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Lately, I've been having a lot of qualms and doubts about my future. I realize that I'm still young, but all around me I see these people that look like they've got their lives all planned out and are working diligently towards whatever goals they have. When I take a look at myself, it's apparent that I'm not good at anything, nor have I discovered what I'm truly passionate about. I'm currently in my 2nd year of college studying engineering, but I'm not sure what I'm doing here. I maintain decent grades in school, though I honestly don't enjoy the material. While some of the content taught is "cool", I can't imagine immersing myself in it for the rest of my life. A large part of why I'm even in this major is due to my parents; in high school, I was very antisocial because my mom, dad, and mentors were always forcing me to constantly do homework and to constantly participate in competitions. My father attempted to persuade me that engineering was the best option for me because of "my excellent grades in math and physics", even though it was really because I was made to spend so much time on these subjects that I didn't have any room to explore other fields. Additionally, "it makes big bucks and that's what counts."

 

However, now that I'm at college, it seems a largely bottled up part of me has finally been released. No longer under the strict eyes of my parents, I am free to do as I wish and I have spent my last 2 years trying to figure out what I want to do. My first impression is that the world is absolutely enormous; I feel almost overwhelmed. My second impression is that despite trying several new fields through elective courses, I'm still not particularly sparked by anything (philosophy, history, economics, accounting, literature, chemistry, pure math, sociology).

 

Okay, to cut to the chase, essentially what's happening right now is that I'm seriously considering making a controversially large change in my life's direction. I am considering transferring out of engineering and moving to a music program. When I was a kid, I learned to play the violin and in my early days I thoroughly enjoyed classical music. I studied hard in theory, but my parents (in keeping with their strict and grueling regimes) raised me harshly in the field of practice. I came to hate the instrument, and dropped it completely after 7 years in junior year. It's been 4 years since, and I miss music a lot.

 

I was very immature back then, and lacked the ambition/motivation/drive to achieve my goals. Now that I have grown up a little bit, I am more willing to work hard instead of just collapsing under any sort of pressure. My upbringing was excellent; I should thank my parents for showing me that hard work is the only thing that can bring success (I am not naturally gifted at anything, so I often started everything a step behind a lot of kids) rather than blaming them for "killing" my interest (for lack of a better word).

 

Right now, I guess these are the options I have...

- Drop engineering entirely and switch to the music program at my school

- Drop engineering entirely and switch to the music program at another school, whether Canadian, American, or overseas

- Maintain engineering and attempt a music minor to see whether I still have any chance of pursuing music permanently, then resorting to another option listed the year following

- Finish engineering and pursue music in grad school

- Finish engineering, pursue engineering in grad school/find an engineering job, and merely keep music as a hobby

 

It's been 4 years, and I don't know where my abilities stand anymore. I simply do not feel any ambition or interest at all in my current major, and life just feels like a long drag towards a piece of paper. In my dreams, option 2 would be ideal, but it seems the least realistic/practical. As previously mentioned, I don't have much else in my life. I'm not really good at anything, so if I drop engineering and my music doesn't work out, I will have nothing left. This is a rather scary prospect. The best option right now in my eyes is to give music a shot as an aside, but my school's music program is tiny and I don't even think we have a violin teacher here. I am considering putting in the effort to travel to a nearby, larger university and consulting the instructor there.

 

I don't really know what my endgoal is. I don't even know whether or not I will be happy having music completely surround my life. Also, will I be able to make enough money to keep myself alive? Jobs are much more limited than in the engineering industry. I think in a perfect world, I would like to either be a travelling soloist or the concertmaster of a large orchestra. I just want to be a part of something wonderful, be able to be a part of incredible music... It seems really hit and miss though, and I'd be lying if I said the thought of all this didn't scare me senseless. Additionally, it seems everybody in music school has done nothing but music since they were 5 and I feel my past experience doesn't stack up. However, isn't that somewhat unfair? I have these dreams, and I want to at least give them a shot, but why is my past limiting me? Or are these just excuses?

 

I really don't know what to do though. The thought of converting to music has been on my mind ever since I came to college, but the security of my program both in the perspective of the next 5 years of my life as well as my future career has kept me in my seat. I guess it's the risk of taking that jump to something that may or may not be better (and may or may not bring colour to my life) versus the safety of a stable and blossoming industry (albeit, in my eyes, dull and uninteresting).

 

Can anybody who is studying in music help me out/provide any experiences or advice that they may have? I would also greatly appreciate any insight on anything I've said from anyone =) I realize I'm still a pretty immature and "lost" kid, but ultimately I want to live my life fully and happily while avoiding doing anything incredibly stupid that could jeopardize my future.

 

Thanks a lot guys, sorry for the huge chunk of text :(

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For the part that you joine a University with a profile nowhere near what you enjoy doing - that happened to me aswell. Unfortunetly i had to choose an area of expertise that would bring money in. Sadly this is a world in which we must adapt our Shifting back to you, i would say that having a stable source of income should be an important consideration in any future plans, and i think you made a wise choice in not simply giving it up. You could try music as a hobby or as a minor or even try it at another, more suited, college after you've finished this one. How many years do you have until graduation?

 

Consider that if you manage a solid source of income, by means of a degree in engineering, then you could easily pursue a music occupation without the worries of a possible lack of income. Above all, though, you need to be positively sure that music is truly something you enjoy doing and not just a pleasant reminiscence of past years. You should be confident that it wouldn't turn out to be only a short period of enjoyment and afterwards you again found that it's not what you wanted to do. I know that will be hard but it could spare you alot of trouble and would tremendously help you in making a decision that best suits you.

 

If it helps i haven't exactly found out what i wanted to do with my life either, although i'm 21. I can see where my life is going and i'm content with it, possibly because i don't know what are the things i would actually enjoy doing.

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I would go for this option -

 

- Maintain engineering and attempt a music minor to see whether I still have any chance of pursuing music permanently, then resorting to another option listed the year following

 

I feel as if it has the best balance between safety and branching out. You are able to experience music t a hgiher level, while still working on engineering which it sounds like you are good at. You can then decide if music is your passion and go from there.

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I'd say the obvious choice is not to drop engineering. You could end up just as dissapointed with music. I'd slowly start to pick up music again, but as a hobby, in your free time, rather than dedicating yourself entirely to it. See how you feel about it, try to meet people who plan to live as musicians, and the most important thing is to wait. Make sure you really want to do this, and it isn't just something you've become fixated with.

 

How much longer do you have until you finish studying engineering? If what you fear is losing your chance to finish your studies and then falling behind on them, then I'd consider graduating from college first and then moving over to music. It's never too late, really, and don't worry about people that have their lives planned out, chances are, those plans aren't going to follow through. It's OK not to know where your life is going.

 

Sorry I couldn't be of more help, and good luck.

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Oh, and a relationship. I didn't mention it because you seem like you don't have time to dedicate to another person, but it would probaably help you big time to get a girlfriend.

Disagree. Platonic friends would be better, that's less likely to crash and burn so even if he becomes dependent on them, he'll be fine.

 

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Attenuation, I hate to recommend this, but maybe you could start by browsing /mu/ on 4chan. It's a great place to get back into music. Though it is quite full of pretentious people who think their taste is the only good taste, there's plenty of sharing going around. If you've still got your violin, think about playing along.

People say degrees in music are risky, but that's only really true if you're planning on being a musician. Degrees can help you become a teacher, which makes a ton of money if you've got proof you know your stuff. You can also perform in orchestras, etc. Releasing music is just as hard (consider Thou have released 25 albums, EPs and LPs, in 5-6 years...), but more rewarding perhaps.

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Last night, I left my headphones outside in the rain. I can't decide if they're safe or not...

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There's no reason they'd hurt you, I'm fairly certain. Especially if you get all the visible parts dry first... (ie I think you're thinking of shock etc) Or let them sit in a tub of rice for a few days. The real question is whether they'd still work, which as they're headphones, I don't see why not; they're not terribly complicated.

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I can't get a job. After submitting my weak-ass resume, I never get called. I want to follow up and call the companies (fast food places and stores), but I don't know what to say. I can't get a job without work experience and I can't get work experience without a job.

 

@who_am_i Safetywise, your headphones should be fine.

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I can't get a job. After submitting my weak-ass resume, I never get called. I want to follow up and call the companies (fast food places and stores), but I don't know what to say. I can't get a job without work experience and I can't get work experience without a job.

 

@who_am_i Safetywise, your headphones should be fine.

 

That's the part where you lie about having a job and that it closed for business so there is no way they can contact them. I don't understand how some people expect you to start from scratch when you literally can't.

