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Self-confidence is something requires work. It isn't something you just attain and then retain. You constantly have to make yourself feel better.

 

When it comes to confidence and talking to women, I usually tell people to just sack up. If she doesn't like you, she doesn't like you. If she likes you, she likes you. Be yourself. Be confident in who you are. If you're a bit shy, that's okay. As long as you can sack up and talk to the woman.

 

When I say "be confident in who you are" I mean just that. That should be easy to do. Follow my checklist:

 

1.) Do I know my name?

2.) Do I know where I came from?

3.) Do I know what I am doing with my life?

4.) Do I know who my family is?

5.) Do I know who my friends are?

6.) Do I know what my morals are?

7.) Do I know what interests me?

8.) Do I know how to listen?

 

If can answer the first 7, you're golden for talking to women. Number 8 is critical, but, sometimes the ladies like to listen.

 

 

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Ratchet,

 

If you truly mean something to her, she will make time for you. Let her ask you to hang out. Don't ask her. If she is busy and you're asking her to hang out, it will stress her out and you will get sidelined. Patience is key, she will come to you.

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To expand upon what I asked, thanks the advice is useful. However (sorry I wasn't specific originally) how do you boost a girls self confidence? My girlfriends self confidence is rock bottom and it is a tad worrying because nothing seems to help it or improve it...

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Support her. Listen to what she has to say when she's down. Let her prompt you for a response. (unless it is something you really feel you need to chime in on). My fiancée can have that same problem. Support her, tell her she's great and such, but don't overdo it. It's hard to say, but be supportive of her and be positive for her.

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Probably better asked elsewhere but how do you try and get somebody to have more self confidence?

 

Convince her to do really fun things. Go tree climbing, go rock climbing, go sky diving, go skinny dipping (Bonus for you too :thumbup:), tell her how beautiful she is, buy her nice things, say how amazing she is. Make her feel good, make her do adventurous things, make her have fun. Also, recruit her friends to help you out with that. But when you do talk to them about it, make sure you choose your words carefully, so that you sound like you want to help her rather than you want to help yourself (It might be easy to say the wrong things).

There's no such thing as regret. A regret means you are unhappy with the person you are now,

and if you're unhappy with the person you are, you change yourself. That

regret will no longer be a regret, because it will help to form the new,

better you. So really, a regret isn't a regret.

It's experience.

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6.) Do I know what my morals are?

 

Emphasis on this. When faced with a tough choice, it's always easier to know you're doing the right thing if you don't have to think about what the right thing is on the spot.

Matt: You want that eh? You want everything good for you. You want everything that's--falls off garbage can

Camera guy: Whoa, haha, are you okay dude?

Matt: You want anything funny that happens, don't you?

Camera guy: still laughing

Matt: You want the funny shit that happens here and there, you think it comes out of your [bleep]ing [wagon] pushes garbage can down, don't you? You think it's funny? It comes out of here! running towards Camera guy

Camera guy: runs away still laughing

Matt: You think the funny comes out of your mother[bleep]ing creativity? Comes out of Satan, mother[bleep]er! nn--ngh! pushes Camera guy down

Camera guy: Hoooholy [bleep]!

Matt: FUNNY ISN'T REAL! FUNNY ISN'T REAL!

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Probably better asked elsewhere but how do you try and get somebody to have more self confidence?

 

Convince her to do really fun things. Go tree climbing, go rock climbing, go sky diving, go skinny dipping (Bonus for you too :thumbup:), tell her how beautiful she is, buy her nice things, say how amazing she is. Make her feel good, make her do adventurous things, make her have fun. Also, recruit her friends to help you out with that. But when you do talk to them about it, make sure you choose your words carefully, so that you sound like you want to help her rather than you want to help yourself (It might be easy to say the wrong things).

 

Tried and still doing all in italics, she just doesn't seem to want to listen. Which is strange saying she is the least stubborn person I know of.

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there be homosexual relations in this post:

 

 

)) so me and my friend went to Ruby Tuesdays today.

 

And

 

We sat down, and i am looking at my menu (but I already know what I want) and this foot nudged mine kinda abruptly: "anything to drink?" I look up. Dear God. Mad hot dude looking anxious as hell. My friend said water. I said "Mr. Pibb." He looks back at me and *cutely* stutters some inane fact about it. You could tell he was trying to start a conversation. I didn't really know what to say, being nervous as hell so I just said "yep." and he kinda walked off. My friend goes "awww, he was really into you." and I was like "really? I couldn't tell." But he comes back and asks what we want, and he'll only talk to my friends, not really me. And she said "I want the chicken." HE started going all"ohyea thats so amazing etc. etc. its REALLY good." and then I say "hamburger" "k." He was afraid to talk to me, wouldn't say one thing, but kept on talking to my friend. But as soon as he thought I wasn't looking he would stare at me (I could tell from the reflection of a glass, and thats what my friend would say.) And he really did not make eye contact with me, it was just -- so obvious. Lol. And he's so hot. So, even though I'm not forward whatsoever, I left my # on the receipt in the tip pile, maybe he'll text. He also kept on getting *my* order wrong and would profusely apologize. And my friend was like "hes really really really into you" So cute...

