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Nothing to lose. Ask her out via phone call. Thats why you have her number right? Longer you wait the worse your odds are. Sounds like you at least HAD a shot. Its not too late to try

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I just texted her this morning asking if she was at school, but she hasn't responded yet (I doubt she will at this point). I don't want to be "the creepy guy who keeps texting her", but I also don't want to wait too long. If I do go with your plan, should I try to start a conversation first, or should I just ask out of the blue?

Well, you'd want to make sure she's around when you ask. It'd be kinda awkward to turn on your phone after an exam and see that someone asked you out. If she doesn't reply this time, then you should move on.

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I asked her out today. Well, I asked her if she was doing anything this weekend. If she said no, I would have asked her out, but I think she figured that part out and lied and said she had to pick up her sister (who she previously said only lives 2 hours away, meaning there's no way that would take the whole weekend) and then I said "I guess that means you're busy next week too", to which she replied that she had school. This is the second time I've been rejected. I should have taken your advice and not tried. You were wrong about the stress and anxiety going away, though. I feel terrible.

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You're right. It's so much better to stay at home, look at porn, and never touch a real woman.

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Mate, just because you've been rejected twice doesn't mean jack shit. You probably are not going to have success the first few times. It took me to ask 9 different women on dates/dances which I was rejected for all of them. I even had to ask my current girlfriend 3 times to just go on a date with me. Rejection makes you  stronger and experiencing rejection makes you realize what you need to do differently. 

 

It sucks getting rejecting and you'll probably be sad. Having said that, it is soooo much better than the anxiety of not knowing. 

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I asked her out today. Well, I asked her if she was doing anything this weekend. If she said no, I would have asked her out, but I think she figured that part out and lied and said she had to pick up her sister (who she previously said only lives 2 hours away, meaning there's no way that would take the whole weekend) and then I said "I guess that means you're busy next week too", to which she replied that she had school. This is the second time I've been rejected. I should have taken your advice and not tried. You were wrong about the stress and anxiety going away, though. I feel terrible.

 

Give it a week or two then. Maybe a month, max. I doubt you'll still feel terrible by then.

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That's not really a good reason to want a girlfriend. And to be honest if you ever find yourself saying "i want a girlfriend" then you should already know that you're not "ready" for a girlfriend. It's not the kind of thing you should actively find yourself looking for. It's something that should just happen naturally. That's why they call it "falling in love" and not "planning in love". No one plans to fall, it's something that happens unexpectedly. This should be your philosophy with relationships as well.

 

Chances are, with your current mindset, if you do find a girlfriend or someone with girlfriend potential, you're going to drive her away with your seemingly needy attitude.

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Nobody likes me. I want someone to care about me. Because of this, nobody will.

 

What am I supposed to do? Or is affection like job experience in that you need it in order to get it?

Do you like yourself?

 

Give me 5 things you like about yourself?

 

Sorry if this reply seems harsh/stupid, but it sounds to me like you might have some psychological problems and that you need to learn to love yourself first.

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Not only that but you're also more likely to tolerate a shitty relationship if you can't handle being single.

 

Nobody likes me. I want someone to care about me. Because of this, nobody will.

 

What am I supposed to do? Or is affection like job experience in that you need it in order to get it?

 

I'd recommend this to every beginner out there: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLOv1T6i-23oFUYtYCUhpyUtqZd2tv9iKb

 

It does wonders for your mindset and self-esteem.

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I feel like I'm hijacking this thread. Would any of you mind talking to me over PM (or anywhere else)?

I wouldn't worry about that. This is why this thread is here. We often focus on 1 individual at a time.

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I feel like I'm hijacking this thread. Would any of you mind talking to me over PM (or anywhere else)?

I wouldn't worry about that. This is why this thread is here. We often focus on 1 individual at a time.

 

Okay

 

 

 

Nobody likes me. I want someone to care about me. Because of this, nobody will.

 

What am I supposed to do? Or is affection like job experience in that you need it in order to get it?

Do you like yourself?

 

Give me 5 things you like about yourself?

 

Sorry if this reply seems harsh/stupid, but it sounds to me like you might have some psychological problems and that you need to learn to love yourself first.

 

I don't like myself.

 

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Why do you need to love yourself before someone else can love you?

 

 

Yep. You can't expect other people to like you if you don't like yourself.

Why?

 

 

Not only that but you're also more likely to tolerate a shitty relationship if you can't handle being single.

 

Nobody likes me. I want someone to care about me. Because of this, nobody will.

 

What am I supposed to do? Or is affection like job experience in that you need it in order to get it?

 

I'd recommend this to every beginner out there: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLOv1T6i-23oFUYtYCUhpyUtqZd2tv9iKb

 

It does wonders for your mindset and self-esteem.

That guy is attractive. I'm not. I feel like trying to apply whatever advice is in those videos would be like telling a black person to improve how strangers treat them by going to more country clubs.

 

 

 

Nobody likes me. I want someone to care about me. Because of this, nobody will.

 

What am I supposed to do? Or is affection like job experience in that you need it in order to get it?

 

Don't look to someone to solve your issues (self worth and need to feel loved). Find a way to solve those then find someone enjoy your happiness with.

 

How can you solve these? Look to your relationships with people who love you like your family - express gratitude for how they've helped you along in life and make an effort to get closer to them, get closer to your existing friends - invite them to events with you or tell them a secret, look to therapists if you have additional issues (they are professionals who are there to help you, theres no shame in going to them!), etc.

 

Don't go to a girl and have her fix your baggage. 

 

So because I'm not happy, I should keep to myself and somehow magically get happy. Only then do I have the honor of talking to people?

 

My family openly tells me they hate me. Thanks for assuming that they love me, though. That made me feel really good. I had a therapist, but he moved and there are no other therapists that meet my criteria near me.

 

I honestly don't even know what you mean by "having a girl fix your baggage".

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I feel like I'm hijacking this thread. Would any of you mind talking to me over PM (or anywhere else)?

I wouldn't worry about that. This is why this thread is here. We often focus on 1 individual at a time.

 

Okay

 

 

 

Nobody likes me. I want someone to care about me. Because of this, nobody will.

 

What am I supposed to do? Or is affection like job experience in that you need it in order to get it?

Do you like yourself?

 

Give me 5 things you like about yourself?

 

Sorry if this reply seems harsh/stupid, but it sounds to me like you might have some psychological problems and that you need to learn to love yourself first.

 

I don't like myself.

 

N/A

 

Why do you need to love yourself before someone else can love you?

 

Hoo boy.

 

So, there's more to relationships then this, but... think about getting into a relationship like sales for a moment. You are selling yourself. Not in the sense of prostitution, in the sense of trying to get people to pick your product over the competitor's. Pretend you own a car and you're selling it. Now some guys are like "here's this lamborghini that's awesome" or "here's this 30 year old sports car that I spent the past 3 years fixing up." And then there's you: "my car is a piece of crap. Please buy it." So, you've either got a car that is legitimately sucky and need to spend time fixing it up before someone will buy it, or you've got a half decent car and you need to stop comparing it to lamborginis.

 

Anyways, it really sounds like step one for you is getting a good therapist. And if your parents tell you they hate you, you need to find good enough work so you can move out and cut contact with them.

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Spend more time being a good person and less time trying to find good people.

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