helpmeownlife

I am an American, not currently living in MA.

Hey TIF... I'm going to find myself going of to college soon and I'm not really certain which of the seemingly infinite roads there are to take. I do know that a long-time goal of mine is to be accepted into and attend MIT. What I don't know is pretty much everything else. I'm extremely gifted in computer programming (Java, PHP, etc) (it's my forte), and it would be best if I went into that for a living. However, I'm not sure what that entails. Computer Sciences? MIT has a course (I think) called Electrical Engineering and Computer Sciences, which would be awesome, because I (guess) I'm interested in both of those, if what I assume is correct. So... two main things. 1.) I'm talented at programming in computer languages. I also like building things, and I dream a future life similar to Tony Stark (in the Iron Man movies), minus the weapons development. Which major/degree should I dive into? 2.) If anyone has tried to or has attended MIT, could you please tell me about the class life? Perhaps some tips on admittance? Thank you very much for your time and support.

I just wanna thank you guys for your help... I've just pushed aside my meh and have became my banter-y, fun self again, just like that. There's not enough thanks I can give to repay for the feeling I got when she stopped giggling, sighed, and said "I missed you." Another mission accomplished (Y) I really need to come and pay it forward here sometime.

I haven't done anything wrong to her, if anything, I've "been the best anyone has ever been to her"... it's me... edit: also; rob, we have cousin signatures =P <3RiseAgainst

Well, I posted that comment because it said he was actively viewing the page, and I assumed he was going to share some of his famous wisdom.

Anything from Lent, before I break down, here?

I don't know guys. I can't take this anymore. The external nor the internal.

How do I stop worrying that she'll leave me, or leave me and tell people I'm a terrible person?

Please help me. I have had a [cabbage]ty past month and a half, and I can't take all of this stress anymore. Everything externally has gotten better but now I'm internally a wreck and ruining everything. Including my relationship. Everything was great in the beginning and it was the happiest relationship and now I'm [bleep]ing running every [bleep]ing thing into the [bleep]ing ground. Through all of the recent stress, fighting from family, and my girlfriend being distant from fighting within her family, I've broken. I've become so paranoid that I can't enjoy anything anymore, and anything I've previously enjoyed, like I've previously stated, I'm running it all into the [bleep]ing ground. I don't mean to bring all this downing into the thread but this is serious and if I don't get solve it, I can only foresee things going further and further South. First, I'm worried that my girlfriend will break up with me. Second, I'm worried she'll go and be upset for some reason and tell everyone that I'm a bad guy for stupid reasons or something. It's all irrational. And I'm scared to death because of it. This is my first actual long-term relationship after so many failures that have built me up to think and worry like this. I've never been able to trust anyone, and despite the great, lively, spontaneous beginning, I'm now driving it all to [cabbage]. She knows my worries. She promises me that she won't do any thing I fear, and bless her for putting up with my [cabbage] all this time... at least, until now... now she's upset that I'm worrying about all of this and of course, our relationship is suffering because of my huge insecurities. There's no fun anymore, there's all distance, and my "prevention" is causing the doomsday. In the grand scheme of my transformation a couple years ago, and all I've learned about social dynamics, you don't need to educate me on that. I'm well, well aware on how [bleep]ing badly I am [bleep]ing this up. Many of you would have told me to cut, run, and gtfog, but I don't want that. I want to keep her. I'm just [bleep]ing everything up with my paranoia and insecurities and I can't do anything about it. It's not fair. I can't ever win; I can't ever be happy. I can't take any of this anymore. If my life is going to be this screwed up I'd rather just not live it this way. I've dealt with enough of it. Please fix this. I don't know where else to go.

Just something to add (and not ask, for once): we're all gamers here (or at least we used to, at one point), and whenever I hear talk about this, I remember this great analogy... You want to level up your babe-getting skills, right? Social level, whatever. How do you get advance levels in mostly all skill-based video games? Experience. Sure, that may mean clicking a tree 250 times every hour, but how would you define 'experience' in real life? Basically, real life experience is anything - win or lose, and you learn from it. You're still gaining levels... in fact, that's what I did most of my life... you grow up actually when you make mistakes... that's a key... if you're successful all the time, you're not growing.

Lent <3 Why are you always there, lol?

