Veiva Posted October 2, 2018 Share Posted October 2, 2018 been talking to this cute girl on OkCupid from Thursday to Saturday, ask her out for coffee, she hasn't been online since lolz me_irl^1024 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
muggiwhplar Posted October 2, 2018 Share Posted October 2, 2018 Shoulda asked her out on Thursday :P That’s why you always want to pitch the meet ASAP— you won’t know if she’s actually interested in you until you ask. If they’re genuinely interested, they’ll be down to meet up right away after just a couple of messages. Or, maybe she was interested, but then a more interesting guy came along and asked her out on Friday 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Veiva Posted October 2, 2018 Share Posted October 2, 2018 yeah except I have a secret advantage: we have a friend in common I shall attempt to utilize this nuclear option if she doesn't reply by this weekend Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
obfuscator Posted October 2, 2018 Share Posted October 2, 2018 why bother? if she doesn't respond, she's not interested, and you should move on to someone who is 2 "It's not a rest for me, it's a rest for the weights." - Dom Mazzetti Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Veiva Posted October 2, 2018 Share Posted October 2, 2018 1. She's the only interesting person I've matched with out of the last half a dozen recently. 2. Wouldn't it be like other relationships? E.g., putting in a resume vs having a friend/employee recommend you at said company. Then again I guess you could argue I failed the interview??? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
obfuscator Posted October 2, 2018 Share Posted October 2, 2018 1. sure, but she doesn't know that. either way, if she's not interested, it doesn't matter 2. not in my experience...a relationship isn't like hiring for a job. if she's not interested (read: not attracted), having a friend say "but he's so great" probably won't change her mind 1 "It's not a rest for me, it's a rest for the weights." - Dom Mazzetti Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Veiva Posted October 2, 2018 Share Posted October 2, 2018 I'm sure you're right but I'm still going to try. Only because she literally hasn't been on OkCupid since I sent my last message (ergo she hasn't read it) and all the banter before was good afaik. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
muggiwhplar Posted October 2, 2018 Share Posted October 2, 2018 While you miss 100% of the shots you don’t take, you’re prob just going to come off as needy. If she were interested, she’d still be talking to you IMO. If she’s seeing another guy and it goes south and she returns to OKC, it’s better for her to see that you weren’t continuously trying to get her attention Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Veiva Posted October 2, 2018 Share Posted October 2, 2018 alright I'll just do the other nuclear option and delete my okcupid profile lol I'll create a new one later that presents as straight when I (wrongly) think things will be different. My therapist agrees I should stop dating anyway. It's too depressing. I've been only rejected half a dozen times in the last few weeks so I'm feeling kinda low. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
muggiwhplar Posted October 2, 2018 Share Posted October 2, 2018 I’d quit dating for at least 6 months till you have some dope shirtless pics to use from your weight training. There’s no rush, you have plenty of time— it’s not like you’re a woman where dating is a race against the clock :lol: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Estonian dude Posted October 2, 2018 Share Posted October 2, 2018 You don't need shirtless pics for matches. Damn if I didn't have more trouble with location than with getting matches... Living 20 miles out of the city with parents is a bit bad for dating.Oh well, gonna change that soon. So I've noticed this thread's regulars all follow similar trends. RPG is constantly dealing with psycho exes.Muggi reminds us of the joys of polygamy.Saq is totally oblivious to how much chicks dig him.I strike out every other week.Kalphite wages a war against the friend zone.Randox pretty much stays rational.Etc, etc Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Veiva Posted October 2, 2018 Share Posted October 2, 2018 idk if I said it here but I'll never had good shirtless photos because I have way too much loose skin Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Estonian dude Posted October 2, 2018 Share Posted October 2, 2018 I'll never have too nice either, I have a deformed ribcage. But having shirt-on photos where you are buff and at least look strong also help immensely. 1 So I've noticed this thread's regulars all follow similar trends. RPG is constantly dealing with psycho exes.Muggi reminds us of the joys of polygamy.Saq is totally oblivious to how much chicks dig him.I strike out every other week.Kalphite wages a war against the friend zone.Randox pretty much stays rational.Etc, etc Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
