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"I want a girlfriend/boyfriend", and other such relationship advice

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Then he was probably trying to get it in. Welcome to campus life.

 

As for hitting on girls in relationships, I'm alright with being a thief if and only if:

1) I'm in a good place

2) Their relationship isn't serious OR Their relationship is unhealthy

3) She's unhappy in her current situation

4) I don't like/have never liked the boyfriend

I'd say if a girl cheats then she's not happy/their relationship isn't serious/it isn't healthy, so it's not really a prerequisite as much as something you find out if you don't get a drink thrown in your face (does anyone do that? just thinking about it hurts my wallet).


Matt: You want that eh? You want everything good for you. You want everything that's--falls off garbage can

Camera guy: Whoa, haha, are you okay dude?

Matt: You want anything funny that happens, don't you?

Camera guy: still laughing

Matt: You want the funny shit that happens here and there, you think it comes out of your [bleep]ing [wagon] pushes garbage can down, don't you? You think it's funny? It comes out of here! running towards Camera guy

Camera guy: runs away still laughing

Matt: You think the funny comes out of your mother[bleep]ing creativity? Comes out of Satan, mother[bleep]er! nn--ngh! pushes Camera guy down

Camera guy: Hoooholy [bleep]!

Matt: FUNNY ISN'T REAL! FUNNY ISN'T REAL!

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Is it a little weird to anyone, other than me, to see people dating in games? I don't mean that they're together and they play the game together. I mean they met on the game, and started dating on the game. Most of the people I've seen do this have never met the other person in real life & they're acting like it's a serious relationship. There is a certain RS couple that have been dating on RS for 2 years, but have never met in real life, texted, called, skyped or anything. It's 100% strictly RS, but the girl is saying they're going to get married in real life, and have kids. They both say they're in their 20's, but how can either of them be so sure?

 

You really cant be so sure of it. But tot hem playing runescape is how they socialize and thats how they met each other, their rationality makes sense to them. While I neither agree or disagree or condone of their actions I guess whatever makes them happy right? But setting goals like that just sets you up for dissapointment. Especially if they never have met in real life or skyped or called or even texted. How do they even know what each other looks like? What if they arnt the gender they say they are?

Yeah, I mean... I can understand how a relationship formed online without any face-to-face interaction might still be able to provide both parties the characteristics and aspects that they desire and need from a relationship. With relationships and sex, you have to accept that everything is "normal" so long as it makes everyone concerned happy. I think sexuality is obviously an issue since it can't really be expressed through RuneScape, but sexuality doesn't necessarily need to be expressed through intercourse and it's feasible that there are ways around that issue. Of course, a slightly more cynical reality might be that neither of them are expressing sexuality with each other, which will lead to repression of that sexuality which will eventually cause problems but, that's their judgement and their choice.

 

A baby though... that's another human being which will be born with a huge variety of complicated human needs, and if you're in an online relationship, there's no possible way you can make a judgement on whether the two of you combined can, in practical terms, provide for that child's needs.

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Is it a little weird to anyone, other than me, to see people dating in games? I don't mean that they're together and they play the game together. I mean they met on the game, and started dating on the game. Most of the people I've seen do this have never met the other person in real life & they're acting like it's a serious relationship. There is a certain RS couple that have been dating on RS for 2 years, but have never met in real life, texted, called, skyped or anything. It's 100% strictly RS, but the girl is saying they're going to get married in real life, and have kids. They both say they're in their 20's, but how can either of them be so sure?

 

You really cant be so sure of it. But tot hem playing runescape is how they socialize and thats how they met each other, their rationality makes sense to them. While I neither agree or disagree or condone of their actions I guess whatever makes them happy right? But setting goals like that just sets you up for dissapointment. Especially if they never have met in real life or skyped or called or even texted. How do they even know what each other looks like? What if they arnt the gender they say they are?

 

I'm just glad I know my girlfriend in real life (we go to the same school) but we do play a lot of games together (mainly Diablo 3)

 

tl;dr for the tiny one paragraph mindless rambling; its hard to understand people rationality and perspective when you are on the outside, as far fetched as their beliefes souns.

 

Whatever floats your boat. The way I see it, it's another platform in which to meet people, and while I think going into a game to find a relationship is a terrible on idea in every way, it doesn't hit me as particularly odd that as a game friendship moves on to things like skyping with each other in and out of the game, that it could continue to progress. From there is voice chatting, and after that I suppose meeting up in real life at some point.

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Then he was probably trying to get it in. Welcome to campus life.

