Alright guys, I've been lurking around here for awhile and I've got a question that's been bugging me deeply... I'll give you the back story first. So, about a year ago I met this chick at a church function and we exchanged numbers and all of that stuff. We started hanging out a lot, and about 2 weeks after I met her we started going out. So, we're going out, seem to have a completely healthy relationship. Well, about a month ago, she dumps me. Not even the slightest sign of anything wrong. The part of this that really eats me up is that she did it through a phone call around 11 at night on a Sunday night. We had even hung out earlier that day. So, I get pretty depressed for awhile but eventually I pull my head out of my [wagon] and get back into the gist of things. This is where the problem starts. So about three days after she dumps me, she shows up to a church event with this "new" guy. And they are all on top of each other, as if they had been dating for 6 months. This escalated to the point of the youth leader telling them to stop, which they finally did. And, I must say, this new guy is a [bleep] and was flaunting to me his relationship with my previous girlfriend. Well, some words got exchanged and it all ended with a couple of black eyes and two bloody noses. (that part is fairly irrelevant just figured I would include as much detail as possible). Since me and my old gf don't go to the same school I don't really see what goes on there, but I started talking to some of her (and my) friends who go to school with her and I find out she's been cheating on me since about 2 months into our relationship. Why they didn't tell me earlier pissed me off, and made me lose faith in myself. Now, I'm dealing with a severe case of lack of self esteem, and also lack of faith in relationships. Since I found out about her cheating on me, I had another quick one week relationship with another girl, but I just couldn't connect.(This was more of a favor I owed a really close friend, it was destined to fail miserably). My question is how in the world will I ever get back into finding a somewhat serious (as serious as high school can be) relationship with people when I see every person cheating on me? Also, I don't know how to restore my self pride/esteem. Wow, this got long really fast... I guess this is more just venting in text form. Talked to all my friends about it and they've been supportive, I'm just looking for some better advice. All they can offer is "get back on the football field and kick some ___(Insert rival school) [wagon]". :? :wall: