hellbellz Posted January 16, 2007 Share Posted January 16, 2007 Ok, a semi- friend, good athlete, and a good football player (How I met) just died today. I just saw a commercial about my local news, and I saw his picture with track, and his one with football I was talking about this in school today with some friends.. I can remember talking to him, going to the gym to lose those pounds for football, I remember a lot. :| Anyone know how I should deal with this? He was cocky and we didn't have our bad times.. But I feel I'm obliged to go to a funeral. Anyone think of what I should do? It's insanely, I mean I don't know how to deal with it. I feel sad, yet.. There's no feeling. :( Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cupcake Posted January 16, 2007 Share Posted January 16, 2007 :( the sadness will fade with time, not much you can do about it i geuss. it is only natural for someone to feel miserable when someone they care about passes away. Almost everyone have to deal with this misery (our parents) at some stage of our life. You just have to live with it. Not much of a choice sadly...if you're going to think about him, think of the good times you two had. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Viktorkrum77 Posted January 16, 2007 Share Posted January 16, 2007 May I ask how he died? Me doing staff. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hellbellz Posted January 16, 2007 Author Share Posted January 16, 2007 May I ask how he died?He's had an illness for about 2 months, and yesterday morning his heart just stopped. It was an unknown illness. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Futurama Posted January 16, 2007 Share Posted January 16, 2007 I would go, even if you just attend the ceremony. Things like that play on your mind long after they've happened, and you could look back and say man, i really should have attended... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rushrock Posted January 16, 2007 Share Posted January 16, 2007 If I were you, I'd go to the funeral. It would provide closure, and I think it would help you get over this whole thing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kinslayer777 Posted January 16, 2007 Share Posted January 16, 2007 The biggest issue (for me), it seems with death, is what to make of it. For him, perhaps, nothing is lost. Being dead, he no longer has ambition, anything. His existence ceases. It's a bleak way of looking at life, yes. But as one has said before, you can't mourn those who die without mourning those unborn. I'm not sure, but the only thing you can mourn, is that that has been wrenched from you. The misfortune caused by a death, and the effects upon the living of the death. In the end, if you have any obligation to a death, visit the friends, attend the funeral, to whatever extend you feel responsible- respect those living and console them. That's what funerals are for, the living- not the dead. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
knives669 Posted January 16, 2007 Share Posted January 16, 2007 :( Like others have said, you should attend the funeral. It may help you get over his death. That's what funerals are for, the living- not the dead. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rushrock Posted January 16, 2007 Share Posted January 16, 2007 The biggest issue (for me), it seems with death, is what to make of it. For him, perhaps, nothing is lost. Being dead, he no longer has ambition, anything. His existence ceases. It's a bleak way of looking at life, yes. But as one has said before, you can't mourn those who die without mourning those unborn. I'm not sure, but the only thing you can mourn, is that that has been wrenched from you. The misfortune caused by a death, and the effects upon the living of the death. In the end, if you have any obligation to a death, visit the friends, attend the funeral, to whatever extend you feel responsible- respect those living and console them. That's what funerals are for, the living- not the dead. Well-written! =D> Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
One Too Far Posted January 17, 2007 Share Posted January 17, 2007 The biggest issue (for me), it seems with death, is what to make of it. For him, perhaps, nothing is lost. Being dead, he no longer has ambition, anything. His existence ceases. It's a bleak way of looking at life, yes. But as one has said before, you can't mourn those who die without mourning those unborn. I'm not sure, but the only thing you can mourn, is that that has been wrenched from you. The misfortune caused by a death, and the effects upon the living of the death. In the end, if you have any obligation to a death, visit the friends, attend the funeral, to whatever extend you feel responsible- respect those living and console them. That's what funerals are for, the living- not the dead. Well-written! =D> treu tough i would say go 1 step further from what you think you are oblidged to do cause you wil for ever regret not doing somthing thoug it wont be a problem to do one thing more Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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