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I wouldn't recommend to be FBs with her, it's just going to make you like her even more, emotionally too. If you're willing to deal with the heartache, then do it, but if you're not, I would suggest getting away from her for a while.

 

 

might be true, but those three months would be hella fun

 

Read your posts ITT, it's not hella fun to be in a casual relationship with someone you're emotionally attached to.

 

 

Walked right into that one didn't I? :lol:

 

doc_roe3, I'd like to read your story given that it is all true. I'm not one to tl;dr on this thread. Every last detail counts. And to shredthehegnar91, I retract my statement now that I've been confirmed of just how emotionally attatched you were. You are probably best off moving on as quickly as possible. That way you're not stuck in the mood you're in now for the begining of college. Best to get rid of the "empty" feelings over the summer when it won't effect you socially in your new environment.

 

Ill write it out when I have the time. But mind you, its going to be LONG.


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I wouldn't recommend to be FBs with her, it's just going to make you like her even more, emotionally too. If you're willing to deal with the heartache, then do it, but if you're not, I would suggest getting away from her for a while.

 

 

might be true, but those three months would be hella fun

 

Read your posts ITT, it's not hella fun to be in a casual relationship with someone you're emotionally attached to.

 

 

Walked right into that one didn't I? :lol:

 

doc_roe3, I'd like to read your story given that it is all true. I'm not one to tl;dr on this thread. Every last detail counts. And to shredthehegnar91, I retract my statement now that I've been confirmed of just how emotionally attatched you were. You are probably best off moving on as quickly as possible. That way you're not stuck in the mood you're in now for the begining of college. Best to get rid of the "empty" feelings over the summer when it won't effect you socially in your new environment.

 

Ill write it out when I have the time. But mind you, its going to be LONG.

 

please do write it out

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Turns out the girl I've been chasin has a girlfriend. That's what I get for picking up girls at a GSA dance. FML.

 

Oh well, she'll make a great friend, despite my high attraction to her. Time to move into plan B.


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Turns out the girl I've been chasin has a girlfriend. That's what I get for picking up girls at a GSA dance. FML.

 

Oh well, she'll make a great friend, despite my high attraction to her. Time to move into plan B.

 

Let her be your wingman, girls are better at it than guys. Plus if you're with a hot girl it's an instant dhv.

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Turns out the girl I've been chasin has a girlfriend. That's what I get for picking up girls at a GSA dance. FML.

 

Oh well, she'll make a great friend, despite my high attraction to her. Time to move into plan B.

 

Let her be your wingman, girls are better at it than guys. Plus if you're with a hot girl it's an instant dhv.

I have two of these. Straight, though. Because my best friends, who are my best wingmen, are unfortunately better looking than me. Although me and my two closest friends cruising together usually does attract attention. And every girl thinks the best looking one is gay, half of the girls think the other one is gay. Only dudes have ever thought I was gay. And that's because I'm not arrogant in their way. I will concede that I'm often an [wagon], though.

 

But my two lady wingmen are fantastic. They told me they expect the same from me, but not many guys will approach them unless it's brutally obvious that we're not together. Plus, they both come from wealthy families, which means they know everybody.

 

Wooooooooooo!

 

Oh, were you guys discussing problems or something?


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Turns out the girl I've been chasin has a girlfriend. That's what I get for picking up girls at a GSA dance. FML.

 

Oh well, she'll make a great friend, despite my high attraction to her. Time to move into plan B.

 

Let her be your wingman, girls are better at it than guys. Plus if you're with a hot girl it's an instant dhv.

 

 

This might be true. I have a few friends of the female gender, most of which would be awful at being wing[wo]men. But you might be right on this one? At the same time though, I don't want to ruin any future options with her...so I may not resort to using her as a wing[wo]man. I'm still figuring her out. If she's not into guys at all - than yeah. Her induction as my partner in crime will be immidiate. But if she's even slightly attracted to guys, I think I'll hold off. I can't imagine a girl would un-friendzone a wingmate. Then again, I'm begining to dabble in unfamiliar territory. Just my assumption [GOD LOOK AT ME RAMBLE].

 

I'm putting her as 'friend I flirt with alot' until I figure her sexual orientation out.


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See, your problem is you always overthink everything.


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See, your problem is you always overthink everything.

 

I support that claim a whole lot.

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The girl I've had my eyes on lately is starting to get very attached to me. Everything seems so easy...


Matt: You want that eh? You want everything good for you. You want everything that's--falls off garbage can

Camera guy: Whoa, haha, are you okay dude?

Matt: You want anything funny that happens, don't you?

Camera guy: still laughing

Matt: You want the funny shit that happens here and there, you think it comes out of your [bleep]ing [wagon] pushes garbage can down, don't you? You think it's funny? It comes out of here! running towards Camera guy

Camera guy: runs away still laughing

Matt: You think the funny comes out of your mother[bleep]ing creativity? Comes out of Satan, mother[bleep]er! nn--ngh! pushes Camera guy down

Camera guy: Hoooholy [bleep]!

Matt: FUNNY ISN'T REAL! FUNNY ISN'T REAL!

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See, your problem is you always overthink everything.

 

I support that claim a whole lot.

 

 

It's hard to turn my damn brain off sometimes :wall:


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So this is random venting and a warning and I'm not seeking advice but I **** up big! And I hope this story serves a lesson to all of you out there. So I'm a senior in highschool. I'm about to graduate in a little over a week. And in the fall I'm going away to college. However college, and the rest of my life is now on an uncertain path. If you haven't guessed by now I got my girlfriend of a year and a half pregnant. So yeah that sucks.

 

(For the next part I don't want to hear any comments on how we are idiots or anything because we knew of the slightly increase risk)

After a few months of having sex we decided going raw is more fun. (Obviously is but not the point!) After like 5 months of this, up until 2 weeks ago, maybe, everything went well. Then because her BC wasn't working entirely correctly with the regulation of her period it would start earlier than on the placebo then usual. Her doctor said all was well just don't have sex on those days. Well of course accidents happen and we did. She didn't tell me right off though because she didn't want me to spend the $50.00 on a plan B. After two days she confronted me. I obviously got her one. But we couldn't get it until a day later. So the odds of it working right further decreased. Now 2 and a half weeks later she is late.

 

Any questions?

(again don't criticize me. Whats done is done, and I know my mistakes)

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Any questions?

(again don't criticize me. Whats done is done, and I know my mistakes)

If other methods don't work out, will you get an abortion?


Matt: You want that eh? You want everything good for you. You want everything that's--falls off garbage can

Camera guy: Whoa, haha, are you okay dude?

Matt: You want anything funny that happens, don't you?

Camera guy: still laughing

Matt: You want the funny shit that happens here and there, you think it comes out of your [bleep]ing [wagon] pushes garbage can down, don't you? You think it's funny? It comes out of here! running towards Camera guy

Camera guy: runs away still laughing

Matt: You think the funny comes out of your mother[bleep]ing creativity? Comes out of Satan, mother[bleep]er! nn--ngh! pushes Camera guy down

Camera guy: Hoooholy [bleep]!

Matt: FUNNY ISN'T REAL! FUNNY ISN'T REAL!

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So this is random venting and a warning and I'm not seeking advice but I **** up big! And I hope this story serves a lesson to all of you out there. So I'm a senior in highschool. I'm about to graduate in a little over a week. And in the fall I'm going away to college. However college, and the rest of my life is now on an uncertain path. If you haven't guessed by now I got my girlfriend of a year and a half pregnant. So yeah that sucks.

 

(For the next part I don't want to hear any comments on how we are idiots or anything because we knew of the slightly increase risk)

After a few months of having sex we decided going raw is more fun. (Obviously is but not the point!) After like 5 months of this, up until 2 weeks ago, maybe, everything went well. Then because her BC wasn't working entirely correctly with the regulation of her period it would start earlier than on the placebo then usual. Her doctor said all was well just don't have sex on those days. Well of course accidents happen and we did. She didn't tell me right off though because she didn't want me to spend the $50.00 on a plan B. After two days she confronted me. I obviously got her one. But we couldn't get it until a day later. So the odds of it working right further decreased. Now 2 and a half weeks later she is late.

