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I don't have a lot to go by, but yours isn't the first story I've heard about a guy not being able to get an erection because he was really nervous about sex. Anxiety is just a boner killer it seems.


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So is too much alcohol ;)


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Anxiety just stops me from ejaculating. Both a blessing and a curse. A knock to a girls confidence for sure.


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Then again a lot of the no [bleep] guys are just as lazy and have cuckold fetishes so they aren't any better :lol:

Not sure where you're getting this information from.....


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Then again a lot of the no [bleep] guys are just as lazy and have cuckold fetishes so they aren't any better :lol:

Not sure where you're getting this information from.....

 

Reddit + 4chan probably xD


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Frankly, it's not difficult and has been quite rewarding.

 

 

How so?

 

I am not setting myself up to contradict you, rather I am genuinely curious.


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Frankly, it's not difficult and has been quite rewarding.

 

How so?

 

I am not setting myself up to contradict you, rather I am genuinely curious.

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I tried nofap for about half a month during an online dating blitz once. Generally, my sex drive is correlated with confidence and neediness. In other words, the longer I go without release, the more confident I become; at the cost of becoming more needy and irritable. Ideally I'll have release every 2-3 days or so. If I go any longer, I start getting pissed off over things that normally wouldn't bother me and I can just feel my blood pressure rising lol. I remember driving to the gym and someone cut me off in traffic-- normally I just laugh it off and forget about it within the next 5 minutes. But during this time I was pissed off for the next 2 hours. I was like, "What the [bleep] is wrong with me? Why am I so angry all of a sudden?!" Similarly, whenever a girl reschedules a date on me or suddenly stops responding, I just shrug and move on to the next one. But during this time I really had to suppress the urge to blow up her phone with angry texts. I pretty much transform into the textbook "territorial needy alpha male" when I'm not releasing lol

 

In other words it's unhealthy for me to go too long without release. Conversely, if I'm releasing every single day, then my sex drive is pretty much non-existent and I'm apathetic about dating/sex. This is how I operate when I'm not trying to fill my roster or when I'm busy focusing on a different part of my life and don't want to be distracted by dating.

 

I think everyone could benefit from going without porn. But going without release in general seems very dangerous to one's health; it takes "sexually frustrated" to a whole new level. I searched reddit once to see if anyone else gets angrier and feels overall less happy as a result of nofap. People were basically like "Oh yeah getting angry all the time is totally healthy! You're no longer burying those feelings inside you and you're now forced to deal with them properly!" Lol give me a [bleep]ing break. Am I supposed to get road rage and shoot everyone that cuts me off in traffic whenever I get angry or something? :lol:

 

I think the reason nofap is popular is because some people are genuinely addicted to jacking off/porn and they don't have any other habits to practice their self-discipline skills on. So what ends up happening is instead of practicing a healthy activity in moderation, they cut it out completely and experience the cognitive dissonance from being proud of their self-discipline but still suffering as a result of going without any release.


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I have never even thought about that stuff so much.

I am often out camping with family for a week or so and I'm not gonna [bleep] in my sleeping bag.

 

And I don't feel like anything changes either, if I go a long time without.


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So I've noticed this thread's regulars all follow similar trends.

 

RPG is constantly dealing with psycho exes.

Muggi reminds us of the joys of polygamy.

Saq is totally oblivious to how much chicks dig him.

I strike out every other week.

Kalphite wages a war against the friend zone.

Randox pretty much stays rational.

Etc, etc

 

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Do you find it necessary for your drive to be high when pursuing short term relationships to be sure you're sexually compatible? Or is it easier to judge those other aspects (is she a drama queen, is she going to make me miserable, etc) while apathetic?


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Do you find it necessary for your drive to be high when pursuing short term relationships to be sure you're sexually compatible? Or is it easier to judge those other aspects (is she a drama queen, is she going to make me miserable, etc) while apathetic?

 

It's ideal for me to be horny as often as possible when I'm dating. Not to make sure we're sexually compatible, but just to make sure I'm on my A-game and prevent problems down the road :P

 

The hornier I am, the more attractive every woman becomes. So there would be times in the past where I'd message a ton of women online just because I'm horny, but then I'd release between scheduling the date and meeting up with them, and then suddenly I'd be like "Shit. Now I have to meet up with this girl whom I'm apathetic about meeting" lol. Some of the guys here have probably experienced this before, but one of the shittiest feelings is having sex with a girl, and then immediately afterwards it's like a switch being flipped in your head and you're just like "Shit. I can't believe I just had sex with her. What was I thinking?!"

