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[Tesset]

Went to a queer-friendly makeup store a few weeks ago to try and get something to hide my 5-o'clock shadow that never goes away. Was recommended (by a guy who does drag, so I assumed he would know what he was talking about) an orange lipstick to go under the foundation (because the shadow is a blue tint). Tried that today, and in the bathroom, it looked fine. Went out, went to a restaurant, got food, ate, came back out, looked in my car mirror, I looked like a 5-year-old eating cheetos.

Turns out my bathroom lights just [bleep]ing suck, and I don't have any good lighting anywhere in my apartment. So, that's been my day.

What's a non-queer-friendly makeup store even look like? Every time I go into a makeup place, I always see gay guys as customers or employees. I'm very curious as to what place you've been in and felt out of place in? Honestly, I always feel out of place as a straight guy in those places.

It was MAC, which as I understand is just really vocal about it. That's really all I mean.

Idk, I just have had this urge to add that qualifier every time I've had a positive experience at a place. Whether that's a good thing or not, idk.

[Major Dash]

Really? That surprises me tbh. The MAC near me is the place that sell the most "drag" type stuff and has all of the gay male beauty Youtuber posters and advertisements. However, I frequent Ulta/Sephora much more often than MAC, so maybe I'm just out of the loop these days.

 

I also know that you're not gay, but I guess I would as closely relate the gay clientele to the MTF trans audience. Maybe I'm mistaken in that regard.

[RpgGamer]

Not being lgbtq myself, sometimes I wonder if any of those identities ever feel muted by being lumped together with so many other queer identifiers

[Tesset]

@Dash: Oh, I misread your first post, missed a "non". Yeah, MAC is p much what you described. You're right though, with one exception from before college, I haven't really had any issues in makeup stores.

@RPG: Yes, that's definitely a thing. I actually was listening to a podcast today talking about the word queer, which touched on what you said a little.

The opposite is also true. There's always a bit in the back of my mind when someone says "don't use queer it's a slur!" that's like, do you not want me to use because it's a slur, or because you don't want ace people in your community and this is a way to exclude them (because that was an argument I saw fairly often on tumblr, when I was still using it)

[RpgGamer]

I always thought "queer" was the preferred term, since it's inclusive of anything that isn't heteronormative

Today I was off work and spent something like 6 hours switching between Apex Legends and PUBG. I did not kill a single person. I don't even think I hit anyone in my dozen or so PUBG rounds.

I guess this is what happens when you don't play a shooter in over a year

[Tesset]

For the most part, it is the preferred term, but older lgbt people, and some younger people who grew up in areas where the word is still commonly used as a slur, have their own objections. It's definitely still better than lgbtqppqiaa+ (or whichever variant).

The guy at the end of that podcast summed it up really well for me. We need a word to fill the niche that queer does, it just would be so much better if the word wasn't "queer".

[Goonstalf]

i think u should use the wrod 'goon" for yall

[Tesset]

Aww, dang. I just got a letter from my bank that I needed to send proof of ID in for my authorized user credit card under Tes. One of the options is explicitly "Tes is the same person as the account owner. Please remove."

I'm going to try and just ignore it and hope they don't cancel the extra card... God, this sucks. I was really excited that would work.

[RpgGamer]

Changing your legal last name is a pain the ass, i couldn't imagine the headache of legally changing your full name and sex

[Nyosuht]

Changing your legal last name is a pain the ass, i couldn't imagine the headache of legally changing your full name and sex

It really wasn't a pain either time I changed my name.

 

I got married and signed the license with my new name, and it was just a matter of updating IDs from there. When I changed all my names, I just had to download a form from the court's website, fill it out, turn it in, and appear for a hearing that consisted of me confirming that I wasn't trying to avoid debt or criminal charges. Updating all of my bank, etc. accounts was more of a hassle than the legal change.
 
I'm not out to my employer yet, and basically expect to be fired when that changes, so I'm holding off on updating my gender markers. As I understand it, I should be able to get a letter from my doctor saying that I am receiving care to transition and update my passport, then use the passport to update my state ID.

[Boris5000]

I am actually concerned I am going to miss goon when TIF goes down.

[Estonian dude]

But what about me?

In other news, again a working man. Nice to have some routine, but I take way too many responsibilities and accept too many invites to go out. First week back in town and had just one free evening and on Friday already cutting short my workday and heading abroad for the weekend. And schedules keep tightening up...

[RpgGamer]

Goon deserves an Oscar for best/most persistent shit poster on the web

[Goonstalf]

what tdid you say to me you litle [bleep]