 

Any questions?

(again don't criticize me. Whats done is done, and I know my mistakes)

Another reason to wear a condom every time, kids. My friend knocked a girl up just out of high school. He's one of the most amazing guitar players I know. He's 20 now and works in a grocery store to support the kid and the girl, who is his permanent girlfriend or whatever. He hates her, because she was a drunk [bleep] at some party. But we make fun of him anyways.

 

My oldest friend lost his virginity today. I told him good job. He said he wouldn't have worn a condom if I hadn't explicitly told him to. Which made me wonder. But he's been with this girl for four or five months. They're cute together or whatever. I'm happy.


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She didn't tell me right off though because she didn't want me to spend the $50.00 on a plan B.

 

That would piss me off. I've only been really angry once in my life and it takes a lot, but that would do it for me. It's only $30, and if she was that worried she could have paid for some of it. The price of the pill is a [cabbage] load cheaper than the price of a kid.

 

Unless you want to pretty much finish your life now and spend the rest of it raising this kid and scraping up a few bucks to feed it and yourself, I suggest an abortion. Foster homes are overcrowded as it is.

 

First obviously check if she is pregnant, because she might not be. Then start weighing your options. You have keeping it, putting it up for adoption or aborting it. Talk with her about it, it's her's as much as yours and nobody here can make the decision for either of you.

 

I don't want a kid until I'm at least 30, if at all. When you have a child and you need to work to support it, after that plus raising it, what else do you have time for? I say enjoy your youth and do [cabbage] while you can.

 

We have a hardwired desire to 'be god.' To be someone that is depended on, for that feeling of being needed. I'm pretty happy just being me.

 

He said he wouldn't have worn a condom if I hadn't explicitly told him to.

:wall:

 

That's the kind of guy who shouldn't be saving sex.

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So this is random venting and a warning and I'm not seeking advice but I **** up big! And I hope this story serves a lesson to all of you out there. So I'm a senior in highschool. I'm about to graduate in a little over a week. And in the fall I'm going away to college. However college, and the rest of my life is now on an uncertain path. If you haven't guessed by now I got my girlfriend of a year and a half pregnant. So yeah that sucks.

 

(For the next part I don't want to hear any comments on how we are idiots or anything because we knew of the slightly increase risk)

After a few months of having sex we decided going raw is more fun. (Obviously is but not the point!) After like 5 months of this, up until 2 weeks ago, maybe, everything went well. Then because her BC wasn't working entirely correctly with the regulation of her period it would start earlier than on the placebo then usual. Her doctor said all was well just don't have sex on those days. Well of course accidents happen and we did. She didn't tell me right off though because she didn't want me to spend the $50.00 on a plan B. After two days she confronted me. I obviously got her one. But we couldn't get it until a day later. So the odds of it working right further decreased. Now 2 and a half weeks later she is late.

 

Any questions?

(again don't criticize me. Whats done is done, and I know my mistakes)

Sorry but your asking for it, Dont [bleep]ing have sex without protection. Damn kids these days, no sense of awareness while the rest of us cant even get laid. (Obviously I'll get pissed since I haven't even had sex since December so sorry, but I'm starting to get moody about it)


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So this is random venting and a warning and I'm not seeking advice but I **** up big! And I hope this story serves a lesson to all of you out there. So I'm a senior in highschool. I'm about to graduate in a little over a week. And in the fall I'm going away to college. However college, and the rest of my life is now on an uncertain path. If you haven't guessed by now I got my girlfriend of a year and a half pregnant. So yeah that sucks.

 

(For the next part I don't want to hear any comments on how we are idiots or anything because we knew of the slightly increase risk)

After a few months of having sex we decided going raw is more fun. (Obviously is but not the point!) After like 5 months of this, up until 2 weeks ago, maybe, everything went well. Then because her BC wasn't working entirely correctly with the regulation of her period it would start earlier than on the placebo then usual. Her doctor said all was well just don't have sex on those days. Well of course accidents happen and we did. She didn't tell me right off though because she didn't want me to spend the $50.00 on a plan B. After two days she confronted me. I obviously got her one. But we couldn't get it until a day later. So the odds of it working right further decreased. Now 2 and a half weeks later she is late.

