in the quest summers end, Dont worry about dying when lighting the pyres because you gravestone will appear where the portal is. As long as u keep the games necklace with you when you die, or bank and get it, you wont loose your stuff, because it's easy to get back there in time. My gravestone lasts for 4 mins and I get back to my grave within 30 seconds... Sometimes more if im not paying attention, but max 1 min so there is a good 3 mins left on my grave time. If you dont know how to check what items you keep on death, go to were you check what you are wearing. There are three buttons on the bottom, one is where you check your armor stats, the next is where you check how much something is worth, and the next has a picture of a bag with a skull and cross bones on it. if you click that buitton it tells you what you keep and what you loose when you die. Thought this would help