Forever_Lona

Dont get me wrong. I have no issue with feeding the horses. My issue is that I get incredibly mad when people change plans because they CHOSE to get drunk. You do not accidentally get drunk. You should not get drunk if you have things you are supposed to do, and getting drunk will prevent you doing them. I would have had no problem at all if she was hungover from the night before and called me, saying "Hey, I'm feeling crook, would you mind?". Hell, I wouldnt even mind if she had called and said "Hey look, I'm with the boys and I'd like to have a few drinks, would you mind feeding for me?" What pisses me off is that she assumed I hadnt made plans since we had worked everything out, that I would happily pick up the slack because she wanted to go and have fun.

An early morning hockey game ensued that a few drinks were had by all. I wasnt there simply because its nice to have some time to ourselves with other people sometimes, as we live together, sometimes we see WAY too much of eachother..

Hmm, right, so now it actually appears to be my fault. Apparently she never said she was coming... although the three people who were with me at the time all tell her she did.. Work that one out, for some reason, I'm the bad guy now. :cry:

As much as I would like to I cant. The horses need to be fed. I cant justify punishing them because of her moment of stupidity.

Its just beyond me why you would do something like that :wall: But I wont be offering to do the horses again anytime soon :shame:

Ok, my best mate has decided that she is going to go out this weekend and get drunk, go to a party or two, whatever. Fine. I ask her on friday night, before she leaves, if she would like me to feed our horses. "Nah, thats cool, I reckon I'll be right." So I call her this morning to find out whats happening, and I get told "Hahahaha, I'm drunk, hahahaha, I cant do the horses, hahaha." I mean, am I overreacting here? Would it have been so hard for her to wait until after the horses were done, or call me, or do the horses before she started drinking? I dont mind doing them on my own, I mean, I offered in the first place, but geeze.. Thats just really made me furious. She'll be doing them on her own for the next few days, thats for sure.

You don't read past the first sentence, do you... sometimes giving sympathy and a few caring words is the best somebody who lives thousands of miles away can do. Amen I realize there really isnt much anyone can do or say. As I said, just a bit of support goes a long long way. I'm happy to say Kait and I are getting on really well again (its amazing what a box of chocolates will do!). Going to go up to Sydney at a later date, when things are more stable financially, and spend some time with the family up there. Thanks again guys.

IGoddessI, thats the best anyone has ever been able to explain it to me, so thank you. Its been a pretty big rollercoaster ride, a huge learning curve, but I wouldnt have passed it up for anything. Kait doesnt often rapid-cycle, I usually find she has a nasty downer once every three month or so. This morning was a prime example, We headed off to work together with not a word between us, but half way through she started chatting like nothing had happened. Another hour passed and it was back to the thick silence. Confusing, hard to know where I stand, but at least I have a beter idea of whats happening now. Death_By_Pod, I should have explained better. She cut herself off because certain friends were doing nothing to help her, quite the opposite, constant niggling and trying to upset. So she has basically said enough, I need alone time, or I'm going to explode. She still has one or two friends who drop up there on a regular basis to help take care of her, keep her company, but otherwise, she is cut off.

Thank you so much guys :) Its been a heck of a week, but I'm sure things will only go up. The support I found here has been great. Beleive me, you have no idea how much it helps :thumbsup:

I am wondering, is there anyone on here who has had expereince with this disease? Whether they suffer it themselves, or know of someone who does? I'm having a bit of a tough time dealing with something at the moment. Two of my closest friends are Bi-Polar. One severely so, and she has just completely cut herself off in an effor to get her head back on track. The other, Kait, I live with, adore as a sister. Kait is a very non touchy feely sort of person, very strong, very independant. And when she falls into a depession all she wants to do is be left alone. Am I doing the right thing by respecting her wishes? Should I just subtly drop hints that I'm around, and more than willing to help out? I havent had a whole heap of experience with Bi-Polar, and now living with someone who suffers it is becomig difficult.. not that I would have things any other way, of course :) Just be interested to hear other peoples experiences if they are willing to share them

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I know theres nothing really can be done. I'm hoping someone will come up with a miracle cure for depression. Wouldnt it be lovely? Thanks Doughnut

Hi all Its been one hell of a week, so for want of someone to turn to for support, here I go. Found out on Friday one of my cousins had been in a car crash. Nasty, bad, he went to hospital in a coma. Monday I got a call letting me know they they had decided to turn off life support. My awesome friend was there with me, and she was great. Also found out that day that my 3 year old horse (still only a baby :() Was going blind in both eyes. Most likely she will be put down once her sight has gone completely, her quality of life just wont be brilliant, I simply dont have the means to keep a horse that is not earning its keep. As much as that decision pains me, I would much rather her put down than passed onto a home that she may end up starving in a paddock, shes not an easy horse to keep weight on. The funeral for my cousin is supposed to be on friday. Unfortunately, its in Sydney, I live in Tasmania, and I have no money to get to it. No one can help me out, my friends are as broke as I am. So I wont be able to go. Then stupidly, tonight, I got upset with my awesome friend, who, in my self absorbsion, I didnt notice was doing it tough as it was. Sheer selfishness on my part. She is Bi-polar and sometimes things get pretty hard, and she crashes hard and fast. If I hadnt been so selfish, only caring about my own problem, this wouldnt have happened. Shes pretty much told me to [bleep] off and leave her alone for a it, which I respect, I'm just frightened about how down she might be. We live together, her room is right under mine, and its all I can do to leave her be. Shes pretty much the only support I have. My family is pretty ordinary, I have been stabbed in the back by a group of friends I considered very close. Kaits all Ive got left. And shes probably lying on her bed thinking suicidal thoughts. No point me going down there, I know for a fact it will make things worse. :cry: