Sir_Squab Posted July 20, 2014 Share Posted July 20, 2014 Tell her that. Just explain how you feel, and go in with the intention of resolving the issue. Don't come in with the expectation of ending it OR fixing it. 1 Squab unleashes Megiddo! Completed all quests and hard diaries. 75+ Skiller. (At one point.) 2000+ total. 99 Magic.[spoiler=The rest of my sig. You know you wanna see it.]my difinition of noob is i dont like u, either u are better then me or u are worst them meBuying spins make you a bad person...don't do it. It's like buying nukes for North Korea.Well if it bothers you that the game is more fun now, then you can go cry in a corner. :shame:your article was the equivalent of a circumcized porcupineThe only thing wrong with it is the lack of a percentage for when you need to stroke it. Poignant Purple to Lokie's Ravishing Red and Alg's Brilliant Blue. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
muggiwhplar Posted July 20, 2014 Share Posted July 20, 2014 Just go into the conversation with the mentality of gaining more experience and learning new things about relationships/women. You're young. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hedgehog Posted July 20, 2014 Share Posted July 20, 2014 Next time you see her say, "Why have you been distant lately?" Don't try to wait for the right time to ask. Just ask her. If you try to wait, you'll never ask. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RpgGamer Posted July 20, 2014 Share Posted July 20, 2014 Don't treat it like it's over until it is is spot on. After 4 months you should be able to talk to her comfortably about why there seems to be a disconnect without iy turning into a cluster [bleep] Quote Quote Anyone who likes tacos is incapable of logic. Anyone who likes logic is incapable of tacos. PSA: SaqPrets is an Estonian Dude Steam: NippleBeardTM Origin: Brand_New_iPwn Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
muggiwhplar Posted July 21, 2014 Share Posted July 21, 2014 My friend is back on OKC now :) I warned him that online dating's a dead zone from now until late August though, and that he should spend this time making sure he's got good profile pictures while hitting the gym hard and doing other productive things so he can hit the ground running and be on his A-game when online dating starts picking up again. Hopefully he sticks with it. I think he's still reluctant to put in the numbers and treat it as systematically as I do... which will severely hinder his results. It took me 200 openers before I got my first online date, after all :P Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maze Posted July 21, 2014 Share Posted July 21, 2014 We talked about it and things went better than expected. She said she was still interested in me, and that we hadn't texted for a few days because she was busy doing things and she was sick. We're back to talking again and we just accepted that this was just a road bump in the relationship and things will get better as time goes on and we get to know each other more and more. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Low Levelled Posted July 21, 2014 Share Posted July 21, 2014 Too sick to let her boyfriend know she was sick...? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sir_Squab Posted July 21, 2014 Share Posted July 21, 2014 Too sick to let her boyfriend know she was sick...? If he had that kind of attitude he'd probably be angry and single now. Squab unleashes Megiddo! Completed all quests and hard diaries. 75+ Skiller. (At one point.) 2000+ total. 99 Magic.[spoiler=The rest of my sig. You know you wanna see it.]my difinition of noob is i dont like u, either u are better then me or u are worst them meBuying spins make you a bad person...don't do it. It's like buying nukes for North Korea.Well if it bothers you that the game is more fun now, then you can go cry in a corner. :shame:your article was the equivalent of a circumcized porcupineThe only thing wrong with it is the lack of a percentage for when you need to stroke it. Poignant Purple to Lokie's Ravishing Red and Alg's Brilliant Blue. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Low Levelled Posted July 21, 2014 Share Posted July 21, 2014 Too sick to let her boyfriend know she was sick...?If he had that kind of attitude he'd probably be angry and single now.Or single and meeting more women. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RpgGamer Posted July 21, 2014 Share Posted July 21, 2014 Or both. Quote Quote Anyone who likes tacos is incapable of logic. Anyone who likes logic is incapable of tacos. PSA: SaqPrets is an Estonian Dude Steam: NippleBeardTM Origin: Brand_New_iPwn Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Skull Posted July 21, 2014 Share Posted July 21, 2014 Angrily meeting women while single is one of my favorite pastimes. 3 [bleep] the law, they can eat my dick that's word to Pimp Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Low Levelled Posted July 21, 2014 Share Posted July 21, 2014 Guess I just have different expectations of the women I'm with on an intimate level. A few days go by and I get no heads up of what's going on? Then yeah, they're not gonna be in my life any longer. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Omar Posted July 22, 2014 Share Posted July 22, 2014 Too sick to let her boyfriend know she was sick...? If he had that kind of attitude he'd probably be angry and single now. IDK, seems to me that going into a talk thinking that any explanation will do and that a breakup is to be avoided at all costs is a bad attitude to have. 1 Matt: You want that eh? You want everything good for you. You want everything that's--falls off garbage can Camera guy: Whoa, haha, are you okay dude? Matt: You want anything funny that happens, don't you? Camera guy: still laughing Matt: You want the funny shit that happens here and there, you think it comes out of your [bleep]ing [wagon] pushes garbage can down, don't you? You think it's funny? It comes out of here! running towards Camera guy Camera guy: runs away still laughing Matt: You think the funny comes out of your mother[bleep]ing creativity? Comes out of Satan, mother[bleep]er! nn--ngh! pushes Camera guy down Camera guy: Hoooholy [bleep]! Matt: FUNNY ISN'T REAL! FUNNY ISN'T REAL! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
