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I don't know about any body else but... if I was suffering from a lack of experience I'd want things to be going as slowly as possible, not rushing in there like the proverbial bull. I'm kind of worried to be honest because if she does happen to find someone willing to move as quickly as she is I'm afraid it'll turn into a runaway train crash, or worse still, she'll find someone that takes advantage of the keeness and doesn't really care about the emotional consequences. I mean, people 'date' for a reason, has she never heard of taking it slowly?

 

But this is all digression really. At the end of the day, what position are you in? She's 200mi away so dating is impracticle. She's a little bit... clingy, shall we say, at least she's full of something that doesn't endear herself to you. Is there much going for this relationship before it's even begun?

 

If the answer is 'No' then... just tell her politely to get lost. IDK make up some semi-BS excuse like, "I live too far away and I'm focused on school because I don't want to mess up my chances of going to uni, so maybe we should just move on."

 

Make yourself seem vulnerable and make it look like you've got a decent enough reason for GTFO-ing out of there and she'll probably buy it without taking it too personally.

 

EDIT: I just read on the political thread that you're from the UK. I previously assumed the US, but 200 mi in the UK is a HUGE distance. I worked out how much it would cost me to get on a train for 200 mi from Preston and it's upwards of £80. :blink:

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Ah, thanks Warrior. And I agree, a lack of experience would take things slowly but obviously not her. She wanted my phone number within two sentences so either I'm reading it wrong or she is a bit crazy. I don't even know if she has a long term relationship before; I hardly know her expect that she wants to study the same degree at the same university as me now.

I don't even have faint attraction to her, she seems a nice person but I'm not going to try and do long term relationships at my age when's she is 200 miles away. i) impractical ii) unlikely to last. I think going down the route of ignoring all texts/messages from here should paint the picture as telling her where to go hasn't worked, thinking it's some joke. Just need to remember to not delete her number this time and it should work.

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Put it all behind you, or at least tell me what happened because my potential music career was ruined a few months ago. When I said I needed that song, that meant that I needed a demo to send to an independent record label. I didn't have the song so I called them back saying that I had nothing.

 

This June I went on tour, don't ask how I got to do that because I don't even know. I'm sending demos of my own songs to a few independent record labels and I'm going on a tour Fall-Winter 2011 and again Spring-Summer 2012 and I kinda want to use my own songs.

 

It's incredibly hard for solo artists to go anywhere unless they're on some mainstream pop label or whatever. And guitarists are a dime a dozen so really be grateful I'm asking you to help me with this tour after what happened. Whether it was my fault or not, I just kinda wanna know what happened. It's over and I don't make the same mistake twice.

 

If you really don't accept this as my way of saying that I really messed up, don't even answer, block me, and I really hope you have a better life than mine will be without this opportunity, and I'd be so sorry I even asked.

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I have a dilemma.

 

There's two girls. I'm confused

 

A) I know for definite she likes me - a friend of her's told me. I've tried to set up a date (shopping) with her - at first she said 'yeah sure', but i've spoken to her in these past couple of days and she doesn't seem very, well, happy. She seems happy speaking to other people.

 

B) I don't know for definite that she likes me, but i'm not stupid, and I know IOI - she chats to me practically every day, and seems receptive to my *light* flirting.

 

Either way, when I make a move, i'm going to hurt one of them. Just a bit confused.


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I still don't understand why anyone would want an opposite sex relationship besides for the sex. Puzzles me.


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I still don't understand why anyone would want an opposite sex relationship besides for the sex. Puzzles me.

I get kinda bored talking to guys all of the time, and seeing as I don't go the other way way having a girlfriend is someone of the opposite sex to talk to +more.


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I still don't understand why anyone would want an opposite sex relationship besides for the sex. Puzzles me.

For the same reason you would want to be friends with someone.


Matt: You want that eh? You want everything good for you. You want everything that's--falls off garbage can

Camera guy: Whoa, haha, are you okay dude?

Matt: You want anything funny that happens, don't you?

Camera guy: still laughing

Matt: You want the funny shit that happens here and there, you think it comes out of your [bleep]ing [wagon] pushes garbage can down, don't you? You think it's funny? It comes out of here! running towards Camera guy

Camera guy: runs away still laughing

Matt: You think the funny comes out of your mother[bleep]ing creativity? Comes out of Satan, mother[bleep]er! nn--ngh! pushes Camera guy down

Camera guy: Hoooholy [bleep]!

