Story of my life. Being Chinese-American, my parents were great at teaching Chinese mannerisms and culture. I understand most of the customs, speak the language, and do things differently than they would be done in America. However, although both of my parents are Chinese, I was born in America. I love my heritage and culture, but obviously, I live within American culture. The two often conflict, especially when I was young and didn't know any better. I've grown up, explored this hybrid identity, and have figured out that I'm lucky - I get to choose what I like best about both cultures. Don't feel like you have to be forced to "be" American or "be" Finnish. You are.. you. Don't label yourself like that. And like you, I have the same struggle with nationalism/patriotism. Never once have I ever felt a strong allegiance for the USA. I've never felt the need to root for the US in world sports. In the end, I am ultimately American. And as fakeitormakeit2 said, nationalism can be a good thing, but overdone, it can lead to disastrous results. A sense of identity as a Chinese-American took me all four years in college to finally figure out (through community work and education) but you'll get it eventually. Just label yourself and you'll be fine. :)