obfuscator Posted July 22, 2014 Share Posted July 22, 2014 We talked about it and things went better than expected. She said she was still interested in me, and that we hadn't texted for a few days because she was busy doing things and she was sick. We're back to talking again and we just accepted that this was just a road bump in the relationship and things will get better as time goes on and we get to know each other more and more. nice to hear, but unless she makes an effort to change her attitude, the relationship is ending whether you/her want to admit it or not. not trying to be a dick. but it's really easy to keep going on and on like this, making excuses, when the reality isn't changing. just be aware that nice words need to be followed up by firm actions. 3 "It's not a rest for me, it's a rest for the weights." - Dom Mazzetti Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
muggiwhplar Posted July 22, 2014 Share Posted July 22, 2014 Yup. Always trust people's actions not their words Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hedgehog Posted July 22, 2014 Share Posted July 22, 2014 Someone on Reddit recently had a similar issue and has some good advice: http://www.reddit.com/r/actuallesbians/comments/2bcsbm/always_follow_your_gut_instinct_ladies/ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sir_Squab Posted July 22, 2014 Share Posted July 22, 2014 Too sick to let her boyfriend know she was sick...? If he had that kind of attitude he'd probably be angry and single now. IDK, seems to me that going into a talk thinking that any explanation will do and that a breakup is to be avoided at all costs is a bad attitude to have. I'm not saying what is or isn't a good attitude. I'm saying that attitude would likely result in him being single and if he wants to keep the relationship going that's a bad attitude to have. Squab unleashes Megiddo! Completed all quests and hard diaries. 75+ Skiller. (At one point.) 2000+ total. 99 Magic.[spoiler=The rest of my sig. You know you wanna see it.]my difinition of noob is i dont like u, either u are better then me or u are worst them meBuying spins make you a bad person...don't do it. It's like buying nukes for North Korea.Well if it bothers you that the game is more fun now, then you can go cry in a corner. :shame:your article was the equivalent of a circumcized porcupineThe only thing wrong with it is the lack of a percentage for when you need to stroke it. Poignant Purple to Lokie's Ravishing Red and Alg's Brilliant Blue. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
muggiwhplar Posted July 22, 2014 Share Posted July 22, 2014 In this case, keeping the relationship alive isn't necessarily a good thing :P Being in a relationship doesn't mean you're successful. Being in a relationship where you are consistently happy means you're successful. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Low Levelled Posted July 23, 2014 Share Posted July 23, 2014 @muggi What's your policy (for lack of a better word) on attending family events? I got my dumb ass invited to a girl's brother's wedding. I'd like to go just for the fun time and alcohol aspect but I don't want to send the wrong message to the girl. Girl is aware exclusivity isn't an option right now, but to make matters a little complicated, her brother is a decent friend of mine.. Girl and I have been FB's basically since summer began, she's from my hometown and we go different schools so I'm hoping that also helps her understand this isn't going anywhere after August.Amicably parted ways last night. Was a good two months of fun though, no ragrets. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maze Posted July 26, 2014 Share Posted July 26, 2014 I broke up with that girl. It was the right thing to do but I'm pretty [bleep]ed up over it. I haven't eaten since. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
muggiwhplar Posted July 26, 2014 Share Posted July 26, 2014 I broke up with that girl. It was the right thing to do but I'm pretty [bleep]ed up over it. I haven't eaten since. You should learn how to date before you get into another monogamous relationship. Your feelings would be more understandable if you'd dated her for 4 years instead of 4 months. But getting this upset over such a short-term relationship isn't healthy. You'll be a lot happier and more in control of your relationship-life when you know that if things go south, it's not the end of the world because you can easily replace her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
obfuscator Posted July 27, 2014 Share Posted July 27, 2014 I broke up with that girl. It was the right thing to do but I'm pretty [bleep]ed up over it. I haven't eaten since.how did she take it? Did she basically say what we'd suspected, that she wasn't into it anymore? "It's not a rest for me, it's a rest for the weights." - Dom Mazzetti Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maze Posted July 27, 2014 Share Posted July 27, 2014 I broke up with that girl. It was the right thing to do but I'm pretty [bleep]ed up over it. I haven't eaten since.how did she take it? Did she basically say what we'd suspected, that she wasn't into it anymore?I drove her home. I said, "I think we're done together," and she just said, "Really? Alright..." and then she got out of the car. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
obfuscator Posted July 27, 2014 Share Posted July 27, 2014 I broke up with that girl. It was the right thing to do but I'm pretty [bleep]ed up over it. I haven't eaten since.how did she take it? Did she basically say what we'd suspected, that she wasn't into it anymore? I drove her home. I said, "I think we're done together," and she just said, "Really? Alright..." and then she got out of the car. yeah...well i think that clearly indicates that she wasn't into it. Sucks man, but you did the right thing, for both of you "It's not a rest for me, it's a rest for the weights." - Dom Mazzetti Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Low Levelled Posted July 27, 2014 Share Posted July 27, 2014 My least favorite part about ending things is when you have to listen to the "I thought you were different" speech. Or the "what did I do wrong" during a sobfest. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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