 

 

EDIT: These are the only times I condone lying.

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Or find a friend/family member who owns a business and have them claim you worked for them and are the best worker out there.

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Last night, I left my headphones outside in the rain. I can't decide if they're safe or not...

 

You should be fine. It's wiring running to a small speaker. You shouldn't get a shock or anything. Worst thing that might happens is that they no longer worked. As hawkxs rightly said, put them in a bag of rice. This is so it absorbs all the moisture out of them. Leave them in there for a few days.

 

Were they an expensive pair of headphones are just some cheapies?

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Cheap headphones. I wore them yesterday, without doing anything with rice or anything, and they worked fine. So yeah.

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I once left a Mario Pinball cartridge out in the rain and I was really scared I would get shocked when I turned on my GBA, but I really wanted to play. I was so glad when I didn't die.

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Camera guy: Whoa, haha, are you okay dude?

Matt: You want anything funny that happens, don't you?

Camera guy: still laughing

Matt: You want the funny shit that happens here and there, you think it comes out of your [bleep]ing [wagon] pushes garbage can down, don't you? You think it's funny? It comes out of here! running towards Camera guy

Camera guy: runs away still laughing

Matt: You think the funny comes out of your mother[bleep]ing creativity? Comes out of Satan, mother[bleep]er! nn--ngh! pushes Camera guy down

Camera guy: Hoooholy [bleep]!

Matt: FUNNY ISN'T REAL! FUNNY ISN'T REAL!

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I used to play mario on the original game boy.

 

...but only on the toilet.

 

The cartridge fell in once, (before the water got dirty :thumbup: )

 

Dried it off with a hair-dryer and left it overnight in a cupboard - worked fine for my 7.30am the next day.

 

I was not so lucky when my phone went in the washing machine though :angry:

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Ha, my phone fell into the toilet once (it was clean, don't worry). It was still working, but the GUI would glitch sometimes and the audio was not understandable. I wonder if the rice trick would of worked then.

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I once left a Mario Pinball cartridge out in the rain and I was really scared I would get shocked when I turned on my GBA, but I really wanted to play. I was so glad when I didn't die.

 

Similar thing happened to me. I feel in a river in rural Norway - below freezing, even in the summer - with a Super Mario World GBA cart (the re-release) in my pocket. Once I got out the river a little downstream, I was surprised to see it was in my pocket, and even more surprised when it worked. Six years on, it still plays fine. :mrgreen:


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Thread, I come once again to take a drink from your pool of infinite wisdom.

 

I have a "friend" who, while not a bad person, I just plain don't want to hang out with anymore (and really, I never did). We have NOTHING in common, and his sense of humor annoys me, but he still wants to do stuff all the time. As I have said before, I have never felt a need for or actively looked for friends, and most of them came about just as a result of the fact that they know I exist and that I wasn't mean to them. The guy I'm talking about is basically this incarnate.

 

What do I say to him to shake him off? We've known each other for nearly 5 years now, and it's my fault for letting it go for this long, but I can't take it anymore. In his mind, we're best friends, and all of my recent attempts to tell him have just been handwaved.

 

M: I don't want to hang out anymore, it just doesn't really feel like we have a reason to do anything and we don't have much in common.

H: Alright, we'll hang out a little later then.

 

He WILL NOT accept it. In his mind, we're best friends. And knowing him, if it does sink in, he may or may not try to get back at me somehow.

 

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Thread, I come once again to take a drink from your pool of infinite wisdom.

 

I have a "friend" who, while not a bad person, I just plain don't want to hang out with anymore (and really, I never did). We have NOTHING in common, and his sense of humor annoys me, but he still wants to do stuff all the time. As I have said before, I have never felt a need for or actively looked for friends, and most of them came about just as a result of the fact that they know I exist and that I wasn't mean to them. The guy I'm talking about is basically this incarnate.

 

What do I say to him to shake him off? We've known each other for nearly 5 years now, and it's my fault for letting it go for this long, but I can't take it anymore. In his mind, we're best friends, and all of my recent attempts to tell him have just been handwaved.

 

M: I don't want to hang out anymore, it just doesn't really feel like we have a reason to do anything and we don't have much in common.

H: Alright, we'll hang out a little later then.

