Master your desires. Tons of people do it. People should never act solely on their appetites, especially when doing so could, as many pro-choice people in this thread hint at, ruin your life.
Yeah you're right, the middle path between reason and emotion mind is a good way to minimize suffering, don't always give in to appetites. But even if you do that to the extent that anyone should be expected, that's still a lot of sex and a lot of opportunities for unwanted pregnancies.
A woman is not always fertile. You can have sex without creating a child. The problem (that seems like it will never be solved, unfortunately) is that people feel they must have sex, even before they're ready to raise a child.
Oh. My. God. Are we seriously back to this natural planning [cabbage]? I already answered that in this
post. And as for the second part, our society is different from what it used to be. People got pregnant and started a family much earlier in the past, usually right when they reached sexual maturity. Now we put that off to get an education and establish a career before building a family, and in general that's been a positive change for society.
I look at that hierarchy (knew it'd be brought up) and I see those primary needs. Each one, if ignored for a lifetime, would result in death; each one except sex. Why do you think sex is a primary need? Is it because of the pleasure we get from it, or because we need it to keep the human race alive? Your food example does not apply, because food, regardless if you're hungry or not, still gives your body nutrients. You do not separate the act of gaining nutrients from the pleasure of eating something by eating it with the mindset that, "Hey, I'm not hungry, but this tastes good, so I'll eat it." The pleasure of eating it is still coupled with some sort of nutrient gain. It should be the same with sex: you can have sex for the pleasure, but you shouldn't separate this pleasure wholly from what sex is for in the first place.
Not all food gives the body vital nutrients, a lot of it is eaten purely for the recreation of it. And a lot of time that kind of food comes with negative consequences, so guess what? If I want to avoid those consequences, I do something about it like exercise; I must admit this metaphor is becoming a bit stretched though. Some evidence that sex is indeed a human need might be that NASA must consider the sexual needs of their astronauts in long-term space travel for one thing
Humans have needs, and although the astronauts selected by NASA, ESA and the other international space agencies are highly professional individuals, Dr Jason Kring, a NASA advisor and assistant professor at Embry-Riddle Aeronautical University in Florida, has pointed out that sexual desire is as potent as the need for water and food. “But the bottom line is that, like hunger and thirst, sex is a basic biological motive,” he said in an interview with the UK’s Sunday Telegraph. “The potential round-trip mission to Mars could take three years. It doesn't make sense to assume that these men and women are going to have no thoughts of it for three years. Nasa and other space agencies should address this in their training and in crew selection.” Kring suggests our future long-term space explorers should replicate what the early polar explorers did and take a colleague as a lover to minimize sexual frustration.
@Randox, I agree with you. I just find abortion and birth control, even though their damage control 'things', as giving more people a reason to have sex without being ready for a child. They have a 'way out', so to speak. I see them as doing more damage then help at this point.
I know it won't change anytime soon. And that sucks. :\
Sex is a constant in human society, no matter how much it is controlled, endorsed, or discouraged. And seriously, birth control has been a wonderful thing, it has allowed women to control their sexual lives in a similar manner to men. For centuries women have been basically unable to control their lives because pregnancy was always a risk, and now they are a vital and healthy part of our economy, government, and society. Oh, and another point. Even if abortion is illegal, women will try to get one even at the risk of their own lives. 70,000 women die every year from unsafe and illegal abortions, and that kills the fetus as well as the mother. People will always try to find a way out, and making that way out safer and better will only decrease the amount of lives lost; so if you're really pro-life and not just pro-women-suffering abortion would be better off legal.
For another example of why premarital sex is a constant in society, and always will be, here's another example: