shredthegnar91

might be true, but those three months would be hella fun Read your posts ITT, it's not hella fun to be in a casual relationship with someone you're emotionally attached to. Walked right into that one didn't I? :lol: doc_roe3, I'd like to read your story given that it is all true. I'm not one to tl;dr on this thread. Every last detail counts. And to shredthehegnar91, I retract my statement now that I've been confirmed of just how emotionally attatched you were. You are probably best off moving on as quickly as possible. That way you're not stuck in the mood you're in now for the begining of college. Best to get rid of the "empty" feelings over the summer when it won't effect you socially in your new environment. Ill write it out when I have the time. But mind you, its going to be LONG. please do write it out

oh no she was pretty attatched to me too, she admitted it when we were dating, and she actaully said this is the slowest shes taken things with a guy. I dont know what i did wrong, I want to talk to her one last time to achieve closure. I just hope she'll be kind enough to listen Women think differently to men, chances are she has a different interpretation to what she said to you. Taking it slow is also pretty much meaningless anyway until you're like 18 imo. I suggest you forget trying to get closure because I don't think you'll get it while you have feelings for her, but do what you want. i mean it wasn't slow in a bad way, she said she was always unsure of what she wanted. I'll let yall know what happens, i plan on asking her to talk today

oh no she was pretty attatched to me too, she admitted it when we were dating, and she actaully said this is the slowest shes taken things with a guy. I dont know what i did wrong, I want to talk to her one last time to achieve closure. I just hope she'll be kind enough to listen

might be true, but those three months would be hella fun Read your posts ITT, it's not hella fun to be in a casual relationship with someone you're emotionally attached to. Walked right into that one didn't I? :lol: doc_roe3, I'd like to read your story given that it is all true. I'm not one to tl;dr on this thread. Every last detail counts. And to shredthehegnar91, I retract my statement now that I've been confirmed of just how emotionally attatched you were. You are probably best off moving on as quickly as possible. That way you're not stuck in the mood you're in now for the begining of college. Best to get rid of the "empty" feelings over the summer when it won't effect you socially in your new environment. I think she really wants to cut me out of her life. I directly asked her through txting some serious and heartfelt questions about whether she has a desire to cut me out of her life completely and if we'll ever be friends again. all she says is "idk" :( , and then i send a txt saying i'll really miss her, to which she never replies :( . If I had known it would have ended like this, i would have never gotten attatched to her in the first place. I just want what we had before i fell in love.

You made me chuckle. He put it in a very cynical way, but he's right, there's more girls just as good as her, and then some. If you think this gaping pit can't be filled by anyone else, you're wrong. There's girls out there that can fill the pit twice. you're right too, its not just the looks though, it was the personality I miss the most. I highly doubt i'll ever find a girl that matches or exceeds what she had in personality but i know i'm wrong. this whole experience made me an emotional wreck

I spent 2 whole days where i did nothing but stay in my room and grieved. People are right when they say moving on is the hardest part, I can't stop thinking about her

A part of me died that day, I've learned to be emotionally detatched. still.... I always will have this empty feeling Do your best to move on, cut her out of your life completely if you feel you need to. If you don't it can bite you in the ass later. That is good advice but i don't know, its bad enough i have this gaping pit where my heart used to be. i can't imagine just ignoring her forever

A part of me died that day, I've learned to be emotionally detatched. still.... I always will have this empty feeling

End of story. You win. She's bailing before she can hurt you. no, she won't forget you. Although, you will probably grow apart. But hell, enjoy this while you can. It's not all bad. Hope you weren't too emotionally attatched with her. She kept your sweat shirt. You obviously meant something. yea i suppose. she also said the timing was bad. and i was pretty attatched to her, and she was also attatched to me, not as much as I was. I still wish I could have continued this story, this was the closest thing to intense love I had for her. Yeah it hurts when chicks you like bail out. I say hang in there for the friends with benefits thing over the summer, and then decide if you want to attempt to pursue her into college [not recommended] or gradually grow away from her after the summer and find a girl that has "better timing" [recommended]. I just hope she actually will. She did call me the day we split up and comforted me. I doubt i'll pursue her during college, she's probably gonna find some other guy that she clicks with and before ya know it, i'm just gonna be a thing of the past. It'll be a while before i can chase girls, a part of me dissappeared that day

End of story. You win. She's bailing before she can hurt you. no, she won't forget you. Although, you will probably grow apart. But hell, enjoy this while you can. It's not all bad. Hope you weren't too emotionally attatched with her. She kept your sweat shirt. You obviously meant something. yea i suppose. she also said the timing was bad. and i was pretty attatched to her, and she was also attatched to me, not as much as I was. I still wish I could have continued this story, this was the closest thing to intense love I had for her.