 

As for hitting on girls in relationships, I'm alright with being a thief if and only if:

1) I'm in a good place

2) Their relationship isn't serious OR Their relationship is unhealthy

3) She's unhappy in her current situation

4) I don't like/have never liked the boyfriend

I'd say if a girl cheats then she's not happy/their relationship isn't serious/it isn't healthy, so it's not really a prerequisite as much as something you find out if you don't get a drink thrown in your face (does anyone do that? just thinking about it hurts my wallet).

 

 

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Its more of not investing so much to a particular girl and not expecting so much out of her.

 

Date for two months, trust her more than your best friend? Ha, good luck with that.

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"The cry of the poor is not always just, but if you never hear it you'll never know what justice is."

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^This. You don't get disappointed when you don't have expectations.


Matt: You want that eh? You want everything good for you. You want everything that's--falls off garbage can

Camera guy: Whoa, haha, are you okay dude?

Matt: You want anything funny that happens, don't you?

Camera guy: still laughing

Matt: You want the funny shit that happens here and there, you think it comes out of your [bleep]ing [wagon] pushes garbage can down, don't you? You think it's funny? It comes out of here! running towards Camera guy

Camera guy: runs away still laughing

Matt: You think the funny comes out of your mother[bleep]ing creativity? Comes out of Satan, mother[bleep]er! nn--ngh! pushes Camera guy down

Camera guy: Hoooholy [bleep]!

Matt: FUNNY ISN'T REAL! FUNNY ISN'T REAL!

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The question then is SHOULD we have expectations in relationships?

I'd argue to a degree, yes. As long as yu have communicated said expectations to the given partner.

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A fair amount of 16-24 year olds in both sexes cheat. Some of that you can put down to sexual experimentation, but I wonder what the communication is like in most of those relationships. I'm reckoning if you feel a need to play away, clearly your current partner isn't doing something for you, and you probably didn't have the balls to talk about it with them. So you took the easy option and got it from someone else.

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Always prepare for the worst.

 

Knowing how widespread cheating, fighting, and breakups are, you're a blind fool if you expect the absolute best from your relationship. Define what you want first: monogamy, polygamy, open-relationship, closed, etc. but, like always, don't entirely expect your partner to fulfill these defines until you really know them.

 

Cynical, sure, but it seems like people find it easier to trust a girl becoming your girlfriend than a guy becoming your friend. What's the difference between friend and girlfriend in terms of trust, expectations, and reliability? In the early stages, not much. So why do people expect so much from their early-staged girlfriends? Social values, social pressures, and social traditions I'm guessing.

 

Trust them explicitly, I don't care. Just don't be surprised when they cheat or breakup with you. Tread with caution.


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A fair amount of 16-24 year olds in both sexes cheat. Some of that you can put down to sexual experimentation, but I wonder what the communication is like in most of those relationships. I'm reckoning if you feel a need to play away, clearly your current partner isn't doing something for you, and you probably didn't have the balls to talk about it with them. So you took the easy option and got it from someone else.

 

Sometimes, like in my once upon a time case, you speak and communicate it to them and they don't listen, which is when maturity plays in.

 

I agree with what Gio said for the most part, surprisingly.

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I had never even dawned on me how stupid it was to be so trusting of girls I've just met when trying to hook up with/date them compared to how much it takes for any of my friend's to have earned my trust.

 

What a strange and enlightening epiphany.


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The question then is SHOULD we have expectations in relationships?

I'd argue to a degree, yes. As long as yu have communicated said expectations to the given partner.

 

Expect human beings to act like human beings; don't expect human beings to act like the angels you see in the movies.


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I had never even dawned on me how stupid it was to be so trusting of girls I've just met when trying to hook up with/date them compared to how much it takes for any of my friend's to have earned my trust.

 

What a strange and enlightening epiphany.

Hormones make you feel funny ways, eh?

 

A fair amount of 16-24 year olds in both sexes cheat. Some of that you can put down to sexual experimentation, but I wonder what the communication is like in most of those relationships. I'm reckoning if you feel a need to play away, clearly your current partner isn't doing something for you, and you probably didn't have the balls to talk about it with them. So you took the easy option and got it from someone else.

 

Sometimes, like in my once upon a time case, you speak and communicate it to them and they don't listen, which is when maturity plays in.

 

I agree with what Gio said for the most part, surprisingly.

The rate at which people cheat drops off significantly after 24, which would back up what you're saying.

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It'll be interesting to see how my generation (I'm entering college this fall/17 yoa), will follow that trend/if at all.