 

 

Perhaps I'll get a text? Or he didn't realize my # was on the receipt and threw it out by accident.

 

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I do not know what to do. I am so nervous right now.

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there be homosexual relations in this post:

 

 

)) so me and my friend went to Ruby Tuesdays today.

 

And

 

We sat down, and i am looking at my menu (but I already know what I want) and this foot nudged mine kinda abruptly: "anything to drink?" I look up. Dear God. Mad hot dude looking anxious as hell. My friend said water. I said "Mr. Pibb." He looks back at me and *cutely* stutters some inane fact about it. You could tell he was trying to start a conversation. I didn't really know what to say, being nervous as hell so I just said "yep." and he kinda walked off. My friend goes "awww, he was really into you." and I was like "really? I couldn't tell." But he comes back and asks what we want, and he'll only talk to my friends, not really me. And she said "I want the chicken." HE started going all"ohyea thats so amazing etc. etc. its REALLY good." and then I say "hamburger" "k." He was afraid to talk to me, wouldn't say one thing, but kept on talking to my friend. But as soon as he thought I wasn't looking he would stare at me (I could tell from the reflection of a glass, and thats what my friend would say.) And he really did not make eye contact with me, it was just -- so obvious. Lol. And he's so hot. So, even though I'm not forward whatsoever, I left my # on the receipt in the tip pile, maybe he'll text. He also kept on getting *my* order wrong and would profusely apologize. And my friend was like "hes really really really into you" So cute...

 

 

Perhaps I'll get a text? Or he didn't realize my # was on the receipt and threw it out by accident.

 

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I do not know what to do. I am so nervous right now.

 

You wait. And you don't go crazy in the event you get that mystery text. Shoulda had a direct confrontation. Then you wouldn't be in this spot :P

 

Hind site is 20/20

 

You could always go back to the restaurant and request him as a server

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You have to understand... nvm. Like... Maybe. Even if he doesn't text back I'll be glad I chose to do it.

I have all the 99s, and have been playing since 2001. Comped 4/30/15 

My Araxxi Kills: 459::Araxxi Drops(KC):

Araxxi Hilts: 4x Eye (14/126/149/459), Web - (100) Fang (193)

Araxxi Legs Completed: 5 ---Top (69/206/234/292/361), Middle (163/176/278/343/395), Bottom (135/256/350/359/397)
Boss Pets: Supreme - 848 KC

If you play Xbox One - Add me! GT: Urtehnoes - Currently on a Destiny binge 

 

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You have to understand... nvm. Like... Maybe. Even if he doesn't text back I'll be glad I chose to do it.

How can you understand a concept that means something differently to each individual. You cannot show someone or get them to understand love, they must discover it themselves.

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no, what i meant was why I was hesitant to approach the guy.

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My Araxxi Kills: 459::Araxxi Drops(KC):

Araxxi Hilts: 4x Eye (14/126/149/459), Web - (100) Fang (193)

Araxxi Legs Completed: 5 ---Top (69/206/234/292/361), Middle (163/176/278/343/395), Bottom (135/256/350/359/397)
Boss Pets: Supreme - 848 KC

If you play Xbox One - Add me! GT: Urtehnoes - Currently on a Destiny binge 

 

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Its not rejection, its complicated.

I have all the 99s, and have been playing since 2001. Comped 4/30/15 

My Araxxi Kills: 459::Araxxi Drops(KC):

Araxxi Hilts: 4x Eye (14/126/149/459), Web - (100) Fang (193)

Araxxi Legs Completed: 5 ---Top (69/206/234/292/361), Middle (163/176/278/343/395), Bottom (135/256/350/359/397)
Boss Pets: Supreme - 848 KC

If you play Xbox One - Add me! GT: Urtehnoes - Currently on a Destiny binge 

 

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Its not rejection, its complicated.

 

This topic is about the pursuit of love, we're not gonna judge you on who you chase after. Hell, there's been stranger posted on here. By myself included haha.

 

I take it your a shy guy, not quite ready to be open to the world, and you weren't ready to announce it to the restaurant for the sake of maybe getting cute dude's digits.

 

Nothing to be embarrassed about man. You got nothing to lose. Judging by the posts he might have been into you. I say you go back there and scout out for him, see if he stares at you the same way again. If yes, make a more direct move. if not, think nothing of it, and find someone else to flirt with.

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Steam: NippleBeardTM

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Its not rejection, its complicated.

 

This topic is about the pursuit of love, we're not gonna judge you on who you chase after. Hell, there's been stranger posted on here. By myself included haha.

