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Spent the afternoon with a girl called Tessa that i've been talking to a lot recently - she seemed to respond well to my rather subtle flirting. Watched a couple of movies with her, and she didn't seem to mind when I put my arm around her. I don't know what to do now, really.

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Spent the afternoon with a girl called Tessa that i've been talking to a lot recently - she seemed to respond well to my rather subtle flirting. Watched a couple of movies with her, and she didn't seem to mind when I put my arm around her. I don't know what to do now, really.

 

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Spent the afternoon with a girl called Tessa that i've been talking to a lot recently - she seemed to respond well to my rather subtle flirting. Watched a couple of movies with her, and she didn't seem to mind when I put my arm around her. I don't know what to do now, really.

 

 

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Spent the afternoon with a girl called Tessa that i've been talking to a lot recently - she seemed to respond well to my rather subtle flirting. Watched a couple of movies with her, and she didn't seem to mind when I put my arm around her. I don't know what to do now, really.

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Well, I guess I'll post this here. I'm 17, turning 18 in a few months. I have Tourette's Syndrom, and the main tic that I have causes me to jerk my head around. It happens quite frequently, probably anywhere between 5-10 times a minute depending on how bad it gets based on anxiety and what not. I find it hard to approach girls due to this, any tips?

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Well, I guess I'll post this here. I'm 17, turning 18 in a few months. I have Tourette's Syndrom, and the main tic that I have causes me to jerk my head around. It happens quite frequently, probably anywhere between 5-10 times a minute depending on how bad it gets based on anxiety and what not. I find it hard to approach girls due to this, any tips?

Honestly I wouldn't let it get in the way if I were you. If you have a nice personality, just play it off like it doesn't bother you. "Yea I have Tourette's, oh well." Be confident regardless of it. If anything, laugh it off if it embarrasses you. My two cents anyway.

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Conquering a disability, or a social handicap like that is not only an impressive feat, but a rather attractive one. Like Josh Blue. Yeah, he has no control over his one arm, and he has cerebral palsy, but he's a damn fine comedian and is great with people.

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Well, I guess I'll post this here. I'm 17, turning 18 in a few months. I have Tourette's Syndrom, and the main tic that I have causes me to jerk my head around. It happens quite frequently, probably anywhere between 5-10 times a minute depending on how bad it gets based on anxiety and what not. I find it hard to approach girls due to this, any tips?

 

Tell girls about it straight off, if you find one you are interested in. If they're worth it, it won't bother them at all. Experienced as a 17, turning 18 in a few months male with Tourette's Syndrome that includes facial and vocal tics (not swearing) that vary based on anxiety :shades: .

 

I told a girl I liked about my Tourette's the first day we hung out, and we've been going out for 7 months. It is really a non-issue, completely. If anything, it has gotten a bit better since I've been dating her, because having someone non-family who understands about it is really important.

 

But yeah, the most important thing is to tell them. Hell, tell anybody you know really, because people only think that Tourette's is weird when they don't know it's Tourette's, and think it's just a person twitching. As soon as they know what it is they stop noticing it, because they realize it doesn't really affect who a person is at all.

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Thanks for the support guys. And yeah, my two really close friends have told me that they don't really even notice it anymore (not that it doesn't happen, they just don't pay any mind to it).

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It's been a week and I still didn't get to see her. She was ill last week so she didn't come most days, and when she was there I couldn't find her. I feel slightly discouraged now but I'm still going to ask her out. Tomorrow I'm sure to meet her unless something bad happens so I just want to confirm I'm not going to sound wrong.

 

Basically I'm just going to be straight, gonna say hi and all that, very quickly re-introduce myself as the guy who's in the same sports class as her at school, and then I'll tell her something in the lines of "i generally don't do this, but i'd be disappointed about myself if I didn't come ask you this, would you like come for a coffee sometime when you're free?", and that's it. Then it's all about what she replies, and if she says yes it's gonna be dead easy from there on.

 

She's gonna feel happy if I'm honnest about it, isn't she?