 

Any questions?

(again don't criticize me. Whats done is done, and I know my mistakes)

Sorry but your asking for it, Dont [bleep]ing have sex without protection. Damn kids these days, no sense of awareness while the rest of us cant even get laid. (Obviously I'll get pissed since I haven't even had sex since December so sorry, but I'm starting to get moody about it)

Her BC was [bleep]ing up, I'm not sure you can pin all the blame on them and none of it on bad luck.


Matt: You want that eh? You want everything good for you. You want everything that's--falls off garbage can

Camera guy: Whoa, haha, are you okay dude?

Matt: You want anything funny that happens, don't you?

Camera guy: still laughing

Matt: You want the funny shit that happens here and there, you think it comes out of your [bleep]ing [wagon] pushes garbage can down, don't you? You think it's funny? It comes out of here! running towards Camera guy

Camera guy: runs away still laughing

Matt: You think the funny comes out of your mother[bleep]ing creativity? Comes out of Satan, mother[bleep]er! nn--ngh! pushes Camera guy down

Camera guy: Hoooholy [bleep]!

Matt: FUNNY ISN'T REAL! FUNNY ISN'T REAL!

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Where a condom guys. C'mon. That's like first grade or something. icon_rolleyes.gif

 

As for magegoogles, I hope it all works out well. Be proud that you may have a kid soon. It's really a beautiful thing. Planned or otherwise.

 

Lent: give you're buddy a high five for me. Then slap him for thinking he could get away with out a rubber. Especially in your filthy town [as you've mentioned before].


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So this is random venting and a warning and I'm not seeking advice but I **** up big! And I hope this story serves a lesson to all of you out there. So I'm a senior in highschool. I'm about to graduate in a little over a week. And in the fall I'm going away to college. However college, and the rest of my life is now on an uncertain path. If you haven't guessed by now I got my girlfriend of a year and a half pregnant. So yeah that sucks.

 

(For the next part I don't want to hear any comments on how we are idiots or anything because we knew of the slightly increase risk)

After a few months of having sex we decided going raw is more fun. (Obviously is but not the point!) After like 5 months of this, up until 2 weeks ago, maybe, everything went well. Then because her BC wasn't working entirely correctly with the regulation of her period it would start earlier than on the placebo then usual. Her doctor said all was well just don't have sex on those days. Well of course accidents happen and we did. She didn't tell me right off though because she didn't want me to spend the $50.00 on a plan B. After two days she confronted me. I obviously got her one. But we couldn't get it until a day later. So the odds of it working right further decreased. Now 2 and a half weeks later she is late.

 

Any questions?

(again don't criticize me. Whats done is done, and I know my mistakes)

Sorry but your asking for it, Dont [bleep]ing have sex without protection. Damn kids these days, no sense of awareness while the rest of us cant even get laid. (Obviously I'll get pissed since I haven't even had sex since December so sorry, but I'm starting to get moody about it)

Her BC was [bleep]ing up, I'm not sure you can pin all the blame on them and none of it on bad luck.

They had sex on the days that the doctor told them not to. That's not bad luck.


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Eh, I only feel sorry for the kid. Whichever path you take.


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Like Dan said, I would be absolutely PISSED that she did not say that there may have been a problem.

 

Firstly I always use a condom... but if I even suspect that it may have broken or failed or whatever I will be going out and buying a Plan B pill immediately.

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They had sex on the days that the doctor told them not to. That's not bad luck.

He said accidents happen. I'm not sure if her no-sex day was shifted unexpectedly or if she just didn't care.


Matt: You want that eh? You want everything good for you. You want everything that's--falls off garbage can

Camera guy: Whoa, haha, are you okay dude?

Matt: You want anything funny that happens, don't you?

