in the end you need to ensure you are in a good mental state first.

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