JamesPRoman

Either be honest and open and put the ball in her court - it's her job to build back the trust if she's cheated on you before - or move on. Shhiiiiiiit, man. And here I thought you were just being clingy @_@ I told her, 'You need to gain back my trust with what you've done to me.' She would reply 'I don't want to be with someone who doesn't trust me.' I know she wants to be with me, I stick around and stay late at night to make sure she's okay because she has insomnia and does really weird stuff and breaks down at like 4AM. I just don't want to be walked all over.

This isn't her problem, it's yours. If you didn't feel jealous, then you wouldn't be posting here or complaining about it... I'll say it again: It's not a matter of her "disrespecting" you-- it's a matter of your jealousy. She's going to keep seeing him, whether it means anything or not, and whether you like it or not. My advice to you is: learn to deal with it. The more you keep complaining to her about it, the less attracted to you she will become. You're acting very needy right now. Stop. But don't I have a reason to be jealous? She wasn't even sure if she liked him or not. She's cheated on me before in a situation similar to this. I don't know guys, it's hard for me to deal with this. Like Muggi said, "if one party still likes the other party and the other party isn't sure whether they do or not is not just a friendship."

My girlfriend of 21 months still hangs out with her ex boyfriend, who was before me. And I honestly hate his guts. A week or so ago, her ex boyfriend told her he liked her (and still does). This resulted in my girlfriend getting really stressed over it and eventually having to think to herself 'Do I like him again?' And she came to the conclusion she didn't like him. She still hangs out with him often, and it really bugs me. I tell her it bugs me and told her to put herself in my shoes, because wouldn't anyone feel uncomfortable about your girlfriend hanging out with a guy that she had to ask herself if she liked him or not? She knows for a fact it bugs me so much, but she continues to hang out with him. I do not want to take away her freedom, she is her own person, and I trust her. But this isn't a matter of trust, it's a matter of respect. I don't want her to completely ignore how I feel and continue to hang out with him. They do not hang out alone, though, the group is; my girlfriend, the ex, and the ex's best friend who is a guy. After I told her about this, she said 'I'll always have a special bond with my old friends. Guys or girls. They bring back my childhood.' I understand that and I don't wanna take that away from her, but it just digs so deep under my skin. What do I do, guys?