 

I have a feeling the consequences of internet personas/in really life personas are gonna [bleep] society over some in the coming years.

 

By the way, by internet/IRL personas I mean like how people talk/interact online in comparison to ib person. E.G: a "friend" o mine posts/chats on facebook like: "yo brah ye we shul totes hang out lik everyday 4 the summer dude"

You get my point.

And in person he talks entirely normal/correct grammar etc. it seems to be a pretty normal occurrence, too.

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It'll be interesting to see how my generation (I'm entering college this fall/17 yoa), will follow that trend/if at all.

 

I have a feeling the consequences of internet personas/in really life personas are gonna [bleep] society over some in the coming years.

 

By the way, by internet/IRL personas I mean like how people talk/interact online in comparison to ib person. E.G: a "friend" o mine posts/chats on facebook like: "yo brah ye we shul totes hang out lik everyday 4 the summer dude"

You get my point.

And in person he talks entirely normal/correct grammar etc. it seems to be a pretty normal occurrence, too.

 

your age grouping scares me sometimes. I hang around the 17-19 crowd sometimes, and I swear more of them have false alias's, nicknames, destructive habits...


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It'll be interesting to see how my generation (I'm entering college this fall/17 yoa), will follow that trend/if at all.

 

I have a feeling the consequences of internet personas/in really life personas are gonna [bleep] society over some in the coming years.

 

By the way, by internet/IRL personas I mean like how people talk/interact online in comparison to ib person. E.G: a "friend" o mine posts/chats on facebook like: "yo brah ye we shul totes hang out lik everyday 4 the summer dude"

You get my point.

And in person he talks entirely normal/correct grammar etc. it seems to be a pretty normal occurrence, too.

 

your age grouping scares me sometimes. I hang around the 17-19 crowd sometimes, and I swear more of them have false alias's, nicknames, destructive habits...

 

It's true. My own generation scares me. Hahaha

 

I keep telling my parents that I can't wait to see all the Socio/Psychopaths that come out of my generation. It will be so interesting.

 

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Because obviously, you weren't the same at 19 :P

 

Not to put myself or my generation on a high horse but what kids 19 now have experienced is quite different from when I was 19. They don't appreciate Limp Bizkit and KoRn. They're barely old enough to have experienced pokemon in its prime. I can't list specific differences, and maybe there's some geographical dimensions to it too, but it seems the up-coming generations are much screwier than the last. And the pattern continues.


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And probably before that as well, Gingy. Hahaha.

 

But then again, my generation is the first to mature with the internet fullblown (or relatively speaking). The first to be 12-14 and experience facebook, etc.

 

Who knows what that will do to our brains.

 

Though, thankfully, I feel due to for the most part hanging out with people older than me, I haven't taken on as many traits as my generation exhibits.

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Do you guys have prescriptions for those rose tinted glasses?

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The only difference between Hitler and the man next door who comes home and beats his kids every day is circumstance. The intent is the same-- to harm others.

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I told her there was a secret method to doing it - and there is - but my once nimble and agile fingers were unable to perform because I was under the influence.

I would laugh, not hate. I'm a male. :(

Since when was Ireland an island...? :wall:

I actually have a hobby of licking public toilet seats.

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A girl I'm talking to is telling me about her cat named Bambi. I asked her if she calls it that because its mom was killed by hunters. Probably won't be hearing back from her.

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I mean that I think that most talk of how the next generation being wilder/crazier/nastier than their predecessors is mostly based in bias.

 

I mean, just because you weren't an absolute little shit when you were younger didn't mean many of your peers weren't. But when you're their age you're less likely to know about ways in which they're disrespectful/insane because for one you probably won't be associating with the worst ones, and two (if we're talking a lot younger than 19) you might not actually be capable of comprehending what's happening/ have the cognitive ability to realize what they've been doing.

 

Personally I think all generations have more or less been equally disrespectful and short sighted overall (Romans threw the craziest parties, seriously).

 

 

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Muggi, that's the best flirting technique I've heard since "chase the girl with the largest millipede you can find".


The only difference between Hitler and the man next door who comes home and beats his kids every day is circumstance. The intent is the same-- to harm others.

[hide=Tifers say the darndest things]

I told her there was a secret method to doing it - and there is - but my once nimble and agile fingers were unable to perform because I was under the influence.

I would laugh, not hate. I'm a male. :(

Since when was Ireland an island...? :wall:

I actually have a hobby of licking public toilet seats.

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