Genuinely hard decision. I can see that his behaviour has been very gradually changing. I will only leave him if I feel there's no point attempting to 'make it work'. He's thinking of visiting at one point but at the moment I think we'll keep going as it is then abandon ship or see what we can do to keep things working out. Yeah I am very close to the Canada America border. Never thought I'd even be going to that part of the world but I am still excited West, Central, or East in terms of being stateside? I've been to calgary and winnipeg and calgary was very fun.