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Fellow Earthicans I come bearing news. While I did not yell bazinga, I did kinda whisper it loud enough so it could be heard as we were shushing so her parents wouldn't hear us. To that I say close enough.
I also watched Frozen and it was actually pretty cute.
End of transmission.
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Assuming I'm right, weren't you saying you and your girlfriend weren't planning anything sexual for quite a while?
Yeah but we passed a year of dating and teenagers get really horny. Adding to the fact that we do long distance, you can only imagine the hormones. Neither regret it, and we used it as a further sign of commitment.
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I can think we can all universally agree with that one.
Most of the time, people just need someone to clarify their situation, think of all the options available and work out which of those is the best one. If the conclusion of that process is them deciding "You know what, I think it's easier to leave the relationship", so be it. But you have to let people arrive at their own solution without leading them down a certain path.
I dont think anyone really had it shoved down their throat.
Maybe The_Gabe with his ldr thing but I do remember saying that breaking-up isn't necessary if your still happy but to think about that advice and act on it if your not with the situation anymore.
I have personally known many guys who are in that situation and regret it hardcore when the ldr begins to fail and then get mad at everyone around them for not telling them this stuff which is why I go out of my way to say that breaking up is an option
And honestly before anyone gets mad at me for being one of the biggest posters for #teambreakup I do try and filter my posts with "what would dr drew say" and for most of these situations regarding people in their early 20's who aren't married or have kids that are having big problems that they do not like on a daily basis they get a very quick "its time to break up" usually followed by seek some therapy if they think its okay to put up with some rather bad stuff (such as abuse).
The thing is, I've been an outsider viewing in on other's relationships for a long time. I use that experience to my advantage not to make the mistakes others have made.
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Again, like i said, that's a bit drastic.
Which is why I said you should physically leave the building and go home if you are around your gf and her friends when they are high. If you were in America I would tell you to calm down and get over it, but according to you getting caught smoking in your country is extremely dangerous which is why I give this advice.
You have to remember that break up is the advice given for every situation in this thread.
"Hey TIF I have this problem with the person or situation regarding the person I'm dating, what should I do to fix it. Oh yeah did I mention I really don't like the situation I'm in and its not going to change in the forseeable future."
Pretty much the main reason why half the advice given is break up and move on.
Exactly this. People with healthy relationships have no need to post in this thread asking for advice.
Ha but when I posted in this thread as an update a few months back and wasn't seeking any advice i was still told I should break up >_>
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Breaking up is a bit drastic, haha. Talk about causing unnecessary drama. I mean, if we was smoking ever day, walking around telling everyone, and doing it in public...it would be a different matter. She knows how to be discrete about it. It's just her friends that don't. They usually buy the stuff, and they have no issue buying it from dodgy people. That's kind of what bothers me. One of her friends though, is really paranoid and she is extremely cautious about it. So that, to some degree, puts my mind slightly at ease. But yeah, i'm happy to know that i didn't over react. She also apologized for her "reaction" to what i told her. Told me that i had every right to feel the way i did, etc. She said she'll see what she can do about the smoking. Truth be told, she's only smoked 2 or 3 times since New Years. It used to be a lot more before then, cause like i mentioned, i smoked with her now and then.
Anyway, on a different note...it finally happened. I was at her house this afternoon and her dad walking in on us. So much awkward.
You have to remember that break up is the advice given for every situation in this thread.
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But ultimately, that's just you. I don't like the chase.Just speaking from the part of my life I'm in (undergrad at a university with 35,000 students), I just can't imagine shutting every other girl out for one at the time being. I enjoy the crap out of the chase. Once the chase is over, I can't help but fade out of their lives pretty quickly, unless the sex is enough to make me stay for awhile longer. Sounds incredibly shallow haha.
I doubt that I'm the only one in the world who enjoys the chase.
I'm not saying you are. I'm saying that it is not something I enjoy. Also, I'm an undergrad at a university with 50,000 students.
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Just speaking from the part of my life I'm in (undergrad at a university with 35,000 students), I just can't imagine shutting every other girl out for one at the time being. I enjoy the crap out of the chase. Once the chase is over, I can't help but fade out of their lives pretty quickly, unless the sex is enough to make me stay for awhile longer. Sounds incredibly shallow haha.
But ultimately, that's just you. I don't like the chase.
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This almost sounds like the glass half full/empty argument though. I could live for the moment or I could worry about the relationship in the future.
I know you're all about poly relationships Muggie, but are you saying that all monogamous relationships are doomed?
Fun fact: A study shows that women are the happiest when men work about 50 hours a week.
Another fun fact: Just because one woman [bleep]es at a certain aspect doesn't mean all other will. I understand that I come off as ignorant, but in the long run, truthfully anything can happen. I like that I don't know what's going to happen. It'd make life boring.
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I said you're going to remain in this state of mind for at least the next 6 months, and then 6 months later, you stop by again and confirm that you're still in this state of mind lol
Like I said, these kinds of things are fine in the short-term but don't hold your breath for the long-term
But according to statistics, I passed the period where long distance relationships have the highest break up chances. In fact, at this point, relationships that are not long distance have higher chances of breaking up than those who are in long distance relationships.
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I don't think you realize that you're proving my point >_>
How? >_>
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The better advice, to everybody not just LDR, is to be prepared for the worst.
Don't put all your chips on the table. Put all your chips in a table with your hands still on them.
Being a pessimist isn't always the solution.
Just like playing only defensive soccer doesn't score you any goals.
I dunno, I just think there is a balance to not put so much trust and investment in a relationship, especially if it's LDR, but on the flip side, relationships need both of those things to last, so that advice can only go so far.
That's not being pessimistic, that's being realistic.
When it comes to LDRs (or any sort of relationship for that matter, but LDRs especially), you must consider the opportunity cost of it.
As far as Gabe goes, keep in mind that he's still in the irrationally optimistic Disney stage of the relationship and will probably remain that way for at least the next six months or so :P
I decided to dig this post up from June 26 which was page 771 just to give an update to the relationship.
Update: Everything in the relationship is going wonderful. We text everyday and Skype every few days. We hit our 1 year anniversary today. I saw her for Thanksgiving, Winter break, and I will see her in 3 weeks for Spring break and then Summer break.
It's been 7 months since you posted this Muggie. Things are working out strongly.
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Today...
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Mine was 13 months in the making.