Jump to content

Welcome to Rune Tips, the first ever RuneScape help site. We aim to offer skill guides, quest guides, maps, calculators, informative databases, tips, and much more to help you get the most from the Massive Online Adventure Game, RuneScape, by Jagex Ltd © 2009.

Report Ad

Welcome to Forum.Tip.It
Register now to gain access to all of our features. Once registered and logged in, you will be able to create topics, post replies to existing threads, give reputation to your fellow members, get your own private messenger, post status updates, manage your profile and so much more. If you already have an account, login here - otherwise create an account for free today!
Photo

"I want a girlfriend/boyfriend", and other such relationship advice


19749 replies to this topic

#19441
muggiwhplar
[ Display Name History ]

muggiwhplar

    Dragon Slayer

  • Members
  • 8,002 posts
If political beliefs are important to you then feel free to mention how “you wont get along” if they dont believe in certain things. Tho to be fair ive never mentioned anything political in my profile so IDK what would happen.

Are you tracking your numbers at all?

77yLQy8.png


#19442
Veiva
[ Display Name History ]

Veiva

    Demon Vanquisher

  • Members
  • 2,341 posts
  • Gender:Not Telling
  • Joined:18 November 2004
I used to track my numbers but I haven't recently.

I really have no idea how to not make it sound non-generic. The video you linked to didn't help, he sounded like... someone describing Dragonball Z, I really didn't get the passion outside his voice. So I'm at a loss there. I honestly thought my stuff sounded decent.

It also confuses me because most guys bios (admittedly they're not straight but I don't think sexuality has an effect on bio quality?) sare literally "I like x, y, z." with a maybe "looking for x." Mine actually tells a story and makes some attempts at humor? IDK.

The question/answer intro is a great idea and I'll work on that. Is it ok if I steal that lol.

I'm thinking I'll leave political views off and filter that in person.

ozXHe7P.png


#19443
obfuscator
[ Display Name History ]

obfuscator

    Tanned Caveman

  • Members
  • 20,231 posts
  • Gender:Not Telling
  • Joined:6 March 2008
  • RuneScape Status:Retired

Bonez might be the only person that still uses TIF on desktop mode


TIF desktop mode #represent

polvCwJ.gif
"It's not a rest for me, it's a rest for the weights." - Dom Mazzetti


#19444
Estonian dude
[ Display Name History ]

Estonian dude

    Ice Giant Melter

  • Members
  • 3,513 posts
  • Gender:Male
  • Location:Estonia
  • Joined:19 February 2008
  • RuneScape Status:Retired
  • RSN:Saq Prets
  • Clan:Off-Topic
My phone somehow keeps chucking me into desktop mode.
Posted Image

#19445
muggiwhplar
[ Display Name History ]

muggiwhplar

    Dragon Slayer

  • Members
  • 8,002 posts

I used to track my numbers but I haven't recently.

I really have no idea how to not make it sound non-generic. The video you linked to didn't help, he sounded like... someone describing Dragonball Z, I really didn't get the passion outside his voice. So I'm at a loss there. I honestly thought my stuff sounded decent.

It also confuses me because most guys bios (admittedly they're not straight but I don't think sexuality has an effect on bio quality?) sare literally "I like x, y, z." with a maybe "looking for x." Mine actually tells a story and makes some attempts at humor? IDK.

The question/answer intro is a great idea and I'll work on that. Is it ok if I steal that lol.

I'm thinking I'll leave political views off and filter that in person.

 

keep in mind my profile is written solely for women. if you're looking for men, you prob don't even need a bio; you just need good pics.

 

if you're trying to pique women's interest, your profile needs to convey that you're:

1. confident

2. smart (but not nerdy or an intellectual)

3. funny (but not goofy)

4. exciting/interesting

5. non-needy/indifferent

6. a bit of a jerk/edgy


77yLQy8.png


#19446
obfuscator
[ Display Name History ]

obfuscator

    Tanned Caveman

  • Members
  • 20,231 posts
  • Gender:Not Telling
  • Joined:6 March 2008
  • RuneScape Status:Retired
2. edgy
4. me

polvCwJ.gif
"It's not a rest for me, it's a rest for the weights." - Dom Mazzetti


#19447
RpgGamer
[ Display Name History ]

RpgGamer

    Dragon Slayer

  • Members
  • 9,204 posts
I'm definitely on board with muggiws raw honesty point. It should sound less like an interview, and more like what you would post here.
Posted Image


Anyone who likes tacos is incapable of logic.

Anyone who likes logic is incapable of tacos.




PSA: SaqPrets is an Estonian Dude
Steam: NippleBeardTM
Origin: Brand_New_iPwn

#19448
Veiva
[ Display Name History ]

Veiva

    Demon Vanquisher

  • Members
  • 2,341 posts
  • Gender:Not Telling
  • Joined:18 November 2004

lol then I'm doomed to fail because I really have no idea how to describe myself

Look I've done more in the past six months than most anyone has done in five years to improve myself, I'm most likely one of the smartest people in a room, I'm probably the one of the most genuine nice people (no not /r/niceguys nice) you'd meet in real life, I'm a hardcore socialist and ultraleftist that makes Noam Chomsky look like a fox news host, I have an eclectic set of hobbies that encapsulate both feminine and masculine gender roles and I can switch between male/female gender roles easily, I'm super competitive to the point it can negatively affect my life (but it forces me to excel).

 

but I can't just put that, nor do I know how to word that in a way that doesn't sound 'generic' and 'boring'.

 

I'm literally amazing at everything I do but dating just escapes me and it infuriates me so much.


ozXHe7P.png


#19449
Bonez899
[ Display Name History ]

Bonez899

    Varrock Guard

  • Members
  • 1,416 posts
  • Gender:Male
  • Location:some place in canada
  • Joined:18 July 2008
  • RuneScape Status:P2P
  • RSN:FuzzyBonez
Veiva, you just described yourself amazingly. Why can't you put that? Or clean it up and put a version of it?

Like literally, that got me excited and intrigued all at once.

Fuzzybonez.png

http://forum.tip.it/...n-eventual-max/ My blog of progress on Runescape.


#19450
Veiva
[ Display Name History ]

Veiva

    Demon Vanquisher

  • Members
  • 2,341 posts
  • Gender:Not Telling
  • Joined:18 November 2004
Thank you!
 
I took that left out the non-binary stuff and added details:
 
But now I think I'm back at square 1 lol.
 

Hey, here's the rundown: I'm an overly ambitious adventurer with a taste for XXX. I've done more in the past six months to improve myself than most do in five years. My political and social views make Noam Chomsky look like a Fox News host. And I'm a genuine, caring person who smiles even when the sky is falling.

Interested? Well then!

I began working on my degree in Computer Science within the last year and already have a job in software development, putting me leagues ahead of my peers out of the gate. When I went to Carowinds, I made sure to ride every coaster in a single day, and doubled up on the most popular ones. XXX. The constant desire to excel drives me whether it's fun or work. If you're content standing still, we're not going to jell well.

And I've learned to take shortcomings gracefully. I'm an optimistic realist: when things don't go as planned, I still and mindful and enjoy what went right. Like the time I tried to start a club at school and failed... and tried again and again, only to fail again and again. Which led to me to realize, hey, maybe not everyone is interested in it as me, and that's okay. That's why the next time I'm going to provide free pizza! You've got to be mindful in the day to day, or you'll be dragged down by the details.

Otherwise, I'm a bit... eclectic. I'm a socialist and lean so far to the left I can see cars in the fourth lane; I look out for my friends and family and treat others with the respect and grace I hope to receive back, even if they're being angry or rude (gotta have the moral high ground!); and my hobbies range from sporty things like bicycling to nerdy things like video games to cutesy things like cooking. I can be dominating and intense, or sweet and caring, at the drop of a hat.

Then there's also a tragic backstory that's suited for a superhero movie, but I'll reveal that if we hit it off. :)


ozXHe7P.png


#19451
RpgGamer
[ Display Name History ]

RpgGamer

    Dragon Slayer

  • Members
  • 9,204 posts
Definitely an improvement I would say! I kind of liked the "rough draft"
for its edginess, but the cleaner version has it's merits as well
Posted Image


Anyone who likes tacos is incapable of logic.

Anyone who likes logic is incapable of tacos.




PSA: SaqPrets is an Estonian Dude
Steam: NippleBeardTM
Origin: Brand_New_iPwn

#19452
muggiwhplar
[ Display Name History ]

muggiwhplar

    Dragon Slayer

  • Members
  • 8,002 posts

Thank you!
 
I took that left out the non-binary stuff and added details:
 
But now I think I'm back at square 1 lol.
 

Hey, here's the rundown: I'm an overly ambitious adventurer with a taste for XXX. I've done more in the past six months to improve myself than most do in five years. My political and social views make Noam Chomsky look like a Fox News host. And I'm a genuine, caring person who smiles even when the sky is falling.

Interested? Well then!

I began working on my degree in Computer Science within the last year and already have a job in software development, putting me leagues ahead of my peers out of the gate. When I went to Carowinds, I made sure to ride every coaster in a single day, and doubled up on the most popular ones. XXX. The constant desire to excel drives me whether it's fun or work. If you're content standing still, we're not going to jell well.

And I've learned to take shortcomings gracefully. I'm an optimistic realist: when things don't go as planned, I still and mindful and enjoy what went right. Like the time I tried to start a club at school and failed... and tried again and again, only to fail again and again. Which led to me to realize, hey, maybe not everyone is interested in it as me, and that's okay. That's why the next time I'm going to provide free pizza! You've got to be mindful in the day to day, or you'll be dragged down by the details.

Otherwise, I'm a bit... eclectic. I'm a socialist and lean so far to the left I can see cars in the fourth lane; I look out for my friends and family and treat others with the respect and grace I hope to receive back, even if they're being angry or rude (gotta have the moral high ground!); and my hobbies range from sporty things like bicycling to nerdy things like video games to cutesy things like cooking. I can be dominating and intense, or sweet and caring, at the drop of a hat.

Then there's also a tragic backstory that's suited for a superhero movie, but I'll reveal that if we hit it off. :)

 

 

that's much better. good rough draft. if I were you, I'd track my numbers (openers, responses, dates scheduled, meetups) and continue to make various tweaks to things, taking note of what improves your stats and what doesn't. when you're able to schedule dates consistently to your satisfaction, then you don't need to worry about tracking your numbers as much anymore.

 

I haven't really tracked my numbers since 2013, but back then my stats were: 198 openers, 49 responses, 10 dates scheduled, 5 meetups; or, roughly 40 openers per meetup. all from OKCupid and POF.

 

 

speaking of non-binary, something I forgot to mention is that your raw details (age, height, religion, etc.) should cater to the lowest common denominator unless certain things are very important to you. I leave things like religion and zodiac sign blank because I don't care about my partner's religious/astrological beliefs... but there's a decent amount of women out there who would see your zodiac sign and then write you off because they really believe in that shit :P

 

 

so you might check and see how including/excluding non-binary stuff affects your results


77yLQy8.png


#19453
Ring_World
[ Display Name History ]

Ring_World

    Dragon Slayer

  • Members
  • 5,472 posts
  • Gender:Male
  • Location:California
  • Joined:13 October 2007
  • RuneScape Status:Retired

I used okc years ago and got a date and panicked and stood her up :lol:

 

deleted it immediately after that and never tried it since. Low key wanna go back now 



#19454
Ring_World
[ Display Name History ]

Ring_World

    Dragon Slayer

  • Members
  • 5,472 posts
  • Gender:Male
  • Location:California
  • Joined:13 October 2007
  • RuneScape Status:Retired

Also I never did much online dating in general,

 

I lived with my parents and I was a full time unemployed student until recently and felt like its a deal breaker for a lot of people. So I felt like I'd be getting judged on both of those and it wasn't worth the judgement for a situation i felt stuck in.

 

 

Now that that situation has changed I really can't wait to try out more casual dating.

 

Tbh I always had long term relationships because of that, typically with girls I was already friends with who were in a similar situation as myself.



#19455
Veiva
[ Display Name History ]

Veiva

    Demon Vanquisher

  • Members
  • 2,341 posts
  • Gender:Not Telling
  • Joined:18 November 2004
Thanks for the help, guys.

I'll post an update later...

ozXHe7P.png


#19456
Ring_World
[ Display Name History ]

Ring_World

    Dragon Slayer

  • Members
  • 5,472 posts
  • Gender:Male
  • Location:California
  • Joined:13 October 2007
  • RuneScape Status:Retired

Alright so if I have really shit pictures right now should I wait on making a tinder/okc/etc. until I have pictures worth posting or can I make it now and hold off on using it until then?



#19457
Veiva
[ Display Name History ]

Veiva

    Demon Vanquisher

  • Members
  • 2,341 posts
  • Gender:Not Telling
  • Joined:18 November 2004

I don't have that much experience but your profile will get dinged as far as visibility goes since you won't be getting matches so I'd hold off.

 

If you're gay you can use a picture of a tree and still get hook-ups via Grindr tho. Lol. (Someone with a profile pic of the sky wanted to pay me for discreet hook ups, but I ain't no garden tool).

 

I've gotten two likes since I updated my profile but they were from ... less than attractive women. But it's an improvement.


ozXHe7P.png


#19458
Estonian dude
[ Display Name History ]

Estonian dude

    Ice Giant Melter

  • Members
  • 3,513 posts
  • Gender:Male
  • Location:Estonia
  • Joined:19 February 2008
  • RuneScape Status:Retired
  • RSN:Saq Prets
  • Clan:Off-Topic

Alright so if I have really shit pictures right now should I wait on making a tinder/okc/etc. until I have pictures worth posting or can I make it now and hold off on using it until then?


You can't have just shit pictures. You've gotta have at least one photo already, which is at least a wee bit flattering.
And just that one pic is enough. For a start.

But seriously, getting good photos takes one night out with a mate who knows how to use a camera.
Posted Image

#19459
Ring_World
[ Display Name History ]

Ring_World

    Dragon Slayer

  • Members
  • 5,472 posts
  • Gender:Male
  • Location:California
  • Joined:13 October 2007
  • RuneScape Status:Retired
I have great photos with girls in them. Which doesn't work for online dating

#19460
obfuscator
[ Display Name History ]

obfuscator

    Tanned Caveman

  • Members
  • 20,231 posts
  • Gender:Not Telling
  • Joined:6 March 2008
  • RuneScape Status:Retired

I have great photos with girls in them. Which doesn't work for online dating


why not? just blur their faces

polvCwJ.gif
"It's not a rest for me, it's a rest for the weights." - Dom Mazzetti





0 user(s) are reading this topic

0 members, 0 guests, 0 anonymous users