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It's been a week and I still didn't get to see her. She was ill last week so she didn't come most days, and when she was there I couldn't find her. I feel slightly discouraged now but I'm still going to ask her out. Tomorrow I'm sure to meet her unless something bad happens so I just want to confirm I'm not going to sound wrong.

 

Basically I'm just going to be straight, gonna say hi and all that, very quickly re-introduce myself as the guy who's in the same sports class as her at school, and then I'll tell her something in the lines of "i generally don't do this, but i'd be disappointed about myself if I didn't come ask you this, would you like come for a coffee sometime when you're free?", and that's it. Then it's all about what she replies, and if she says yes it's gonna be dead easy from there on.

 

She's gonna feel happy if I'm honnest about it, isn't she?

Don't make a school presentation out of yourself, she knows you're in her sports class probably. But other than that you've got the idea. She won't necessarily be happy if you're direct, but she'll certainly appreciate, i.e. she won't be unhappy

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Camera guy: Whoa, haha, are you okay dude?

Matt: You want anything funny that happens, don't you?

Camera guy: still laughing

Matt: You want the funny shit that happens here and there, you think it comes out of your [bleep]ing [wagon] pushes garbage can down, don't you? You think it's funny? It comes out of here! running towards Camera guy

Camera guy: runs away still laughing

Matt: You think the funny comes out of your mother[bleep]ing creativity? Comes out of Satan, mother[bleep]er! nn--ngh! pushes Camera guy down

Camera guy: Hoooholy [bleep]!

Matt: FUNNY ISN'T REAL! FUNNY ISN'T REAL!

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Tell girls about it straight off, if you find one you are interested in. If they're worth it, it won't bother them at all. Experienced as a 17, turning 18 in a few months male with Tourette's Syndrome that includes facial and vocal tics (not swearing) that vary based on anxiety :shades:

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It's been a week and I still didn't get to see her. She was ill last week so she didn't come most days, and when she was there I couldn't find her. I feel slightly discouraged now but I'm still going to ask her out. Tomorrow I'm sure to meet her unless something bad happens so I just want to confirm I'm not going to sound wrong.

 

Basically I'm just going to be straight, gonna say hi and all that, very quickly re-introduce myself as the guy who's in the same sports class as her at school, and then I'll tell her something in the lines of "i generally don't do this, but i'd be disappointed about myself if I didn't come ask you this, would you like come for a coffee sometime when you're free?", and that's it. Then it's all about what she replies, and if she says yes it's gonna be dead easy from there on.

 

She's gonna feel happy if I'm honnest about it, isn't she?

Don't make a school presentation out of yourself, she knows you're in her sports class probably. But other than that you've got the idea. She won't necessarily be happy if you're direct, but she'll certainly appreciate, i.e. she won't be unhappy

That's reassuring, thanks.

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That's reassuring, thanks.

Go get 'er.

Matt: You want that eh? You want everything good for you. You want everything that's--falls off garbage can

Camera guy: Whoa, haha, are you okay dude?

Matt: You want anything funny that happens, don't you?

Camera guy: still laughing

Matt: You want the funny shit that happens here and there, you think it comes out of your [bleep]ing [wagon] pushes garbage can down, don't you? You think it's funny? It comes out of here! running towards Camera guy

Camera guy: runs away still laughing

Matt: You think the funny comes out of your mother[bleep]ing creativity? Comes out of Satan, mother[bleep]er! nn--ngh! pushes Camera guy down

Camera guy: Hoooholy [bleep]!

Matt: FUNNY ISN'T REAL! FUNNY ISN'T REAL!

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Today I went and did it. At the wrong time probably, she was going to class and I met her at the stairs, was a bit crowded. I told her that. I was incredibly nervous, I even forgot to tell her who I was. She looked at me, clearly confused herself. I was fighting my fear really hard and my lips were shaking, but I tried to smile. Then she told me she would tell me what she decided later, starting to go away. I said ok and turned around, almost fleeing. For a few seconds, I didn't think at all. Nothing. I was under the shock. Then the first thing I thought was that I felt ashamed of what I had just done, I felt hatred towards myself, and I thought she ment "no". I went outside take some air and just blamed myself. I never felt so ashamed. I may have told her what I wanted to say, without interruptions or "ummms" but I was so obviously nervous I took it for a failure.