 

I take it your a shy guy, not quite ready to be open to the world, and you weren't ready to announce it to the restaurant for the sake of maybe getting cute dude's digits.

 

Nothing to be embarrassed about man. You got nothing to lose. Judging by the posts he might have been into you. I say you go back there and scout out for him, see if he stares at you the same way again. If yes, make a more direct move. if not, think nothing of it, and find someone else to flirt with.

 

 

 

Lets just say, my past experiences with men, have not been pleasant. But it wasn't love oriented.

I have all the 99s, and have been playing since 2001. Comped 4/30/15 

My Araxxi Kills: 459::Araxxi Drops(KC):

Araxxi Hilts: 4x Eye (14/126/149/459), Web - (100) Fang (193)

Araxxi Legs Completed: 5 ---Top (69/206/234/292/361), Middle (163/176/278/343/395), Bottom (135/256/350/359/397)
Boss Pets: Supreme - 848 KC

If you play Xbox One - Add me! GT: Urtehnoes - Currently on a Destiny binge 

 

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but im all out of roofies

I have all the 99s, and have been playing since 2001. Comped 4/30/15 

My Araxxi Kills: 459::Araxxi Drops(KC):

Araxxi Hilts: 4x Eye (14/126/149/459), Web - (100) Fang (193)

Araxxi Legs Completed: 5 ---Top (69/206/234/292/361), Middle (163/176/278/343/395), Bottom (135/256/350/359/397)
Boss Pets: Supreme - 848 KC

If you play Xbox One - Add me! GT: Urtehnoes - Currently on a Destiny binge 

 

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but im all out of roofies

Well, that escalated quickly.

 

If you ever go out again to eat, you should go back to the same restaurant, find out what his name is, etc. etc.

 

I stalked got to know someone at my high school this way, it worked out very well. Probably would have worked out better if I had roofies though.

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oh I know his name, it was on the receipt LOL. And I purposefully gave him my card so he would know my name. But lol I may go back next sunday, except I don't really like the food there! rofl.

I have all the 99s, and have been playing since 2001. Comped 4/30/15 

My Araxxi Kills: 459::Araxxi Drops(KC):

Araxxi Hilts: 4x Eye (14/126/149/459), Web - (100) Fang (193)

Araxxi Legs Completed: 5 ---Top (69/206/234/292/361), Middle (163/176/278/343/395), Bottom (135/256/350/359/397)
Boss Pets: Supreme - 848 KC

If you play Xbox One - Add me! GT: Urtehnoes - Currently on a Destiny binge 

 

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oh I know his name, it was on the receipt LOL. And I purposefully gave him my card so he would know my name. But lol I may go back next sunday, except I don't really like the food there! rofl.

Clever. I get the feeling you've stalked done this before. :-w

 

What makes this any more complicated or troublesome than any other flirtations or relationships you've had before? I know bad past experiences obviously can create a hesitation when embarking on new ones... I could see how that would make someone be like, "MEH..."

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I said they weren't love oriented. In my house you're not allowed to date until after college. I've never been "intimate," with anyone per se. But. [cabbage], it's touchy.

 

 

Its... Ok. When I was young, I had a very bad sexual encounter with another man. we'll leave at that. Ever since that I've been extremely afraid of being around other men. That is why. I don't care about my heart being broken. I was also "gay bashed" (stupid term) a few times in early middle school from redneck jocks. I can't go through it again. Thats why its so hard for me to just reach out.

 

 

edit: and wow, I really didn't want to say that. I'm not looking for pity people. I just didn't want you to think I was afraid to get my heart broken.

I have all the 99s, and have been playing since 2001. Comped 4/30/15 

My Araxxi Kills: 459::Araxxi Drops(KC):

Araxxi Hilts: 4x Eye (14/126/149/459), Web - (100) Fang (193)

Araxxi Legs Completed: 5 ---Top (69/206/234/292/361), Middle (163/176/278/343/395), Bottom (135/256/350/359/397)
Boss Pets: Supreme - 848 KC

If you play Xbox One - Add me! GT: Urtehnoes - Currently on a Destiny binge 

 

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Best of luck, bonkers. And sorry about the things I've said to you.

Matt: You want that eh? You want everything good for you. You want everything that's--falls off garbage can

Camera guy: Whoa, haha, are you okay dude?

Matt: You want anything funny that happens, don't you?

Camera guy: still laughing

Matt: You want the funny shit that happens here and there, you think it comes out of your [bleep]ing [wagon] pushes garbage can down, don't you? You think it's funny? It comes out of here! running towards Camera guy

Camera guy: runs away still laughing

Matt: You think the funny comes out of your mother[bleep]ing creativity? Comes out of Satan, mother[bleep]er! nn--ngh! pushes Camera guy down

Camera guy: Hoooholy [bleep]!

Matt: FUNNY ISN'T REAL! FUNNY ISN'T REAL!

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