Just thought i'd like to share my story with yall. I asked this one girl to prom months in advance, and before i know it we start hanging out and stuff. We actually started to get into all the good stuff like making out and whatnot, and when prom rolled around, it was the best night of my life. We started to get a little bit more serious after that, then she started to fall out on me. She said it'd be better if I didn't start a relationship, because it would only end in heartbreak for me, and because we're going to 2 different colleges and whatnot, and because she wanted to go through summer without being tied down. I was crushed, she basically decided to leave me one week before graduation. She said we can still be friends with benefits and we can hang out, but i have a distinct feeling she'll gradually fade away forever. She also said she'll always remember me and still kept a hoodie that i gave her. I'm just wondering, will she gradually just forget me? because I sure never will forget about her

you can start your badboy streak by slapping the mess outta your so called "friend"

That translates to "ask again later". I highly recommend taking Lent's route in more or less forcing her into a decision. Unfortunatly, the macho attitude has the risk of her choosing to not choose you. But she's a girl. And this is prom. Chance are in your favor. And Lent, If I'm a 'Ted' you are absolutley a 'Barney' ;) Hmmm I like your approach, thank you for the advice Good luck, tell us how things went :). Oh i will, it'll be a while though, and hopefully it doesn't have a sad ending

That translates to "ask again later". I highly recommend taking Lent's route in more or less forcing her into a decision. Unfortunatly, the macho attitude has the risk of her choosing to not choose you. But she's a girl. And this is prom. Chance are in your favor. And Lent, If I'm a 'Ted' you are absolutley a 'Barney' ;) Hmmm I like your approach, thank you for the advice

word for word, that was exactly what she was saying, but that was before i asked her :\

Well.. if you decide to wait, I'd give her like a week. That's MORE than enough time to make a decision like this. If you wait much longer than that, odds are you'll end up going alone because everyone has already been asked :P I honestly see her saying "I need some time to think about it" as "I'm waiting for someone else to ask me.. if he doesn't ask me, I'll go with you because I'd rather not go alone. If he does ask me, I'd rather go with him than you." But I could be wrong. I don't see any other reason to need to think about it tbh. haha the thing with my school is, alotta the guys are afraid to ask girls to dances and whatnot. Most usually go to dances by themselves. As far as I know, the majority of girls at my school are still dateless, its just that this particular girl is the one of the few that i think like me enough to go with me, but then again i really dont know. And I dont want to be pushy about it, since being pushy is a turnoff apparently.

I'd say not to wait. I fell into this trap a while ago and it sucks from experience. I'd just say to ask confidently to go to prom. Being indecisive is probably one of the worst things I've done. I mean i already asked her, she's being the one indecisive :wall: She said shes not saying no, she just wants some time to decide i'm guessing. I mean prom is still a month away, but still, this kinda killed my mood, as i just decided to play it safe and take that answer as a no :(

Hay everybody, i got a question. Ok, its a long story, but me and this one girl have been hanging out for a while. We've gone on a few dates, i've taken her to the beach and whatnot. So far we've been clicking. However, i recently asked her to prom, but she said she wasn't decisive on whether she truly wanted to go. She says shes not saying no, she just isn't truly decisive on whether she wanted to go with me or not. I dont know what to take that as, I'm just playing it safe and taking it as a no :mellow: What do yall think? should i just get another date or wait on her decision?

Whenever I pop a few, a dab of hydrogen peroxide makes sure that no infection occurs. works wonders :thumbsup:

Just be open. Like, "How is your day?" or "How are you?" or "You going to that basketball/football/whatever game?" stuff liek dat.

she's one of the few good looking girls that actually has a brain. Is it your heart that's saying that, or are you looking for a piece of meat? (Woman cooking food) did you not read my story?

she's one of the few good looking girls that actually has a brain.

ok, this one girl i've been talking to for a long time knows I like her, but some other !@#$head asked her out b4 i could, and now i just sit back with a fake smile, while inside i feel like crap. The relationship hasn't really gone anywhere significantly though, despite the fact that they've been together for like 9 months. I did ask her to homecoming and she was willing to go with me if her boyfriend didn't come down, but karma is a @##$% and she ended up not being able to go with me. I'm just wondering, whats the best thing to do? I know she deserves someone better, and i've tried to let her go, but she's like the other half of me. I'm just really torn up about it.

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ok, this one girl i've been talking to for a long time knows I like her, but some other !@#$head asked her out b4 i could, and now i just sit back with a fake smile, while inside i feel like crap. The relationship hasn't really gone anywhere significantly though, despite the fact that they've been together for like 9 months. I did ask her to homecoming and she was willing to go with me if her boyfriend didn't come down, but karma is a @##$% and she ended up not being able to go with me. I'm just wondering, whats the best thing to do? I know she deserves someone better, and i've tried to let her go, but she's like the other half of me. I'm just really torn up about it.