muggiwhplar Posted October 2, 2018 Share Posted October 2, 2018 Shirtless photos arent essential but they help immensely if you can pull it off. At the very least, like saqs said, you should look buff and strong w/ a shirt on Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Veiva Posted October 7, 2018 Share Posted October 7, 2018 Is it normal for people you've been talking to to just stop talking to you? For example, a girl I thought I was friends with (we hung out a few times outside of school and between classes) just stopped talking to me a few weeks after class, and her girlfriend acted weird and dismissive when I bumped into her later. There's about 4 other examples this one just stings the most. There's got to be something wrong with me... I just feel so lonely and I'm /really really really/ tired of it. Stress over relationships (not just intimate/romantic) in general has been indescribable and 1) I don't know why 2) the stress is causing major delusional thinking Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Estonian dude Posted October 7, 2018 Share Posted October 7, 2018 Happens quite often. You win some, you lose some.Only way to get over it is just keep trying to find new, better people to talk with.And always helps if, somehow, someway you don't project the depression outside when trying to meet someone new. Gotta show that everything is going perfect in the best possible way. Fake it till you make it. So I've noticed this thread's regulars all follow similar trends. RPG is constantly dealing with psycho exes.Muggi reminds us of the joys of polygamy.Saq is totally oblivious to how much chicks dig him.I strike out every other week.Kalphite wages a war against the friend zone.Randox pretty much stays rational.Etc, etc Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RpgGamer Posted October 7, 2018 Share Posted October 7, 2018 Totally normal, definitely sucks. Quote Quote Anyone who likes tacos is incapable of logic. Anyone who likes logic is incapable of tacos. PSA: SaqPrets is an Estonian Dude Steam: NippleBeardTM Origin: Brand_New_iPwn Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Veiva Posted October 8, 2018 Share Posted October 8, 2018 Happens quite often. You win some, you lose some.Only way to get over it is just keep trying to find new, better people to talk with.And always helps if, somehow, someway you don't project the depression outside when trying to meet someone new. Gotta show that everything is going perfect in the best possible way. Fake it till you make it. People are genuinely surprised if I confide in them I have depression and 'high-functioning' schizophrenia. You learn to hide it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Estonian dude Posted October 11, 2018 Share Posted October 11, 2018 Damn. I ended up on a girl on Tinder who just wanted to [bleep]. That shit be scary :D So I've noticed this thread's regulars all follow similar trends. RPG is constantly dealing with psycho exes.Muggi reminds us of the joys of polygamy.Saq is totally oblivious to how much chicks dig him.I strike out every other week.Kalphite wages a war against the friend zone.Randox pretty much stays rational.Etc, etc Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RpgGamer Posted October 11, 2018 Share Posted October 11, 2018 Hold on to your kidneys! Quote Quote Anyone who likes tacos is incapable of logic. Anyone who likes logic is incapable of tacos. PSA: SaqPrets is an Estonian Dude Steam: NippleBeardTM Origin: Brand_New_iPwn Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Veiva Posted October 13, 2018 Share Posted October 13, 2018 So me being a bit oblivious, I agreed to a friend trying to set me up on a date before I saw the other guy. I've told him what I'm interested in, but... He sent me pictures at some point and I didn't find the guy attractive but I thought hey, maybe his photos are bad. We texted back and forth and he came across a bit needy... ...so to prevent my having to in the future say I'm not interested, I dressed really girly (blush + miniskirt + long socks + blouse + [bleep]ing cute vest). I think it worked. He was taken aback (and not in a positive way) by how I was dressed judging by his initial reaction, so I think I was able to let him down indirectly. was that bad I don't like conflict lol it's annoying Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bonez899 Posted October 13, 2018 Share Posted October 13, 2018 I think the general consensus response will be "Just tell them you don't want to meet." You don't have to provide a reason, and even if you do the fact that youreot interested should be enough. Better to be straight forward, because where would/will you be if the guy actually like(d) the look? 3 http://forum.tip.it/topic/325514-bonez899s-journey-to-an-eventual-max/ My blog of progress on Runescape. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Veiva Posted October 13, 2018 Share Posted October 13, 2018 (edited) Sorry I'll do that in the future. Bit dumb way of handling it on my part. D: Better to be straight forward, because where would/will you be if the guy actually like(d) the look? maybe I would've liked him then LOL ... So I've been going to the gym for a few weeks (3x a week); I've made some progress. I'm looking forward to seeing what I can do, and also what I look like, in six months and a year from now... Edited October 13, 2018 by Veiva Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
muggiwhplar Posted October 13, 2018 Share Posted October 13, 2018 Just be upfront and straightforward/honest next time— being dishonest/manipulative like that is a bad habit to get into. Good job with the gym consistency so far, keep it up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Veiva Posted October 13, 2018 Share Posted October 13, 2018 On the flip side anyone I'd date for a long term relationship would have to be willing to accept my dressing in such a manner or it's not going to work. That really limits my dating pool lol. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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