me and my friend tryed out gravestones in wildy......at first try my friend taked bag full of items (each item was worth more than 3000 gp) and then he let himself to kill by monster....gravestone appeard and i waited until it demolished but no items respawnd.......next try was aslo with items (full bag but their value was less than 3000 gp) and same thing happend.....whats wrong.......english isnt my first language but i understande about the gravestone update that after it demolish u get all the player items he/she lost???

Only the owner of the gravestone gets items. And he/she only gets them if he gets there fast enough.

me and my friend tryed out gravestones in wildy......at first try my friend taked bag full of items (each item was worth more than 3000 gp) and then he let himself to kill by monster....gravestone appeard and i waited until it demolished but no items respawnd.......next try was aslo with items (full bag but their value was less than 3000 gp) and same thing happend.....whats wrong.......english isnt my first language but i understande about the gravestone update that after it demolish u get all the player items he/she lost???

 

The only person who can demolish the gravestone if the owner itself if he comes back, otherwise the items will be lost.

tnx....

so wat i'm gettin out of this is that when i die i can run back to where i died and pick up all the items that i dropped and if i don't they just disappear and nobody gets them

You need to run back to your grave and press demolish. Your items will fall on the ground for you to grab.