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[muggiwhplar]

Anyone else bad with first dates? Like, I just had my first one in ... a while. Like, idk. Didn't seem to go as I would've hoped.

Most people are. Comes with practice.

[Ring_World]

Whats hard about them?

 

Start with the interview questions until you click on something, spend some time on that, and if theres a good vibe going on start getting more intimate 

[Bonez899]

Anyone else bad with first dates? Like, I just had my first one in ... a while. Like, idk. Didn't seem to go as I would've hoped.

Most people are. Comes with practice.

Idk, haven't had a lot of first dates mostly because I'm not putting myself out there and creating the opportunities. However, the few I've had I just remember the advice from these forums and they tend to go okay.

At least, until I start pulling their elbows and licking their hair.

[Estonian dude]

I'm supposed to have one (or maybe even two, my mate is planning... something) first dates tonight. Gonna be interesting.

[RpgGamer]

Will she also be 60?

[Ginger_Warrior]

Anyone else bad with first dates? Like, I just had my first one in ... a while. Like, idk. Didn't seem to go as I would've hoped.

First dates are generally hell for most people. It's not something anyone should beat themselves up over. Sometimes you click, sometimes you don't.

[RpgGamer]

Bad first dates make awesome stories for later

[The Observer]

I'd like to think I did. But I reflected back on it and realized I could've done some things different that's for sure.

[Ring_World]

Whats the most effective way to be a more pleasant person to be around?

 

I suspect that my very cold and cynical attitude makes people not enjoy being around me.

 

Does anyone have any mental cues and general ways of interacting they could recommend to not express this to people?

[Tesset]

Be more positive and supportive of the people around you. Practically, that translates to build others up in conversations and be an active listener.

[Goonstalf]

and try to hold them up if they look off balance and shuffle your feet on the carpet so you are more staticy preferably positive

[RpgGamer]

Think of someone who you enjoy being around and try to incorporate what they said to you into other conversations

[Estonian dude]

It was another mate, young one, that kinda-sorta set me up, but not really. I should have set something up for the Norwegian.

However, could say it was an interesting first date with the girl I intended to meet. The night saw Russian rap, ambulance, drunk Belarusians, pretty much the highest authority in choir world in Estonia (we both sing in a choir, so this guy is like a god to us) so drunk that he was asleep on a toilet, the President of our country and a ridiculously jealous cat.

It was eventful, to say the least.

[GrandZephyr]

It was another mate, young one, that kinda-sorta set me up, but not really. I should have set something up for the Norwegian.

However, could say it was an interesting first date with the girl I intended to meet. The night saw Russian rap, ambulance, drunk Belarusians, pretty much the highest authority in choir world in Estonia (we both sing in a choir, so this guy is like a god to us) so drunk that he was asleep on a toilet, the President of our country and a ridiculously jealous cat.

It was eventful, to say the least.

It sounds like you survived the events. Did you enjoy your date being there with you for the experiences?

[Ginger_Warrior]

Think of the people you like being around. Chances are, they'll generally reflect positivity--talk about things they ARE doing rather than things they can't / don't have time for, talk about people they DO like rather than people who annoy them, talk about where they WANT to go in life rather than brood over the opportunities they've lost for whatever reason.

 

My golden rule is that if there really is no positive way of looking at something, turn it into a joke, or else don't bother mentioning it to strangers or acquaintances. Your friends would probably care, but strangers won't.

[The Observer]

You'd think I'd learn being in my 6th year of university putting off essays to the last minute is never a good idea.

[Major Dash]

You'd think I'd learn being in my 6th year of university putting off essays to the last minute is never a good idea.

 

 

My group just put off a project/presentation until 3 hours beforehand. My current motto...

 

 

"If today isn't the due date, today isn't the do date."

[Ring_World]

Probably doxing myself but work will be a [bleep]ing zoo tomorrow because of insight landing 

[The Observer]

Probably doxing myself but work will be a [bleep]ing zoo tomorrow because of insight landing 

Do you still buy those NASA shirts at H&M and other clothing outlets?

[Ring_World]

No I have a jpl shirt though

And I always tell people nice shirt if I see them wearing a nasa logo.

Also I can tell if someone is likely affiliated with SpaceX or jpl by what kind of space stuff they are wearing.