Alright, so, my friends really want me to do theater. I have to audition with a broadway-ish song, and my friend recommended Dancing Through Life from Wicked. I don't know anything about Wicked, theater, or singing. Please help. I really want to do well, and as much as I understand this is a 'it's your first time, you'll fail/learn/blah', I want to pwn as much as I can. I don't want to be the awkward kid who goes up there and sings off key who looks like a fool in front of who's opinions I care about (which, is the situation). If any of you have advice on theater, singing (at all); or specifically Dancing Through Life for my audition, that would be awesome. Thanks guys. --- Additional Info: I'm not new to music, just singing and theater. I've been a musician for about 10 years (basically all of my life) and I'm multi-instrumental. My friends say that I'm a good singer, I don't believe them. I want to be awesome. My very honest friend said if I could 'drop the nasal' [tone, I'm assuming] then I would be great.

RPG, I'm pretty sure I read that in the voice you desired... I appreciate. I'll get things together sometime soon.

Damn I could sure use a pep talk too... [ - and also I feel like I'm a mood swing-y person, I only post up in this thread in instances of extreme happiness or issues. i promise, i'm at least that stable - ] I've been in a relationship for almost a few months now, but it's been starting to get shaky lately and I really don't like that... I don't know if it's me, or if she's uncomfortable with me, or she's having second thoughts, or she is just pity-dating me (I can assure you, underneath this finally shiny exterior is a [cabbage] load of insecurities, and they're coming back). I'm pretty sure if I was just in state (does anyone here use that?) or basically feeling really confident and happy I could fix things just like that... but my past insecurities are getting the best of me. Please help. =/

Homecoming. Best night of my life. I love all you guys. Let me take this moment in my emotionally-high state to let you know that. Everything that has changed me from the worst case scenario to now is all due to you. The skills, the mentality, the confidence. Funny how all of that stemmed from my love of Runescape... who would of thought a RS help site would of had one of the biggest impacts on my life. Srs, straight, up, bsns yo. Thanks guys.

Well guys, I have a week, and I still have no idea :/ should I just ask a friend to teach me, or what?

Move to the music. If you look stupid, it will be fun. I mean, if you're awkward and uncomfortably bad, but don't make it obvious that you don't care, you're better off staying seated. But, yeah, dance. Let's see. How old are you? High school, okay. There'll probably be grinding. I can't help you there, never done it, never had any desire to. Simple concept, though. You can slow dance? Good, that's very good. I hope you mean ballroom dance, not hold her waist and move to the music. There's a time for that, but you're just as much showing off as you are enjoying each others' company. Girls love to show off how good their boyfriends are at whatever. Sounds like a good girl, by the way. Start out with learning how to move your hips to music. Circular motion. Guys do it much, much slower than girls. Work up to your shoulders, and your arms soon follow. Lose yourself in the good time, but not completely (don't want to do anything too weird, aye?). Just don't make it a big deal if you think it's stupid. Don't stop until the song's over. Good dancing is tiring - if there are a bunch of songs one after another, don't do more than three if they're all fast. Those group dances that everyone seems to know except for you? Learn them! It is fun. You can usually learn them by the time the first verse is done. Above all, wear comfortable shoes and an undershirt ... Ah, Lent, I was really hoping you'd post, and you delivered... addressing your comments: [cabbage]. That, and the only extent I know, which is a very strict box-step, but that's swing dancing. Uh. Yeah. That's really all I was thinking when I read that. That's the thing, right now, no idea how to dance. I'll 'practice' the techniques that you mentioned, and try to find a friend who can teach me in private in under 14 days, I suppose... I'd love to show off... Summer was supposed to be my time when I addressed all this stuff during this transformation, but I wasted it...now I'm trying to act like it's all up my sleeve.

Need advice gurus/bad[wagon]s :s Two things. One trivial yet urgent, and one that's very mental and emotional that I could really care less if only my first thing is solved. </runon> I'll ask the first one first. 1.) How the [bleep] do you dance? Homecoming is right around the corner, and I'm taking my girlfriend. I plan to have a good time, but my good time has always been with friends, and all I really did was party-boy awkwardly with my friends and then stand around. And I know that saying this goes against all of the stuff I've learned in the past several months (perhaps that stresses the sincerity), but my girlfriend really is amazing. She's one of those really rare girls... that is social, popular, into games, sweet, sincere, also a lil' spicy... (tl;dr)has everything, and I'm not going to leave her unsatisfied because I'm just standing around and only dancing on the slow songs (pretty much all I can dance too. So, I've got a little more than a week. I know there are tons of dance lessons on YouTube, I just need to know how and what and where to learn. I don't know how to dance to hip-hop and what else there really is to do. Please enlighten.

