People Who Secretly Have No Life

[EarthySun]

Who else here has friends at school or other places, but really doesn't hang out with them? It's also referred to as having "no life". Personally, that's me. I'm very secret as to what I do behind closed doors. I have a lot of friends and other places, but I don't hang out with them. If my friends invite me to do something with them, I'll say sure, but then just not pursue it and just not actually do anything. (Example: I didn't smoke weed with my friend over the weekend at his house, but I said I was busy at the last minute, and now he thinks I'm just not big on weed.) I might make excuses, or imply that I'm doing something over the weekend. In reality, I sit in my room, browse forums, listen to music, play guitar, etc. I don't ask girls for their numbers (or ask guys; I'm straight), or don't call/text people often, even if I have their number.

 

This weekend I'm going to see The Expendables (in 3-D) with two friends of mine. I'm sixteen still, but my one older friend is driving us to the mall and he's going to buy the tickets. Either that or we'll just buy tickets to something else and then go to it. Meh. It's the first time in about a year or two that I've actually done something on the weekend. Maybe it'll get me out of my rut.

 

Anyone else, or am I unique?

[Zierro]

Contrary to popular belief, my social life keeps me too busy.

[The Dark Lord]

Heh, I'm the same way. I'm thinking about moving to a dorm room because I'm hoping that it actually forces me to hang out with friends. :lol:

[fakeitormakeit2]

I do like my alone time but I also find it important to spend time with other people. I normally split my weekend up as Friday is for my friends, Saturday is for myself and Sunday is to God/charity. And I try my best to keep it as such, to remain in a healthy balance and not let one thing pour into the next day. Like this weekend since I have SATs Saturday, I'm having my day of solitude on Friday and changing out with my friends on Saturday instead.

[tripsis]

I'm usually like that as well. Honestly, I'm EXTREMELY picky about who I want to be friends with. Since middle school (like 5-6 years ago), I've only met two people that I actually liked being with. I've met people who are nice, but I'd always rather do something else than hang out with them (draw, watch movies, read, etc.). To me, that's almost always more fun than whatever I'd do with another person. When I think about my best friends, I think about two people that I met back in elementary/middle school. But now we're in university and both of them attend different ones than I do. I've met people here at uni who want to hang out with me, but more often than not, I blow them off. I'm just not interested. The one person I met at university who I loved being with is, in a sense, exactly like me. We were roommates over the summer and spent TONS of time just watching movies together. Heck, she even played RuneScape :lol: But I loved being with her because she was actually fun to talk to and I could do all the things I would normally do alone, with her.

 

However, I wouldn't call all this having no life. I have a life and I absolutely love it. I do things that I enjoy. I would call it being anti-social, sure, but not having no life. Rather than hanging out with people and being social, I'm pursuing my interests and exploring different activities that I find fun, exciting and challenging. If I had spent my life engaging in social activities, I doubt I would have found my passion (art). I wouldn't have had endless hours to spend painting and improving my skills, and even if I had discovered my love for it eventually, I would probably be far behind my current skill level. I probably would never have dipped into other exciting areas of art, like bookbinding, leather carving, scrapbooking, etc.

 

I say do what you enjoy. If that means being social and having a million friends - fine. If it means being antisocial but enjoying every minute of it - fine.

[Dax]

Yeah. I don't do much. It's a big amazement when I actually do go somewhere. I've been trying to go more places, get outside more often, but no-one's had anything going. :\

[Dupin]

I think most people on these forums are introverted - it is, after all, a forum based on Runescape. I personally do not set up many social outings, and only really have two friends I would call for stuff like that. But purposefully avoiding society is a bit extreme.

[ThurinEthir]

I suppose I'm like that. I'm not a fan of social gatherings. I wouldn't go to birthday parties except for the part where i'd feel guilty for possibly being a bad friend. I'll generally skip out on movies and such unless it's with some really good friends (I saw Inception this past summer with a few friends, but that's it). I really don't like saying "no" though when people ask me to hang out - I'll generally say maybe until the last minute, and then make up my mind, usually no.

My social activity outside of school is limited to church and extracurriculars, and outside of that...there's not much.

But I'm totally social online though! ^_________________^ (not really)

[Giordano]

I would be considered I have no life, but if I have the power to change that I would. Most of the time none of us hang out because we're busy, lack of transportation, or some of their mothers won't let them (they're over 18 mind you :wall:).

 

I suppose when I can drive and get a job, I'll encourage them to come out more since I'll give them a ride and couple help for some monetary problems (mostly lunch).

[Alg]

Secretly? I openly have no social life. Much rather get wrapped up in a good story...

[champion]

What's the point of purposely avoiding social interaction with friends? :???:

[Giordano]

Secretly? I openly have no social life. Much rather get wrapped up in a good story...

While it feels good to have just watched (stories for me are visual :razz:) I then feel sorta depressed on why my life can't be like that.

 

Life in the suburbs totally sucks when you're young and driveless and don't have a mom eagerly waiting to take you places...because at this age it's just quite embarrassing.

[mcneilp]

Most of my friends are either at work or at Uni in different parts of the country during the week so I tend not to do much Monday to Friday, maybe meet up for a pint or something if someones free.

Out with friends most weekends though, either out to the pub, cinema or round someone's house for some vidya games and banter. I'm content.

[Napalm]

If I hang out with my friends too much, I get borred of doing it. If I don't do it in a long time, I get borred alone and start wanting to hang out with them.

 

I try to find a balance between these two, which generally ends up in: Go out one weekend with a group of friends, then the next weekend with a different group of friends. I rarely go out twice in the same weekend, but sometimes I can do it without getting borred, but not with the same group.

 

It's really neat to have many groups of friends, all with different likes and dislikes, I always end up doing something different.

[Skeptical]

Anyone that can post here has a life.

 

Pedantics aside, I have less life than some, and more than others. A weekend of mine is more likely to include reading, Pantera, and work than parties, girls, alcohol, or church. Some would say that's not a life at all. I would disagree.

 

Really, the problem here is that the answer to your question depends on other people's judgment too much. Somehow I doubt most people will honestly say that they have no life.

[Zygimantas]

I know and talk to a lot of different people during school. But I only hang out with a few select friends outside of school. I like my alone time and hanging out with people that I know and trust.

[Star_Fox]

I really don't get the concept of "No life" just because that person's standards doesn't suit the other's.

 

The term is so relative that it is only good for insults that doesn't make any sense.

[ThurinEthir]

Life in the suburbs totally sucks when you're young and driveless and don't have a mom eagerly waiting to take you places...because at this age it's just quite embarrassing.

Haha yeah I know what you mean. <_<

I'm generally fine with getting together with friends to play video games and occasionally something like Ultimate...so maybe it's not so much as not having a social life (although I don't) or being antisocial (although I am), but maybe I'm just ridiculously stoic (which I am) and hate doing "exciting" things that I don't particularly like.

[The Observer]

I know and talk to a lot of different people during school. But I only hang out with a few select friends outside of school. I like my alone time and hanging out with people that I know and trust.

 

Pretty much me, except I haven't been doing much as of late.

[Skeptical]

Does socializing on TIF count?

[Riku3220]

I'm actually going to try and see if any of my friends want to go see The Social Network this weekend. Being in a school activity like band actually gives you a social life. Anyone looking to make friends should try it out.

[Zygimantas]

I'm actually going to try and see if any of my friends want to go see The Social Network this weekend. Being in a school activity like band actually gives you a social life. Anyone looking to make friends should try it out.

It's a decent movie. I made a lot of friends from track and basketball, I just don't seem to hang out with them. I just don't really want to put in the effort :mellow:

[Hedgehog]

I guess I'd be kinda the opposite of you, my friends never want to go anywhere, which makes me have to stay home on weekends. It kinda hurts my self esteem, though, since I feel like they're avoiding me for a reason, although I'm sure its just because they're IB nerds with no life. I've also purposely avoiding events for whatever reason multiple times, but not on a regular basis, so I can understand a bit. I always feel like I ramble in my posts. Anyway, the only time I actually have anyone reliable to hang out with is when I'm dating someone, which I don't plan on doing again for at least a little while, since I'm rather enjoying the single life.

[Bows]

I openly have no life. It's basically work, school, sleep. I have a few hours here and there and only one real day off during the week, and it's on Mondays, where people are either in school, or just busy since it's not the weekend. Yeah, I spend a lot of time on the computer but the courses I'm taking require it. It's not like I'm on Facebook the whole time; and I also only decline going out with friends if I'm really not able to. Otherwise I'll attempt to go. I won't lie though. I play a [cabbage] load of League of Legends when I get the chance to. On the dating side of the spectrum: I get girls numbers somewhat often. There's a bunch of girls at work that I hang out with after work for a little while (an hour or two at most), but I don't really try to get anything out of it. So I'm not anti-social, I just don't have time or don't care enough.

[Tim]

No life for me so far. My friends are lazy shut ins who bludge off centerlink and [bleep] their girlfriends (which stuns me how they even stick with them) so naturally Im forced to bum around home on weekends off unless I physically drag them out, sack-whack them and tell them I'll chop it off next time. I hate lazy friends, damages my already weak self asteam and makes it hard to go out and meet people.