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This may be a dumb question, but, have you complained to a teacher about it yet?

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This may be a dumb question, but, have you complained to a teacher about it yet?

Yeah, but they're useless. May try a different one, or the dean. But they have a history of NOT stopping stuff like this after they've heard about it.

 

Something else I want to use to my advantage. For all the complaining I do about how the MAJORITY of my school are bad people, there's like 1000 people here. That still leaves quite a few decent people that for whatever reason, don't say anything. Maybe if something were organized, they would?


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If you could outnumber them 3:1 and then confront them, they'd sure as hell stop. But you'd have a hell of a time convincing kids to do it, especially multiple times, because it sounds like it will resume several times.

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Thanks. You're right, it may be kinda rough, but I'll spend a while putting this together, and post back with results. Until then, I won't post about the subject.


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I will at the very LEAST get into a lot of trouble, so I need to know exactly what it can accomplish before starting anything.

Firstly, in order not to get trouble you need to understand why the bullies don't get it trouble.

 

Reality is, teachers and school administration don't punish people if they don't have solid evidence. The spoken word is not solid evidence for them, since teenagers are liable to lie to get each other in trouble.

 

Key is this: whatever you do, don't do it publicly. Avoid the sight of other students, security, teachers, whatever. Also since you're trying to get them alone maybe bringing an extra one of you will further make your point. A confrontation needs no violence, but threaten it if need be. If he tries to walk away or anything, physically stop him: he'll know you mean business. If this happens, then you have to be on top: no backing down for anything.


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Really if you could get some solid evidence that he is picked on the teachers will listen. Record that [cabbage] or something.

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If you have good enough evidence, could always take it to the courts about negligence and failure to comply with the duty of care or something similar (about the school and the teachers for ignoring the situation)

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Yeah, trying going the the board of trustees or something if you can, and complain that the school isn't doing enought to stop bullying.


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What about going to the bullied kids' parents? They would surely be happy to help get some more authority involved. They'd have more leverage, being adults too.


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What about going to the bullied kids' parents? They would surely be happy to help get some more authority involved. They'd have more leverage, being adults too.

"My kid's no damn bully. The other kids are just [kitties] that's it!"

 

I doubt the parents will side with the enemy of their kid.


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What about going to the bullied kids' parents? They would surely be happy to help get some more authority involved. They'd have more leverage, being adults too.

"My kid's no damn bully. The other kids are just [kitties] that's it!"

 

I doubt the parents will side with the enemy of their kid.

No no no, I meant the autistic kids parents. The one who is BEING bullied, haha. Sorry for confusion


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What about going to the bullied kids' parents? They would surely be happy to help get some more authority involved. They'd have more leverage, being adults too.

"My kid's no damn bully. The other kids are just [kitties] that's it!"

 

I doubt the parents will side with the enemy of their kid.

No no no, I meant the autistic kids parents. The one who is BEING bullied, haha. Sorry for confusion

Oh okay. Yes, parents have more voice than students unfortunately.


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Really if you could get some solid evidence that he is picked on the teachers will listen. Record that [cabbage] or something.

If you choose to do this, be very careful. You can be mistaken as someone recording it because you think it's funny, and go down with the bullies.

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What do you do when your mother thinks anything besides studying is a waste of time?

 

I enjoy watching hockey, video gaming, playing shinny, guitar, and listening to music. I have a part time job, yet all she cares about is that I don't spend as much time studying as I do other stuff.

 

Currently in Grade 12, I have early admission into University, but still she is constantly upset at the sight of my on a computer or watching TV. When I read novels, it doesn't bother her.

 

She is vehemently opposed to paying for any sort of gaming, music, etc. She thinks I cannot control myself if I pay... as if paying 5 dollars for xbox live will ruin my future entirely.

 

What can I tell her? Btw, I'm 18, she say's she won't let me spend my OWN money on gaming or anything. I won't play the "I'm 18" card unless absolutely neccessary.


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What do you do when your mother thinks anything besides studying is a waste of time?

 

I enjoy watching hockey, video gaming, playing shinny, guitar, and listening to music. I have a part time job, yet all she cares about is that I don't spend as much time studying as I do other stuff.

 

Currently in Grade 12, I have early admission into University, but still she is constantly upset at the sight of my on a computer or watching TV. When I read novels, it doesn't bother her.

 

She is vehemently opposed to paying for any sort of gaming, music, etc. She thinks I cannot control myself if I pay... as if paying 5 dollars for xbox live will ruin my future entirely.

 

What can I tell her? Btw, I'm 18, she say's she won't let me spend my OWN money on gaming or anything. I won't play the "I'm 18" card unless absolutely neccessary.

 

 

While you live under her house, you technically should follow what she says. I would try and work out a compromise. I am not saying that you shouldn't play games or play on the computer, but show your mom that there is a vast database of information available on the internet which you can't always access in book form. Respect your mother's opinions until you have your own place. It will make life a whole lot easier. You are at that crucial point in life where you can make or break your future, being responsible and learning how to manage your money now will put you ahead of a lot of other's your age.


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What do you do when your mother thinks anything besides studying is a waste of time?

 

I enjoy watching hockey, video gaming, playing shinny, guitar, and listening to music. I have a part time job, yet all she cares about is that I don't spend as much time studying as I do other stuff.

 

Currently in Grade 12, I have early admission into University, but still she is constantly upset at the sight of my on a computer or watching TV. When I read novels, it doesn't bother her.

 

She is vehemently opposed to paying for any sort of gaming, music, etc. She thinks I cannot control myself if I pay... as if paying 5 dollars for xbox live will ruin my future entirely.

 

What can I tell her? Btw, I'm 18, she say's she won't let me spend my OWN money on gaming or anything. I won't play the "I'm 18" card unless absolutely neccessary.

 

 

While you live under her house, you technically should follow what she says. I would try and work out a compromise. I am not saying that you shouldn't play games or play on the computer, but show your mom that there is a vast database of information available on the internet which you can't always access in book form. Respect your mother's opinions until you have your own place. It will make life a whole lot easier. You are at that crucial point in life where you can make or break your future, being responsible and learning how to manage your money now will put you ahead of a lot of other's your age.

 

Thanks, that makes some sense to me. It's just that often she is too stubborn to compromise with. I guess I can survive several more months until I can get a place of my own.


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So, I'm actually making this post at the request of a close friend.

 

One of her best friends has been acting well, whiney lately. She'll loudly state that a teacher made her cry when they didn't answer a question, and tends to make comments alluding to her having no friends and such.

She claims her mom is abusive and that she's been grounded for three years for no reason. But she was grounded last year actually, for having failing grades. When complaining about being grounded to her mom in front of others her mom said "You'll be ungrounded when you do your chores." To which she basically stuck out her tongue and ended the conversation.

 

Basically, none of her stories of woe seem to add up, and it seems like she's playing for pity.

 

Basically, the old her is missed, and my friend wishes she could have her old not-so-whiney friend back.

So, anything I can tell her to help?


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It's a phase she'll snap out of when she either:

a) Grows up;

b) Gets too old to be blaming her mum;

c) Begins to realise that pining for attention only tends to wind other people up.

 

Whenever anyone acts like that with me I usually give them the barest minimum attention possible ("Oh that's horrible", "Oh yeah, very nice" etc). When they start acting normal again, I give them my attention back.

 

Positive reinforcement at its finest.

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Best just to ignore her and wait for her to change. Things like these are cries for attention, and when no attention is put towards the cry, the cry tends to revert back to their old ways.


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It's a phase she'll snap out of when she either:

a) Grows up;

b) Gets too old to be blaming her mum;

c) Begins to realise that pining for attention only tends to wind other people up.

 

Whenever anyone acts like that with me I usually give them the barest minimum attention possible ("Oh that's horrible", "Oh yeah, very nice" etc). When they start acting normal again, I give them my attention back.

 

Positive reinforcement at its finest.

 

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...this is going to seem a little bit odd, but I'm actually 100% serious and not trolling, so hear me out.

 

So I'm paranoid. Like, REALLY paranoid. Anyway, I was reading through my brother's freshman psych textbook, and I was looking at the chapters about disorders, specifically Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). Anyway, I thought I had some of the symptoms, so I did a reliable-looking online test, which said I test high for a lot of BPD symptoms, and off the charts with paranoia. Anyway, my parents are the kind of people who believe that "minor" disorders aren't exactly...well, real. I was thinking, and I think I'm seriously [bleep]ed up in the head, but I can't tell my parents because they won't believe me. I was thinking about it, and so many of my problems (most pressing; losing my girlfriend and my two best friends) are in some way, shape, or form, caused by my rampant paranoia. So, in conclusion, where can I get some lithium or other pills to keep my crazy mind in check?

 

TL;DR?

I need mood stabilizers; how to obtain?


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...this is going to seem a little bit odd, but I'm actually 100% serious and not trolling, so hear me out.

 

So I'm paranoid. Like, REALLY paranoid. Anyway, I was reading through my brother's freshman psych textbook, and I was looking at the chapters about disorders, specifically Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). Anyway, I thought I had some of the symptoms, so I did a reliable-looking online test, which said I test high for a lot of BPD symptoms, and off the charts with paranoia. Anyway, my parents are the kind of people who believe that "minor" disorders aren't exactly...well, real. I was thinking, and I think I'm seriously [bleep]ed up in the head, but I can't tell my parents because they won't believe me. I was thinking about it, and so many of my problems (most pressing; losing my girlfriend and my two best friends) are in some way, shape, or form, caused by my rampant paranoia. So, in conclusion, where can I get some lithium or other pills to keep my crazy mind in check?

 

TL;DR?

I need mood stabilizers; how to obtain?

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...this is going to seem a little bit odd, but I'm actually 100% serious and not trolling, so hear me out.

 

So I'm paranoid. Like, REALLY paranoid. Anyway, I was reading through my brother's freshman psych textbook, and I was looking at the chapters about disorders, specifically Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). Anyway, I thought I had some of the symptoms, so I did a reliable-looking online test, which said I test high for a lot of BPD symptoms, and off the charts with paranoia. Anyway, my parents are the kind of people who believe that "minor" disorders aren't exactly...well, real. I was thinking, and I think I'm seriously [bleep]ed up in the head, but I can't tell my parents because they won't believe me. I was thinking about it, and so many of my problems (most pressing; losing my girlfriend and my two best friends) are in some way, shape, or form, caused by my rampant paranoia. So, in conclusion, where can I get some lithium or other pills to keep my crazy mind in check?

 

TL;DR?

I need mood stabilizers; how to obtain?

First off, you don't want lithium. It makes you feel really, really crummy (physically ill). And it is highly dangerous to take without a doctor consultation as taking it in the wrong dosage is very easily lethal.

 

No online psychiatric test is reliable. If you really think you have BPD, go to a psychiatrist. Or your school counselor. Just don't self-diagnose. And paranoia is not a symptom of BPD. It may be a symptom of something else, but not BPD. Self-diagnosis is one of the worst things you can do. Also, BPD is not a "minor" disorder. If you had it, the people around you would notice, big time.

 

See a psychiatrist, or at least a school counselor. But DO NOT take any sort of mood stabilizers (ESPECIALLY Lithium) without a therapist prescription.


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I wasn't aware lithium medication was even legally obtainable without a prescriptive license. Good lord... :unsure:

 

You must be sceptical about any information you find on the Internet pertaining to medicine, especially psychiatric assessments because they are generally so easy to forge and pass off as 'real'. There are websites out there that tell you conventional medicine has no effect on the body and that we should convert to homeopathy, when there isn't any scientific evidence to support the former claim, and it's a blatent attempt to give misinformation so people will buy drugs from them (or another website owned by them or a business partner). Likewise, there are very sick websites that mislead people into thinking they have serious problems when, in fact, they only have minor problems or even none at all. Diagnoses on these websites really come down to how patients answer the questions and are thusly nothing more than a self-diagnosis, which is potentially dangerous if people then go one step further and start ordering drugs for a condition they may not actually have.

 

The reality is only a trained health professional can properly diagnose a personality disorder and it is definitely true that the only psychiatrists can prescribe lithium. Your first point of contact for mental health related issues should be your family doctor, most commonly a GP. Ask for a double appointment (20 mins) because psych problems tend to take longer to investigate properly. He'll ask you a few questions about your diet, weight and lifestyle, and explore the thoughts that have lead you to suspect you're paranoid. If he thinks there's something worth investigating he'll pass you on to secondary care, which could possibly include an appoinment with a psychiatrist who may prescribe lithium. In the meantime, consider visiting a counsellor who may be able to help talk things through if things are too much and your parents won't listen.

 

That's the route I would urge you to take, not the self-medicating path this website seems to have advised.

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