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I hear tinder has a time limit thing where you can't just swipe to win any more. So.. what's the new meta game? I'm curious what people are doing now

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I've gotten plenty of dates off Tinder but I haven't actually gotten laid from Tinder yet D: Which is funny because I'm doing everything "by the books" on my Tinder dates yet no girl wants to meet up for a 2nd date.

 

This suggests that the best way to use Tinder is to go into it with first date sex in mind (as opposed to aiming for sex on the 2nd or 3rd date). All the people I know who get laid via Tinder either invite the girls straight over to their place and unmatch if they decline, or they meet up at a bar and then go back to their place shortly after to bang on the first date.

 

The limited number of swipes didn't really change anything AFAIK. I haven't matched with a single fake profile/bot since that update so that's a nice bonus.

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Also in a relationship otherwise I'd just figure it out myself

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I'm in a relationship otherwise I'd love to mess around with tinder/okcupid. Ironically the only site I've ever hooked up with girls from is tumblr

 

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 I'm doing everything "by the books"

There's your problem
 

I want a boyfriend who can also be a girlfriend sometimes.

 

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Give me a drag kit and $200 and I'll be your girlfriend.

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Went on a date yesterday, she was a nice enough girl but I think we just shared too much in common, I at times felt like I was having a conversation with myself ;-;.

 

The date I had on Tuesday went well, adorable woman, but she mentioned how much she wanted to get married + have a family by ~30 a few too many times (I don't think I even asked her about it - she just told me ._.). Still really lovely though xD.

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The date I had on Tuesday went well, adorable woman, but she mentioned how much she wanted to get married + have a family by ~30 a few too many times (I don't think I even asked her about it - she just told me ._.). Still really lovely though xD.

Don't take statements like that too seriously :p

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She's bringing it up already and you're not even in a relationship yet, I think she's serious. You don't joke about spending the next 20 years of your life raising little shits.

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She's bringing it up already and you're not even in a relationship yet, I think she's serious. You don't joke about spending the next 20 years of your life raising little shits.

some people do actually like kids

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some people do actually like kids

 

 

The part where he says he's worried makes me think boris is not interested in kids right now. Pro detective skills at work here

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some people do actually like kids

 

 

The part where he says he's worried makes me think boris is not interested in kids right now. Pro detective skills at work here

 

You are the next sherlock. I want to make sure I can provide for my offspring before I spawn some, yaknow. So it isn't in my plans for the next 10 years.

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She's bringing it up already and you're not even in a relationship yet, I think she's serious. You don't joke about spending the next 20 years of your life raising little shits.

some people do actually like kids

 

 

But most of those people are kids. 


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She's bringing it up already and you're not even in a relationship yet, I think she's serious. You don't joke about spending the next 20 years of your life raising little shits.

some people do actually like kids

 

 

But most of those people are kids.

 

uhh okay

 

 

 

She's bringing it up already and you're not even in a relationship yet, I think she's serious. You don't joke about spending the next 20 years of your life raising little shits.

some people do actually like kids

 

that was directed at you calling kids "little shits"

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Hi TIF!

 

Here to ask a question that has been asked before and I'm relatively certain the answer I will receive, but going to do it anyway.

 

How does one tell when a girl likes them? Any specifics to consider?

 

Thanks

 

P.S. If I know this thread, and specifically Muggi, I will probably get a response saying just ask her out and you will find out quickly. Only issue here is that I tend to be a bit of a [kitty] when it comes to girls.

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Hi TIF!

 

Here to ask a question that has been asked before and I'm relatively certain the answer I will receive, but going to do it anyway.

 

How does one tell when a girl likes them? Any specifics to consider?

 

Thanks

 

P.S. If I know this thread, and specifically Muggi, I will probably get a response saying just ask her out and you will find out quickly. Only issue here is that I tend to be a bit of a [kitty] when it comes to girls.

Guess what? You're going to have to stop being a [kitty] to have a successful relationship. There's no magical way to tell a girl you like them that allows you to be successful while being afraid.

 

Ain't nothing to it but to do it.

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Why are you a [kitty]? Are you unconfident about your image? Then lose weight, build muscle, get a good haircut, and wear clothes that fit. Are you just inexperienced? Practice while the stakes are still low.

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Why are you a [kitty]? Are you unconfident about your image? Then lose weight, build muscle, get a good haircut, and wear clothes that fit. Are you just inexperienced? Practice while the stakes are still low.

To be fair I'm pretty sure he's like 16. Most teenage boys are a little nervous around girls which is totally normal.

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Roll a D20. If you get 19+ you are gucci.

 

Thanks Boris, I'd do that but I'm short on dice right now.

 

Hi TIF!

 

Here to ask a question that has been asked before and I'm relatively certain the answer I will receive, but going to do it anyway.

 

How does one tell when a girl likes them? Any specifics to consider?

 

Thanks

 

P.S. If I know this thread, and specifically Muggi, I will probably get a response saying just ask her out and you will find out quickly. Only issue here is that I tend to be a bit of a [kitty] when it comes to girls.

Guess what? You're going to have to stop being a [kitty] to have a successful relationship. There's no magical way to tell a girl you like them that allows you to be successful while being afraid.

 

Ain't nothing to it but to do it.

 

Thanks Obfu.

 

Why are you a [kitty]? Are you unconfident about your image? Then lose weight, build muscle, get a good haircut, and wear clothes that fit. Are you just inexperienced? Practice while the stakes are still low.

Thanks to you Hedgehog. Your question has caused me to think a little and helped me out a little.

 

And yeah, it is the inexperience/general nervousness. 17 and highschool, ya know?

 

Honestly, at this point the biggest lie I tell myself to make me feel better is that I sit beside/have to endure with these people in classes and therefore don't want to make things awkward by following through with such an action.

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Well I could write a book on this topic but it'd be a lot easier to give you practical advice if you're willing to share specifically what you're afraid of like Hedgehog said.

 

A little while ago I started to write a post about this but I scrapped it and saved it on my computer instead. I'll just copy and paste it here now that it's relevant:

 

 

I'm currently entertaining the idea that one of the reasons why people don't naturally gravitate towards sales and seduction is because of empathy. In the past I never considered that empathy could cause long-term unhappiness, but now that I think about it, I think it most certainly can.

 

I remember what it was like to fear touching girls on my dates. I was partially afraid of rejection, but I think the thing I was most afraid of was discomfort, awkwardness, and tension. Making a move automatically generates these feelings between two people, even moreso if you're already uncomfortable. Not only was I unsure if I could endure these negative feelings, but for some reason, it was even more painful to think about making the person sitting next to me experience them as well. I felt guilty making women feel uncomfortable.

 

Similarly, in sales, for the first month I was awful at it because I was afraid to try and close the sale. I was afraid of offending people or making them feel uncomfortable about having to make a decision. I didn’t want to put that burden on them. I wanted them to be comfortable. That’s why I never made any sales unless the client came to me first to place an order.

 

It wasn’t until I realized that that discomfort is a “necessary evil” that my sales career took off. Same goes for dating.

 

Interestingly, after my sales career took off, the more systematic, efficient, and successful I became at sales, the less empathetic I became (in a good way; my empathy went from "too high" to "moderate"). While I never “hurt” anyone, I definitely made countless people feel mildly uncomfortable over time. Such is the nature of sales. But at the cost of some mild, temporary discomfort, I was happy with my career success and I accumulated tons of happy clients-- clients which I never would've had if I had avoided closing the deal with them out of discomfort. Occasionally I'd get an unsatisfied customer and that would make me feel bad, however when you put things into perspective, you're never going to have a 100.0% mutual satisfaction rate with people. As long as the people whom I made less happy are in a teeny tiny minority, then there was no point in beating myself up over them. Similarly, I never intended to hurt them. It was an accident. I forgave myself and moved on. And they move on too pretty quickly.

 

It wasn't really until my mentality shifted to: "If this makes them uncomfortable, that sucks, but it's not a big deal because we'll both get over it and forget about it very quickly” that I was able to reach the next level.

Since then I can’t really think of a time where I regret trying to make a move or trying to close the sale. This suggests that either there has never been a time where it was in poor judgment to touch or close the sale; or that bad things have happened over the years, however they aren’t bad enough for me to remember them, which suggests that in the grand scheme of things, these "bad" things really weren't that bad after all.

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