 

Now I wonder if I will ask her what she thinks after all.. or if I'll take it for a no and forget about it... I feel awkward. I feel like I'm having a nightmare and that none of this is real, this is just beyond me.

 

EDIT: K so she skipped sports class and I didn't see her. I think she's probably feeling uneasy about all this and prefered to avoid me. But it's also been two or three times she doesn't come to this class. If the first possibility is true then this is kinda bad I guess...

 

I really don't know what to think. She told me she'd tell me later while she was going away. At first I thought she was fleeing but, at the same time it happened at the stairs when classes were beginning.. she was getting a bit pushed by the crowd and all, couldn't stay there either. Was a pretty bad place. So I don't really know. I need some advice cause I'm going paranoid here, please.

 

Should I perhaps add her on Facebook now and ask her? Or should I go ask her personally again tomorrow?

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Firstly, calm down. You've got analysis paralysis, and it doesn't come off well.

 

When making any interaction, just relax and be calm. If you're nervous, it'll be obvious, and it's very rarely (if ever) that women are attracted to nervous guys.

 

Secondly, Don't add her on facebook now. Don't personally ask her again tomorrow. This will come across as obsession, and you don't want to look like a stalker or just generally obsessive (obsession turns into being clingy, and no-one wants that).

 

Don't mention it again. If you do, you'll make it awkward for her, which she may again take as obsession. If you care about her, you'll try your damn best to not make it awkward at all. If she doesn't mention it at all, and is fine around you in general, then stick with that.

 

Someone will have to say it, but you've hit a brick wall with this particular female. Best thing to do would be to cut your losses.

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Yeah dude, let it ride. You did what you could, now the ball's in her court. if she takes anymore than a week, you're allowed to flip out on her though for making you feel like an idiot lol

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Firstly, calm down. You've got analysis paralysis, and it doesn't come off well.

 

When making any interaction, just relax and be calm. If you're nervous, it'll be obvious, and it's very rarely (if ever) that women are attracted to nervous guys.

 

Secondly, Don't add her on facebook now. Don't personally ask her again tomorrow. This will come across as obsession, and you don't want to look like a stalker or just generally obsessive (obsession turns into being clingy, and no-one wants that).

 

Don't mention it again. If you do, you'll make it awkward for her, which she may again take as obsession. If you care about her, you'll try your damn best to not make it awkward at all. If she doesn't mention it at all, and is fine around you in general, then stick with that.

 

Someone will have to say it, but you've hit a brick wall with this particular female. Best thing to do would be to cut your losses.

I don't think she'll ever come and give me an answer then. I was obviously nervous. Not gonna get my hopes up. I experienced just how much guts it takes to do something like this and I don't think she's gonna find that much courage to come and talk to me in return, especially when she's not the one interested. I'll give this up it's all just way too overwhelming for me already, unless she does come. I'm somebody who needs to go through the friend part first, I guess. Too paranoid and underconfident... can't get over such problems overnight. I thank everybody for the help though, I'm surprised I had the nerve to go and ask out a girl I barely ever talked to.

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Confidence isn't something you suddenly get overnight, it develops as you live your life. By doing this in the first place, you've proved that you have the confidence to do it.

 

You should never think that you can't do something, only about when you're going to do it. Nothing is impossible, but for many people, what's holding them back is themselves.

 

If she doesn't talk to you for a week about it, you may as well do what rpg said, since she will have demonstrated she has no interest. Doing so will also show and prove your confidence.

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I wouldn't "flip out" on her though. If she doesn't feel the same way about you, there isn't too much about it that you can do. And, correct me if I am wrong, but it seemed like you and her hadn't ever really spoken to each other much, just seen each other in a class. Probably not the best idea to ask out a girl that you haven't talked to that much. I would just wait and see how everything goes in the future.

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