Yeah :3 I was randomly generating a name, you were first to mind. Any advice, oh wise one?

People in general, but leaning towards teh womanz.

Blarrrrrrrrrrrrrrg I'm finally back seeking advice. I noticed two things today. Do you remember like 50000 pages ago when I knew nothing about pick-up or flirting or dating or anything? And I had just got out of a depression, and I was starting improving myself? Well, I kept posting about how I couldn't feel true heartfelt-attraction to anyone anymore, just lust. 1.) Today, while looking at my girlfriend (which unfortunately I don't see at all at school, except for 10 minutes when we arrive)... I felt it again. Full-on srs bsns. It was really awesome, and then I had to miss her for the rest of the day. 2.) So, at the end of school today, I was leaving, and she was waiting on her parents to pick her up, and she was like 'it's ok, Lent is here and we're jamming to metal music!'. Now, I know a little bit of jealousy is natural. I know that both from experienced and my research that if you are constantly stalking the girl and/or extremely paranoid and/or you throw your heart out via vomit onto her and killing any tension, you have a guaranteed chance of killing the relationship. Obviously I'm not gonna do any of that, so that's not my problem...I know how to work things externally and I'm starting to get real life experience. The reason I'm really posting this lil' tidbit is because that little thing, after finally for once feeling like, complete crush super-love heart-felt <3333333, I've noticed that those tiny things are starting to tear me up inside just like before. And I'm thinking "crap, this is really going to screw with me for the rest of my life unless I target it and solve it." So, is this a normal occurrence, or just my emotions, and how can I deal with it?

What kind of shirts stand out in crowd? I usually sport abstract graphic T's or American Eagle stuff.

Just got my schedule. It sucks. No contact with my girlfriend or any close-friends. This year is going to suck. Lol. >.>

I can back up what Lent and Iamdan have mentioned from stuff I've heard in my learnings too. Lemme think... The whole piercings, tattoos...to be honest, I (myself!) wouldn't do that, because that's just not the kind of person I am. However, there is reason behind the whole peacocking thing. Basically, it shows that you're not afraid to deviate from conventional style and you're comfortable with a little extra attention. Now, the whole all-out peacocking thing you may thing is odd (cowboy hat, glow-necklace, etc.). In my mind, it is too. That's not to go and say that it won't work; the effectiveness of your style doesn't matter so much in the actual articles of clothing, it really only matters if you can pull it off. For example, if you're going to go crazy with peacocking but you're going to be quiet and just stand there, then it's going to be awkward. Just the same in reverse, too. If you're some crazy go-get-'em extrovert and you wear a sweater vest and dress pants, that's going to be a awkward too. The watch thing is legit, and I don't understand how it could be so easily dismissed like peacocking. That be told, you don't need some pure gold Rolex or anything. I have a custom made Nike watch that was so difficult to get because it was discontinued when I found it. But luckily, I managed to get one. There's a good reason I worked so hard to get it too, and not settle for anything else. It's a pretty freaking nice watch. It's not some business-clad golden watch, but it's sporty and classy and I get comments on it all the time ("DUDE AWESOME WATCH!1231//"). Tanning, eh. It's not that big of a deal for you, it looks like. Just make sure you don't turn into the saturation of a polar bear and you'll be fine. Adding on to Lent's post, you want to get clothes that fit good. And that's good advice for everyone. Once I lose a bit more weight, I'm going to go out and upgrade all of my clothes. Basically, it doesn't matter whether you're a chubby kid or a twig - the better your clothes fit, the better you'll look. If you're chubby and you wear a larger T-shirt in an attempt to hide it, it doesn't hide it, it just looks like you're insecure about your weight. And you want to be secure in your appearance and have sexual confidence. Finally, the pockets thing. I personally kept my hands in my pockets at all times previously in my life, but I've kicked the habit. While Rpg is right, it goes both ways - it can make you look super insecure and uncomfortable too. I haven't heard of the back pockets thing, I might start trying that myself. Hope I helped bro.

This is from the Yahoo! Answers page, which probably means you have a radio station transmitting very close to your house. And yeah, radio stations used to transmit so intensely that people could pick up radio in their braces, and hear them through their ears.