Reveal Confessions, Secrets & Regrets...

[Lenticular_J]

Way I see it, makes sense. You aren't actually looking them in the eyes, it might be a bit higher than the eyes. Seems sort of haughty for me.

[Duff]

Was think more along the lines of looking cross-eyed at them (i.e. making faces). :P

 

But yah, makes sense.

[Jernlov]

That's why I tend to ignore people when they say " Doctor x says y has z."

 

Good outlook.

 

When someone has some kind of disorder, a lot of people are too quick to make a judgement - be it positive or negative. Having been diagnosed with Asperger syndrome, even my own mother blames all my faults on that. I mean, okay, but getting talked to like you're a [developmentally delayed] gets somewhat wearisome after while.

 

I know full well what IS caused by AS and what ISN'T for me. I have some co-ordination difficulties and trouble with noise/lights and crowds, but socially I'm just any ordinary introvert. I speak a little eccentrically, but I got pretty good at reading how people feel and can easily sense if someone is fed up with me/wants to change topic. It's just good that my "interests" are common topics that most people I know enjoy talking about. Yeah, anyway, my point is that making some judgement based on a diagnosis, true or false, is no way to look at other people at all. There's so much more to people than "x is depressed, y is autistic, z is schizophrenic". A diagnosis is a useful but ultimately stigmatizing label.

[Dax]

It may just be me, but I've noticed that if I actually start thinking about where I'm looking when I'm making eye contact, I get extremely uncomfortable. It's kinda the same as that, "You are now aware you are breathing" type thing. For me, when this happens, I end up getting anxious because I don't know what eye to look at, or if I should look between their eyes at their nose bridge. Because naturally, I think our eyes don't focus on one part, but on the face in general; once you notice this, you find yourself looking at a specific point on their face, which is kinda weird onze you realize it.

 

I find it terribly hard to keep eye contact with most girls, because the above is running through my head, and also because some of them are just so darn intimidating.

 

This. Oh lordy. It's horrible.

[Tesset]

On the same thread, one of my friends once told me that if you look at someone's eyebrows instead of their eyesbrows, it's very intimidating. I was like, "No, it's not." She proceeded to stare at my eyebrows. I was like, "That would be more convincing if I wasn't intimated by people looking in my eyes normally."

[H2PM]

On the same thread, one of my friends once told me that if you look at someone's eyebrows instead of their eyebrows, it's very intimidating.

What?

 

Which reminds me, when talking with a friend, look at the top of their head. Then try and continue the conversation normally.

[Duff]

On the same thread, one of my friends once told me that if you look at someone's eyebrows instead of their eyebrows, it's very intimidating.

What?

 

Which reminds me, when talking with a friend, look at the top of their head. Then try and continue the conversation normally.

Haha! I've done this to my siblings and friends, and it's sooo freakin' funny. Either the top of their head, or make it even more obvious and look at the space above their head and carry on the conversation and act like you don't notice anything different. Classic.

[Omar]

I'm pretty sure there's a difference between looking at their face and their eyes. When most people say it's polite/respectful to look someone in the eyes, I doubt they mean looking straight at someone's eyeballs. It's more of a general, keep your head oriented towards their head. I said this in my last post, but we tend to not focus our eyes on specific facial features; rather, our eyes take in the face as a whole. It's only until you realize you're looking at their face that you go and pick out a specific feature to look at.

Looking someone in the right eye shows you think of them as an equal; looking between their eyes shows you think you are better than them (or not at their eyes, but not downcast); looking between eyes and lips shows romantic interest. Keeping your eyes downcast shows weakness or respect or humility, depending on the situation.

 

Not everybody will notice. Few will, in fact. But it's a useful tool for building relationships. The details are important.

I have a really hard time looking people in the eye because I'm very slightly cross-eyed.

[Flyingjj]

I look at people's lips. It gives a nice illusion of "looking in the eye", helps to hear what people are saying, and I don't get antsy the way I do when I look into people's eyes. People say eyes are the windows to your soul. I believe that's true for me in a way. I get really freaked out by looking certain people in the eye, and can almost tell something about them from it. Also, the only ones I can look in the eye without wanting to look away are my closest friends.

[Chayyliel]

I tend to get annoyed when people don't pick up on things as quickly as I do, or when I'm explaining something that makes complete sense and they don't get it... I think it's a terrible attribute to have. >.<

 

Then, this is assuming I pick up on things more quickly than most people, denoting a degree of superiority complex.. and it also assumes that I'm good at explanations, or what I'm explaining makes sense universally, which is a bit hypocritical IMO. It's problematic because, y'know, what if I don't explain things well? What if they make sense to me and no one else? Then it comes to the counterpoint that: "What if they aren't understanding because, yet again, I picked up on it and they haven't?" It just makes me seem like more of a terrible person because I'm assuming this, and it'd no doubt lead to more assumptions about my abilities with regards to another individual's. I'm in no way assuming that I'm superior in any way to anyone, but in my opinion it seems to come out that way when I dissect the logic in it.