 

He WILL NOT accept it. In his mind, we're best friends. And knowing him, if it does sink in, he may or may not try to get back at me somehow.

 

In other words:

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There's no way to get rid of someone without looking like a douche.

 

 

Unless...

 

You got him a completely manipulative girlfriend who will occupy all of his time, then you would be free.

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I can't get a job. After submitting my weak-ass resume, I never get called. I want to follow up and call the companies (fast food places and stores), but I don't know what to say. I can't get a job without work experience and I can't get work experience without a job.

Do some voluntary work and get experience + a good referee.

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Thread, I come once again to take a drink from your pool of infinite wisdom.

 

I have a "friend" who, while not a bad person, I just plain don't want to hang out with anymore (and really, I never did). We have NOTHING in common, and his sense of humor annoys me, but he still wants to do stuff all the time. As I have said before, I have never felt a need for or actively looked for friends, and most of them came about just as a result of the fact that they know I exist and that I wasn't mean to them. The guy I'm talking about is basically this incarnate.

 

What do I say to him to shake him off? We've known each other for nearly 5 years now, and it's my fault for letting it go for this long, but I can't take it anymore. In his mind, we're best friends, and all of my recent attempts to tell him have just been handwaved.

 

M: I don't want to hang out anymore, it just doesn't really feel like we have a reason to do anything and we don't have much in common.

H: Alright, we'll hang out a little later then.

 

He WILL NOT accept it. In his mind, we're best friends. And knowing him, if it does sink in, he may or may not try to get back at me somehow.

 

In other words:

kathy+bates+misery.jpg

 

I had a friend kind of like that too. At first, I put up with all her annoying and clingy habits, but one day (the day she said something offensive about my best friend), everything she said or did annoyed me. She thought I was just mad about what she said, but the problem was simply that I no longer enjoyed her company due to her annoying and immature habits. Still, she wrote in my yearbook that I was one of her biggest confidants and a very close friend.

 

Then I graduated high school shortly after that (this year, almost a month ago) and I haven't seen her since my grad party the day after. I had a way out - by means of natural separation, she's out of the picture.

 

For you, it seems like you need a way out - a move in a different direction or something. If you aren't changing anything about your life that would get you away from him, you'll have to either put up with him or act like a douche. You can be indirect by doing little rude things like not paying attention when he talks or just walking away from him at random times, but some people still don't take a hint. Good luck.

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I had a friend kind of like that too. At first, I put up with all her annoying and clingy habits, but one day (the day she said something offensive about my best friend), everything she said or did annoyed me. She thought I was just mad about what she said, but the problem was simply that I no longer enjoyed her company due to her annoying and immature habits. Still, she wrote in my yearbook that I was one of her biggest confidants and a very close friend.

 

Then I graduated high school shortly after that (this year, almost a month ago) and I haven't seen her since my grad party the day after. I had a way out - by means of natural separation, she's out of the picture.

 

For you, it seems like you need a way out - a move in a different direction or something. If you aren't changing anything about your life that would get you away from him, you'll have to either put up with him or act like a douche. You can be indirect by doing little rude things like not paying attention when he talks or just walking away from him at random times, but some people still don't take a hint. Good luck.

Thanks for the advice. You're probably right, there must be some way to make it look like it just happened.

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I once left a Mario Pinball cartridge out in the rain and I was really scared I would get shocked when I turned on my GBA, but I really wanted to play. I was so glad when I didn't die.

 

Similar thing happened to me. I feel in a river in rural Norway - below freezing, even in the summer - with a Super Mario World GBA cart (the re-release) in my pocket. Once I got out the river a little downstream, I was surprised to see it was in my pocket, and even more surprised when it worked. Six years on, it still plays fine. :mrgreen:

 

My MM Zero cartridge for GBA wasn't working, so I cleaned it with running water and a cotton swab. Works perfect.

 

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You just have to douche and cut him off. At least in my experience, there's no nice way to do it, and they will be hurt no matter what. Just try to be as direct as possible.

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Last night, I left my headphones outside in the rain. I can't decide if they're safe or not...

 

From my knowledge, earphones are safe and they won't shock you when exposed to any traces of water.

I use my 99 cent earphones right after shower and never once had problems.

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Sorry if this is a dumb question but, what exactly IS anxiety?

 

I hear about it all the time and tried reading about it. I know the symptoms but I guess I just don't get it.

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