"I want a girlfriend/boyfriend", and other such relationship advice

[RpgGamer]

You do you boo

 

 

But I don't understand why you have such polar emotional responses to one another.

[Major Dash]

1. No, only her.

 

2. It has more or less been a somewhat recent development. Sometimes (like once or twice a year) I get super upset about something and feel absolutely shitty for like a day or two, then I'm over it. However, it has never lasted this long before. I've actually been considering seeing someone if it continues past July.

 

3. I really have no clue. I know that I'm a petty person, but I can't really even think of a stupid reason why I should be upset. 

 

4. Did that like 2 days after I stopped talking to her. I wrote her a note explaining how I felt and why I did what I did.

 

 

 

I think part of this is all just bad timing. One of her best long time friends got sent to jail last month with no idea of when she'll be out. Her main group of friends from school had sort of a falling out, and they all stopped wanting to talk and hang out with each other, even the people they weren't mad with. (which I don't understand, but w/e). She also lives with her parents while she is going to school because she can't afford to live on her own, and her relationship with her dad is somewhat strained. 

 

So outside of her boyfriend (who I get the impression is absolute shit at holding meaningful conversation, and isn't always comforting), she was probably using me as a crutch socially/mentally.

 

 

 

You're not wrong about the self entitled part, I'll admit that. I take a lot of my friends for granted, and I'm not always the best at reciprocating effort put into mutually beneficial relationships. She's basically my only friend who takes much interest in a lot of my hobbies. I also enjoy(ed) doing stuff with her, so I wouldn't fall under the 'grown bored' camp.

 

 

 

I think part of my problem is that I have an extremely repetitive, boring, and braindead job, so I spend hours at a time just stewing over this as I've got nothing else to put my brain power in to. I probably wouldn't care or dwell over it as much as I have (thus reducing my stress about this) if I weren't spending 6+ hours a day without something mentally stimulating to distract me.

[Kalphite]

had my first tinder date in a year yesterday. Met up with the girl for coffee, then we walked through pike's marketplace and watched the ocean for a while before she had to leave to go to work (this all happened from 8 am - 9:30 am lmao). she was super receptive to touching and touched back throughout the thing and we kissed goodbye, so that makes this my first kiss where both parties were sober lmfao. she said she wants to meet up again, i was thinking about taking her to this laser show thing where you can like lay on the floor and watch these crazy visuals to music so I figured it would make a good segue into coming back to my place after but idk if I should just not wait so long and invite her right over because she basically said she was dtf at the end of the date lol. idk I never really make it this far so I'm probably overcomplicating it but it just feels real [bleep]ing nice for things to finally be working out haha

[RpgGamer]

[Hide]If the laser show is more than a couple days away I'd say meet up with her at yours before then. If it's like tomorrow then just do the laser show and segue from there. Unless you want to string interest along until the laser show which given the average interest span of a dtf tinder girl...[/hide]

 

I was typing a thing and then I decided I disagreed with myself. Be the best you and take her to the laser show unless YOU WANT to get down with her before then, however far away it may be. Just don't allow her to lose interest as in, don't disappear on her

[RpgGamer]

"Ifa ***** steals yo gurl, he doin you a favor"

[Major Dash]

Are you just drunk or did a ***** steal yo gurl?

[RpgGamer]

Nah, I wanted to demonstrate the thread isn't dead.

[Bonez899]

Are you with your person and theres a serious problem that will likely only get worse?

Then you should probably break up

 

 

Are you single with a minimal friend group and you never go out and meet new people?

Then you should probably get a set group of friends who enjoy going out to places and try talking to new people when you are out

 

 

- 99% of this thread

But you guys always give blanket advice and my situation is different somehow where neither of those statements are true.

 

~99% of replies.

[Estonian dude]

Meh, me good.

[Hedgehog]

Asking for relationship advice on a runescape forum

[RpgGamer]

Did you equip full rune?

[Bonez899]

Did you make sure to add effects when you were advertising for a girlfriend.

[Estonian dude]

Did you get a gold ring for her/him?

[insperation.09]

I paid 3k for a hot gf and it turned out it was a dude  <_<

 

spent over 3 hours killing chickens for that cash

 

On the plus side, you now know the in's and out's of slaying chickens, AND, you know you're not in to dudes. Hooray for self discovery!

[RpgGamer]

I'm gonna breathe some life in this thread and ask what typical (healthy) coping mechanism ya'll use for stressful situations or to soothe anxiety. I know physical exercise is a big one, particularly with some but I'm interested to hear what else you guys do. Work on your car? Build something? Let's hear it.

[Skull]

I'm gonna breathe some life in this thread and ask what typical (healthy) coping mechanism ya'll use for stressful situations or to soothe anxiety. I know physical exercise is a big one, particularly with some but I'm interested to hear what else you guys do. Work on your car? Build something? Let's hear it.

 

You play D&D, right?  I like to work out ideas for campaigns, think of interesting plot lines, etc.  Most of it is just stuff in my head, not on paper and never actually ends up at the table. It's a good calming distraction for me.

 

I used to go to the rock gym a lot and that was always good for me, since it was a good blend of physical and mental.

 

These are more for chronic stress and anxiety, not exactly for "in the moment" anxiety attack sorts of things. 

[RpgGamer]

Yeah I was dungeon master for 5ish months up until a few weeks ago. I thoroughly enjoyed thinking of plots and stories as well as puzzles l, but I was not very good at character creation and I basically pulled the plug on the campaign because it was more stressful for me to come up with ideas every week than it was worth the fun of attempting to play it. But I do enjoy me some fantasizing

[Estonian dude]

Screaming, swearing and shouting my lungs out somewhere I cannot be heard too much.

 

Drink myself to near coma and suffer the hangover without any meds or anything. After the hangover is gone, usually all mental troubles aswell. For the duration it is pain though...

 

 

 

In other news, single again! Gonna have to go back to meeting new people. Haven't done that in, well, over a year now...

[RpgGamer]

I don't know man, drinking heavily just doesn't bring me joy anymore. Just painful awareness of how much I don't like the general idea of people

[Hedgehog]

You can't be depressed if you're passed out

[RpgGamer]

That's for sure, but eventually you wake up

[Estonian dude]

Hiking or going out to the nature works wonders aswell.

 

Being in the middle of nowhere, in the county of nowhere, in one of the least sparsely populated countries in the world, with the nearest settlement 40 km's away I only have way too many chances to go out in nature though. Might be worse in Jersey or whatnot.

[Hedgehog]

I can't do that here cuz of the skunk apes

[brownsugar]

My gf keeps wearing mens sweatshirt... is that ok? Guys if you want to keep your sweatshirts dont get a gf

[RpgGamer]

I give you credit for at least being a creative advert spammer