 

Anyone else have this issue? :/

[K4ylan]

I tend to get annoyed when people don't pick up on things as quickly as I do, or when I'm explaining something that makes complete sense and they don't get it... I think it's a terrible attribute to have. >.<

 

Then, this is assuming I pick up on things more quickly than most people, denoting a degree of superiority complex.. and it also assumes that I'm good at explanations, or what I'm explaining makes sense universally, which is a bit hypocritical IMO. It's problematic because, y'know, what if I don't explain things well? What if they make sense to me and no one else? Then it comes to the counterpoint that: "What if they aren't understanding because, yet again, I picked up on it and they haven't?" It just makes me seem like more of a terrible person because I'm assuming this, and it'd no doubt lead to more assumptions about my abilities with regards to another individual's. I'm in no way assuming that I'm superior in any way to anyone, but in my opinion it seems to come out that way when I dissect the logic in it.

 

Anyone else have this issue? :/

 

Yes I have. Although depending on the situation, I've been on the other side of this dilemma

[Omar]

It's probably a bit of both.

[Star.]

Secret: I'm really crap at arguing my point. And I usually write paragraphs of posts before deleting it and never bothering with the topic because of that. Same done here :wall:

[Soupy17]

I have a crush on star.

 

 

:-D

[Sentry_Wolf]

I am one of those people in the small percentage who can't see 3D. I put the glasses on and try to look at a film, it's the exact same with the glasses off. :( Very frustrating.

[Nenga]

Secret: I'm really crap at arguing my point. And I usually write paragraphs of posts before deleting it and never bothering with the topic because of that. Same done here :wall:

I do that too. I thought it was pretty common to do actually since I remember someone else saying that as well.

[Furah]

Confession: I tend to come up with excuses and lies on the spot, even if there was no need for them. It's all subconscious and it's just in my mind. Makes for easy manipulation.

[Napalm]

Confession: As a kid, I was a fast learner. Faster than most in my class, but two things I cound never get right until I was already on my last years of elementary school: How to properly tie my shoelaces, and remembering which one is left and which one is right.

 

 

[spoiler=Secret]

On the whole topic of "Would you eat food that's not socially acceptable" we had some pages ago: I've always wanted to try human meat. I wouldn't kill for it, it's just that I'm very curious. Particularly, I think a hand would taste quite well, due to tastier meats always being close to bones and whatnot.

Knowing that never on my life I'll have a chance to do this without getting convicted as a psycopath makes me sad.

 

[Star.]

I have a crush on star.

 

 

:-D

9pm, my place (/skype).

[Duff]

I first started playing baseball for parks and recreation. I wasn't too bad at it, but I didn't know a lot about the sport. I didn't think there was much to know. (Sidetrack secret: the first time I played baseball, the ball was hit to me and I picked it up and threw it at the back of some kid running to second base cause I thought that's how you got someone out. This was when I was super young, though.) My team was made of up kids who knew each other rather well from previous seasons. I was able to join their team because I was pretty good. So, after our first game, which we won, one of my teammates comes up to me and whispers into my ear, "Hey dude, could you go get the pitchers mound for me." I was confused, but he just looked at me seriously. So I was like, "Uh, sure Joey." I waited a bit, and then walked out to the mound and looked at it. I figured, all the other bases were taken, so why couldn't the mound be taken. So I circled it a few times to figure out how I was going to get it; I looked over to the dugout and there my whole team was, with the coaches, laughing their asses off at me.

 

It was really mean. But looking back, those jokes are so funny if you do them right.

[Maze]

I consider myself heterosexual, but I don't think I ever want to be in a close relationship with a girl (or man). I also do not wish to have sex (I think it's disgusting, I literally get sick to my stomach when I see porn).

[Jeffwilson99]

I consider myself heterosexual, but I don't think I ever want to be in a close relationship with a girl (or man). I also do not wish to have sex (I think it's disgusting, I literally get sick to my stomach when I see porn).

 

What kind of porn have you been watching? I'm sure this is a viewpoint lots of young people have, but it probably changes as they mature. I'm guessing you haven't actually had a close relationship with a girl before, no offence intetended, ?

[Maze]

I consider myself heterosexual, but I don't think I ever want to be in a close relationship with a girl (or man). I also do not wish to have sex (I think it's disgusting, I literally get sick to my stomach when I see porn).

 

What kind of porn have you been watching? I'm sure this is a viewpoint lots of young people have, but it probably changes as they mature. I'm guessing you haven't actually had a close relationship with a girl before, no offence intetended, ?

I don't intentionally scour out porn, but I think it's just...disgusting. I'd probably feel sick if I did it.

 

And no, I haven't had a relationship. I don't want to. I don't really even consider myself really that attracted to females (or males, before you say "gay").

[The_Gabe]

That's strange.

[K4ylan]

I think that's asexual?