MAJOR Relationship Problems...

[Cynical1]

And you will have a girl who only wants you because she can't have you. Just tell me how long that relationship lasts. Now if you were just trying to get [wagon], yeah, but if you are looking for relationship as this guy has posted...

[Dontknowyet]

but i see the only problem between them is starting the relationship? they have a mad foundation, they must be able to talk because they wouldnt be such good friends for this long..

[WutangFlu]

From what i've read you have comfronted her YOURSELF you've had other people do it for you..

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

be a man and go up to her and ask her yourself.

[holivasidor]

I understand how you feel. Im in love with this girl as well but she doesnt want a boyfriend at the current time, even though we've admitted to having deep feelings for each other.

[lawrencekill]

IF she's playing with you, put a big "stop" sign. End the chase, ask directly, and if she falters, or changes her mind often, just STOP ASKING HER. Just let her think or if she is really just playing around, find another gf. YOUR WORLD DOES NOT REVOLVE AROUND HER.

[Warlover]

U myt think you have problems but how messed up is this

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I liked this girl for 2yrs and 1 day a yr ago out of the blue she asked me out i was like "YES!!!!" so we went out, after 3 months she dumped me :'(, i found out from her best friend (or blackmailed :twisted: ) that it was cos she fancied an older guy (i was crushed). Anyway since then i found out some stuff that makes me feel better in some ways but worse in others, she seems in the last year to have gone out with over 20 lads including her brother which she went "all the way with". like i said messed up.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

ANyway ive moved on and the girl i fancy now, H8's me, no idea why, i always seem to pick the wrong girls

[Cynical1]

but i see the only problem between them is starting the relationship? they have a mad foundation, they must be able to talk because they wouldnt be such good friends for this long..

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The problem is she isn't attracted to him. Its just a [bleep] fact of life. Yeah, they may be good friends, but the sexual attraction (not in the close way, but in the actual pheremones & chemestry) isn't there. If it ain't there, there is only so much you an do to make her lie to herself about it being there.

[monkey_933]

Sorry for the double post..but I dont think the summary would fit in with that post. If a mod wants me to merge it, tell me.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

SUMMARY:

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Okay, I've liked this girl for 5 years, and she liked me for 5 years too. We're just major chickens and couldnt talk to each other. I asked her out last week and she said she'd think about it. She told me she did want to go out with me, but she wanted to be friends too. she chose friends over BF/GF, but she still likes me as more than a friend or family. I truly LOVE this girl, and I want to be more than friends.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

is there anything I could/should do?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Wow..dude..i'm having the exact same problem. So i like this chick for a while..she likes me to. Then today we were walking..i walked her home, then she texts me a little later on my phone saying she see's me more as a friend than a boyfriend, so we broke up.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I mean, i'm sure that she likes me but i have no idea why she wont go out with me. I have done like nothing, and i want to be more than friends and im sure she does but idk why she wont go out with me. Like one day she likes me, the next she wants to be friends..etc etc, its been like that for a couple months now.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Ah well..a very good pick up line is, tell her that if you kiss her and she doesn't want to kiss you back, then you will know that she just wants to be friends. Usually works every time.

 

 

 

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[Sirgatory]

From what i've read you have comfronted her YOURSELF you've had other people do it for you..

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

be a man and go up to her and ask her yourself.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I've done all that.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

But like you all said she "plays" with me..and I don't know what to make of it.

 

 

 

I'm just really confused.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Monkey 933: Yes you are having the same problem, from what i've read.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I'm NOT giving up though. Not until I know what happens with us.

[Warlover]

i hate it when girls dump you through text/over the phone, they can at least say it to your face

[monkey_933]

i hate it when girls dump you through text/over the phone, they can at least say it to your face

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Yeah. I called her after that to talk to her..Because i hate it over that..it just means that they are afraid to actually get it out. But she just said that she saw me as a friend..which i think is the same problem this guy is having.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I have no advice for you man..because i have the same problem. Well my friend told me that she will still do "stuff" with me she just doesnt want to go out. Which is ok for me. 8)

[monkey_933]

 

From what i've read you have comfronted her YOURSELF you've had other people do it for you..

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

be a man and go up to her and ask her yourself.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I've done all that.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

But like you all said she "plays" with me..and I don't know what to make of it.

 

 

 

I'm just really confused.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Monkey 933: Yes you are having the same problem, from what i've read.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I'm NOT giving up though. Not until I know what happens with us.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Sorry for like double posting..but yeah, im not going to give up either. I mean i move in about 7-8 months anyway, might as well make the best of what we could have because i'm thinking she is really going to realize the day that im leaving..even though im still pretty young..(yes you may laugh, i turn 14 in about a month) but still, she's pretty important to me. I mean i'm not going to brake down tears if she doesnt like me, i'm just saying this is probally the first girl i've felt this way enough to keep fighting for her. Usually whenever someone brakes up with me, i have plenty of other girls that would be willing to go out with me (sounds like a jerk, and cocky..but its pretty true).

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Wouldnt say im really in "love" but she never knows what we could have been. And i think you are dealing with the same situation. Just talk to her..thats really the ONLY advice i can give you right now.