Matt: FUNNY ISN'T REAL! FUNNY ISN'T REAL!

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I still don't understand why anyone would want an opposite sex relationship besides for the sex. Puzzles me.

Are you trying to somehow validate for yourself that having a relationship is not interesting/fun so you can justify not wanting to have one when you actually do?


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Or he's just trolling, the other threads he is talking about why friends annoy him.

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Well it's true that being in an exclusive relationship doesn't really yield any benefits. You don't need to be in an exclusive relationship w/ someone to fall in love with them, tell them you love them, have sex with them, have kids with them, live with them, etc.


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He's not talking about an exclusive relationship though, he's talking about any relationship.

 

I think the main reason is companionship. It's pretty common for people to stick close to the people they like and move away from the people they don't like. Wanting to be in an intimate relationship with someone you love and feel safe around is just a natural extension of that.

 

Besides, I think most people report that having sex while in a relationship is more satisfying than having sex with someone you're not in a relationship with, in general.

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He's not talking about an exclusive relationship though, he's talking about any relationship.

 

I think the main reason is companionship. It's pretty common for people to stick close to the people they like and move away from the people they don't like. Wanting to be in an intimate relationship with someone you love and feel safe around is just a natural extension of that.

 

Besides, I think most people report that having sex while in a relationship is more satisfying than having sex with someone you're not in a relationship with, in general.

 

I can attest to that. Relationships just make you feel good. It's a wonderful thing.


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My girlfriend and I are in a relationship because we genuinely enjoy spending a ton of time together, moreso with each other than with other people. As I said to her the other day, it's nice being introverts (the where-you-draw-your-energy-from type, not the anti-social type.) together.


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My girlfriend and I are in a relationship because we genuinely enjoy spending a ton of time together, moreso with each other than with other people. As I said to her the other day, it's nice being introverts (the where-you-draw-your-energy-from type, not the anti-social type.) together.

 

 

My fiancée and I say that we are each other's best friend. It's true. She is my best friend.


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My girlfriend and I are in a relationship because we genuinely enjoy spending a ton of time together, moreso with each other than with other people. As I said to her the other day, it's nice being introverts (the where-you-draw-your-energy-from type, not the anti-social type.) together.

 

 

My fiancée and I say that we are each other's best friend. It's true. She is my best friend.

I think this is how the world should be.


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Best friends have no secrets - the must fufilling relationships have no secrets.


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I half disagree, to be honest. Lies are bad. Secrets give a sense of mystery to the relationship.

 

I sure as hell wouldn't want to know everything about someone else. There's just stuff I'd rather not know.

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I half disagree, to be honest. Lies are bad. Secrets give a sense of mystery to the relationship.

 

I sure as hell wouldn't want to know everything about someone else. There's just stuff I'd rather not know.

 

But secrets can be self destructive. I don't mind not knowing things but if I want to know them or need I like to be able to know she will tell me without trying to hide it.

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Does anyone else have that really attractive female friend that you've known forever get along great with, mutually agreed that friendship is where its at, but then when you get drunk together she's all up on you? [only to completely reject you whole heatedly when sober?]


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No I don't, but drunk actions are sober thoughts, right?

 

My guess is that when she's sober, she realises a relationship could ruin the friendship, but when she's drunk, she cares a little less about that than she'd otherwise want to. Still, end result suggests she's very happy keeping it in the 'friend zone'.

 

And Standard... I think the point I'm making is when secrets turn into lies, and when they start to affect and harm other people, there's a problem; but a relationship where the other person knows everything about my history, my actions and my thoughts makes the word 'love' turn into doublethink.

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No I don't, but drunk actions are sober thoughts, right?

 

My guess is that when she's sober, she realises a relationship could ruin the friendship, but when she's drunk, she cares a little less about that than she'd otherwise want to. Still, end result suggests she's very happy keeping it in the 'friend zone'.

 

naw, and I'm cool with that. She's one of my best friends. In fact she's my ex's best friend, and one of my best friend's ex's. She recently just got a boyfriend too. But we've always joked about how weird it would be for us to get together like that. I mean, I've kissed her and stuff before, but it's all just like close-feelings not like romantic feelings y'know? it's just funny how repulsed by the thought of hooking up with me she is when she's sober, but then she's all up in my stuff when she's drunk haha. i was just curious if anyone else has ever had a relationship like that with someone.


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Is something a secret if no one is trying to uncover it? :o


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