"Request Assistance If you find yourself a few levels short of making an item, or want to safely offer your skills to another player, the request assistance option will allow you to do so. Simply right click the player who has the skills that you need and request their assistance. If they accept, a pair of hands will appear in your bottom right corner, and you can cook whatever they can. You keep the items, but they get the experience." this is what is on the website, i know its a minuet detail, but the "pair of hands" appear in the top right corner underneath the map. may be different for different graphical preferences thou.