 

Or there would be times when I'd have a girl over because I enjoy her company but I wasn't horny, and so I'd end up sending her home w/o banging her, which would then lead to her not wanting to have sex later on when I actually was horny, which led to her being confused and giving me drama (which is my 100% my fault). So these days I don't allow myself to invite girls over unless I'm horny because if I don't bang her it leads to problems down the road.


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I appreciate your candor. Thanks Muggi for the insight.


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I also try to keep my sex drive as high as possible when near my female accompaniment. Its just for the best.

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One thing to consider with the nofap guys is a lot of them are probably incapable of moderation. When you're addicted to something, cutting it out entirely is probably easier then doing that something in moderation.


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my difinition of noob is i dont like u, either u are better then me or u are worst them me

Buying spins make you a bad person...don't do it. It's like buying nukes for North Korea.

Well if it bothers you that the game is more fun now, then you can go cry in a corner. :shame:

your article was the equivalent of a circumcized porcupine

The only thing wrong with it is the lack of a percentage for when you need to stroke it.

 


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One thing to consider with the nofap guys is a lot of them are probably incapable of moderation. When you're addicted to something, cutting it out entirely is probably easier then doing that something in moderation.

 

Some people are just inherently compulsive. Nofap is one of those things where if it works for you then great, but I can't stand the holier than thou attitude a lot of them have. It's almost like a vegan thing.

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I don't like how nofap guys are always talking about how they don't masturbate. I don't care about anyone's masturbation habits.

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I didn't know nofap was a thing until reading this, thanks Nobama

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I asked out the girl at work from my previous post.

 

I went to the store to get a fan for my room since it gets hot at night, and I saw her working there. Of course, as soon as I walked by, she teased me and said, "Get out of my store!" I initiated a conversation with her and before I left to buy my fan, I asked, "Hey, you wanna go out for ice cream sometime?"

 

She replied with "Maybe, Maze, maybe... do you want to?" and I replied with, "Well, yeah I'd like to. I asked," and she replied, "Alright, when do you work next?"

 

I told her that I don't know when we'd work together next, and that'd it'd be better if I got her number and just texted her when we could meetup and she gave me it.

 

I have mixed feelings about the situation. On one hand, she was very obviously flirting with me at work all the time and showed some signs of interest and perhaps the "maybe" was just her being coy/flirty and hard to get. But on the other hand, that "maybe" could've meant no and she was just a flirty person in general.

 

I don't know how to feel about it, I'm going to text her tomorrow.

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Guess you'll know when you get ice cream. Don't forget to pull her hair and lick her elbows!


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I asked out the girl at work from my previous post.

 

I went to the store to get a fan for my room since it gets hot at night, and I saw her working there. Of course, as soon as I walked by, she teased me and said, "Get out of my store!" I initiated a conversation with her and before I left to buy my fan, I asked, "Hey, you wanna go out for ice cream sometime?"

 

She replied with "Maybe, Maze, maybe... do you want to?" and I replied with, "Well, yeah I'd like to. I asked," and she replied, "Alright, when do you work next?"

 

I told her that I don't know when we'd work together next, and that'd it'd be better if I got her number and just texted her when we could meetup and she gave me it.

 

I have mixed feelings about the situation. On one hand, she was very obviously flirting with me at work all the time and showed some signs of interest and perhaps the "maybe" was just her being coy/flirty and hard to get. But on the other hand, that "maybe" could've meant no and she was just a flirty person in general.

 

I don't know how to feel about it, I'm going to text her tomorrow.

 

Does it really matter whether or not her interest is genuine?


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I asked out the girl at work from my previous post.

 

I went to the store to get a fan for my room since it gets hot at night, and I saw her working there. Of course, as soon as I walked by, she teased me and said, "Get out of my store!" I initiated a conversation with her and before I left to buy my fan, I asked, "Hey, you wanna go out for ice cream sometime?"

 

She replied with "Maybe, Maze, maybe... do you want to?" and I replied with, "Well, yeah I'd like to. I asked," and she replied, "Alright, when do you work next?"

 

I told her that I don't know when we'd work together next, and that'd it'd be better if I got her number and just texted her when we could meetup and she gave me it.

 

I have mixed feelings about the situation. On one hand, she was very obviously flirting with me at work all the time and showed some signs of interest and perhaps the "maybe" was just her being coy/flirty and hard to get. But on the other hand, that "maybe" could've meant no and she was just a flirty person in general.

 

I don't know how to feel about it, I'm going to text her tomorrow.

 

Does it really matter whether or not her interest is genuine?

 

Forgive me for sounding naive but what do you mean?

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If shes not entirely into it now, that doesn't mean you cant sway her to be entirely into it


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If she agreed to go on a date with you and doesn't flake out later then its a pretty clear sign she likes you, regardless of the specifics of her words. Go on the date, and have fun :lol:

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