Camera guy: still laughing

Matt: You want the funny shit that happens here and there, you think it comes out of your [bleep]ing [wagon] pushes garbage can down, don't you? You think it's funny? It comes out of here! running towards Camera guy

Camera guy: runs away still laughing

Matt: You think the funny comes out of your mother[bleep]ing creativity? Comes out of Satan, mother[bleep]er! nn--ngh! pushes Camera guy down

Camera guy: Hoooholy [bleep]!

Matt: FUNNY ISN'T REAL! FUNNY ISN'T REAL!

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After a few months of having sex we decided going raw is more fun

Really?

 

Anyway, I was in a similar situation in 2008. My girlfriend and I were in the States when we found out she was 4 months preggas. We decided to terminate and it was illegal in CT so we had to jump states. Nothing has made me feel so rotten in my whole life. But it was a decision we gave a lot of consideration to and despite her religious convictions and my sense of duty we knew we would be doing a disservice to ourselves and society by attempting to soundly raise a child while still at school.

 

We talked about existentialism and what gives life meaning (according to us). In hindsight the steps we went through and the consideration we gave made it easier and a decision we were less likely to regret. Remember that its something you will have to live with the rest of your life either way. We also decided that regret wasn't productive and that we would make steps to help children who are malnourished/dying and make a difference that way.

 

Contraception is a big deal and abstinence isn't that bad once you get past social assumptions and barriers


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If other methods don't work out, will you get an abortion?

I find that unlikely. First off its not my decision. She is against them anyway and I'm not going to push the issue. If she does go through with it we will do one of those adoption things where it goes directly to a couple that cannot have kids.

 

She didn't tell me right off though because she didn't want me to spend the $50.00 on a plan B.

 

That would piss me off. I've only been really angry once in my life and it takes a lot, but that would do it for me. It's only $30, and if she was that worried she could have paid for some of it. The price of the pill is a [cabbage] load cheaper than the price of a kid.

I was mad at first when she told me. But it wasn't like she waited a few days. It was more until next time she went to take a pill and it was like uh we shouldn't have done it. So more hesitation? But I cannot really be pissed at her because it takes two to mess up. I didn't wear a condom so I really cannot blame it all on her.

 

As for magegoogles, I hope it all works out well. Be proud that you may have a kid soon. It's really a beautiful thing. Planned or otherwise.

Thanks.

 

They had sex on the days that the doctor told them not to. That's not bad luck.

He said accidents happen. I'm not sure if her no-sex day was shifted unexpectedly or if she just didn't care.

It was an accident. It was more the fact she forgot she wasn't on a real pill that day. And yes I do believe that it shifted a day or two varying from month to month.

 

After a few months of having sex we decided going raw is more fun

Really?

 

Anyway, I was in a similar situation in 2008. My girlfriend and I were in the States when we found out she was 4 months preggas. We decided to terminate and it was illegal in CT so we had to jump states. Nothing has made me feel so rotten in my whole life. But it was a decision we gave a lot of consideration to and despite her religious convictions and my sense of duty we knew we would be doing a disservice to ourselves and society by attempting to soundly raise a child while still at school.

 

We talked about existentialism and what gives life meaning (according to us). In hindsight the steps we went through and the consideration we gave made it easier and a decision we were less likely to regret. Remember that its something you will have to live with the rest of your life either way. We also decided that regret wasn't productive and that we would make steps to help children who are malnourished/dying and make a difference that way.

 

Contraception is a big deal and abstinence isn't that bad once you get past social assumptions and barriers

Haha yes. Not worth it though once stuff like this happens sadly.

 

And thanks for that input. Again its not my decision. I'm leaving it entirely up to her since she has to be the one to carry the baby and such. I'm like 90 percent positive that her mom has had one before. And if she finds out she will force on her despite the fact that she is 18. And I want to say at one point she said her mom and her siblings have a high miscarriage rate. Though I don't want to ask now because that is very in appropriate that I would wish for something like that to happen.

 

I don't really have many updates just it is now 3 days late and if another 2 pass she will take a test for positive confirmation.

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...have a high miscarriage rate. Though I don't want to ask now because that is very in appropriate that I would wish for something like that to happen.

Good call. Huge props


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