I don't know if many people already wrote this because i didn't read all the posts. but confidence is KEY, absolutely important.. some think its impossible to just "get" confidence... well, wise men say ( hah :) ) that, after a while, u become what u act. ACT CONFIDENCE, even if its FAKE (and it is fake..) but after a while of making this a habbit it will grow on you and it will no longer become fake. ur looks dont mean anything. dont push it. once I was so shy I would just stutter (sp?) around girls I liked.. someone here said something so true... the more you want a girl, and show her this, the less chance you have of getting her. act normal. anyway the key is in my first paragraph, ACT CONFIDENCE and it'll grow on you. just don't confuse being confident with being cocky, girls dont care much for cockiness. (altho they do care much about [rooster]. hah)