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Usually, yes, but the physical distance between the residential locations of me and #3 are enough to put me off. If I have my time with her, than I can categorize the experience as a memory, and not torment myself with thoughts of possibilities. And why torment yourself with possibilites when you have a potentailly far better girl much closer.

That Sir screams sex. And no it isn't. Especially if it this girls first attempt at a relationship she should be given a good experience.. Not instantly disregarded when a new possibility comes up for you because however crappy this may sound it seems you pick and dump too quickly. sounds like it would be sexual sure, but it isn't going to be in all likelyhood, because I don't think it should be. And I am hesitant at all to commit to #2 because I want to be sure that I can be the best me for her when I do, and I feel that at this moment in time, as long as there's that "sexual" tension between me and #3, I don't think I can do it. Finally. That's what I've been saying since my first post about all of this rofl And I think IamDan finally started asking the right questions :P If that is the case, sorry. From what I read it was more about which girl you could get more out of than their own feelings, especially #2. And to be fair, age has little impact as long as age of consent is sorted as that can cause hiccups with parents and such. But, will you be able to take it slowly? Give her time to learn and not scare the monkeys out of her straight away? As it seems you've been in numerous relationships while it's this girls first shot at it and an experience difference can hamper relationships as the experience expects more sooner and forgots this and usually leads to arguments, strains and sometimes cheating on her with a girl of mor experience, somebody who can give you what you want. And no, I'm not implying you will cheat on her, I'm just saying worse case scenario. (Plus asking a question instead of straight up criticism.) [/hide] My darkest moment was when the bolded became reality. It's happened to me before, and I don't think I'll ever forgive myself for it. I genuinely want to give #2 everything I have to give in a realtionship, patience, maturity, the whole nine yards. I'd be her first boyfriend, and lord knows I wouldn't want to tarnish the good name of dating for her. She is fairly younger than me, but not so much that it's a real issue, and even though she is inexperienced in the field of relationships, you wouldn't guess it talking to her. I realize it may cause issues later, but I'm a rather patient guy, and other than the one instance of fault, I've been able to restrain myself pretty well. I really really don't want to cheat on her, given we were committed to each other. But realistically, it's still a possibility, as I've always held to the 'once a cheater always a cheater, no one truly changes' things. I've caught myself in my own judgmental pitfall. This is why I want to see what I have with #3, get it over and done with to get it out of my system and then commit to #2. I have absolutely 0 intention of bringing any other girls into the fray, as it seems 3 is more than enough, and as I've said, #1 and I will be finished with very soon, it's just a matter of trigger pulling at this point. I don't want to commit to #2 too early because I don't want to have the lingering/wandering emotions/imagination of the possibilities of #3. I want it out of my system so I can be done with it for good. Part in bold, bollocks to that theory. If you are willing to change and able to see what you lose everybody can change, no matter how bad their faults or mistakes are. But otherwise, good. I see no flaws in your thoughts. You are being both selfish and selfless which is always required otherwise the relationship will struggle as you become either too dependent or independent and hence problems.

[hide] That Sir screams sex. And no it isn't. Especially if it this girls first attempt at a relationship she should be given a good experience.. Not instantly disregarded when a new possibility comes up for you because however crappy this may sound it seems you pick and dump too quickly. sounds like it would be sexual sure, but it isn't going to be in all likelyhood, because I don't think it should be. And I am hesitant at all to commit to #2 because I want to be sure that I can be the best me for her when I do, and I feel that at this moment in time, as long as there's that "sexual" tension between me and #3, I don't think I can do it. Finally. That's what I've been saying since my first post about all of this rofl And I think IamDan finally started asking the right questions :P [/hide] If that is the case, sorry. From what I read it was more about which girl you could get more out of than their own feelings, especially #2. And to be fair, age has little impact as long as age of consent is sorted as that can cause hiccups with parents and such. But, will you be able to take it slowly? Give her time to learn and not scare the monkeys out of her straight away? As it seems you've been in numerous relationships while it's this girls first shot at it and an experience difference can hamper relationships. Mainly because the experienced guy/girl expects more sooner and forgots this and usually leads to arguments, strains and sometimes cheating on her/him with a girl/guy of more experience; somebody who can give you what you want. And no, I'm not implying you will cheat on her, I'm just saying worse case scenario. (Plus asking a question instead of straight up criticism.)

That Sir screams sex. And no it isn't. Especially if it this girls first attempt at a relationship she should be given a good experience.. Not instantly disregarded when a new possibility comes up for you because however crappy this may sound it seems you pick and dump too quickly. sounds like it would be sexual sure, but it isn't going to be in all likelyhood, because I don't think it should be. And I am hesitant at all to commit to #2 because I want to be sure that I can be the best me for her when I do, and I feel that at this moment in time, as long as there's that "sexual" tension between me and #3, I don't think I can do it. Finally.

That Sir screams sex. And no it isn't. Especially if it this girls first attempt at a relationship she should be given a good experience.. Not instantly disregarded when a new possibility comes up for you because however crappy this may sound it seems you pick and dump too quickly.

Different views from different people. I understand your standpoint, as it is one that I once shared with great pride. Unfortunately, the way the real world operates, doesn't comply well with such ideals and will leave you miserable and lonely. I'd rather be a happy douche, than a suicidal idealist. I'm not out to hurt anyone, because that's something I would never intentionally do. It's not a matter of "playing girls". It's a matter of dating without commitment, which plenty of people do, and it has been argued on this very thread that commitment at such a young age is against human nature. Who am I to defy nature? My boundaries for moral and immoral are certainly different from yours, but ultimately we have the same goals in mind. I assume you want to be happy, you don't want to hurt anyone, you don't want to be hurt, and you're looking for love. I have the same goals, but different means of pursuing them. Also, please don't assume that I disrespect anyone, or lack affection/care for anyone I may or may not be dating or even just be friends with. i respect everyone equally, and care for everyone I talk to. It is because I care that I'm dancing around like this to avoid hurting people. If I didn't care about feelings at all, I'd have already committed to and inevitably cheated on near all of them. But that's not what I want. I'm not going to enter a committed relationship unless I sure she's the right girl. Until then, it's just about testing the water and dating. If things don't work out, things don't work out. If things go well, the relationship gets kicked up a notch and I'll commit. Out of the 3 girls in question, I would only commit to #2 seeing as how my 'relationship' with #1 obviously lacks the connection I'm looking for, and #3 lives impossibly far away. I'd rather be miserable and lonley than knowing I screwed around with numerous girls and upset them greatly as that would weigh on my conscience more than sexual gratification. Do I really come off as the type to only care about sex? I feel like everyone hates on me for that when its not even true. Numerous meaning more than 2 fine, but I refuse to being anymore girls in the mix because its messy enough as is in the interest of protecting them. Also, I don't see it as screwing with them. I'm being friendly and affectionate to them, as I would anyone I care about. But you're playing with them, using #3 for sex and #1 while stringing along #2 as you know she will be there once you've had your fun with the other two. In my books that is screwing with them.

Different views from different people. I understand your standpoint, as it is one that I once shared with great pride. Unfortunately, the way the real world operates, doesn't comply well with such ideals and will leave you miserable and lonely. I'd rather be a happy douche, than a suicidal idealist. I'm not out to hurt anyone, because that's something I would never intentionally do. It's not a matter of "playing girls". It's a matter of dating without commitment, which plenty of people do, and it has been argued on this very thread that commitment at such a young age is against human nature. Who am I to defy nature? My boundaries for moral and immoral are certainly different from yours, but ultimately we have the same goals in mind. I assume you want to be happy, you don't want to hurt anyone, you don't want to be hurt, and you're looking for love. I have the same goals, but different means of pursuing them. Also, please don't assume that I disrespect anyone, or lack affection/care for anyone I may or may not be dating or even just be friends with. i respect everyone equally, and care for everyone I talk to. It is because I care that I'm dancing around like this to avoid hurting people. If I didn't care about feelings at all, I'd have already committed to and inevitably cheated on near all of them. But that's not what I want. I'm not going to enter a committed relationship unless I sure she's the right girl. Until then, it's just about testing the water and dating. If things don't work out, things don't work out. If things go well, the relationship gets kicked up a notch and I'll commit. Out of the 3 girls in question, I would only commit to #2 seeing as how my 'relationship' with #1 obviously lacks the connection I'm looking for, and #3 lives impossibly far away. I'd rather be miserable and lonley than knowing I screwed around with numerous girls and upset them greatly as that would weigh on my conscience more than sexual gratification.

Rpg... Honestly that's probably one of the most [bleep]ish things i've read/heard for a long time. Playing girls like that you really shouldn't deserve any of them. Especially when they obviously feel much more for you than you do for them. Girls aren't toys which you pick and chose when you get bored and tired of them. They deserve as much respect as you give your friends, which from that seems you are giving very little.

Stay friends. If nothing has happened since nothing more will. And, at the end of the day a good solid friendship is worth far more than any of the sexual gratification from a relationship.

Move on, find somebod else. If she is going to uni it will become a long term relationship and especially at unis those aren't exactly easy to keep working if it's been 3 months ago snce that happened.

Doesn't work when you were dumped so she can be in a "open yet unofficial relationship" so she doesn't have to bottle her up her "love". It wasn't "fair" on me for her to have to hide those feelings.

It's been four days since we seperated and she is already trying to get on him, literally on top. And yes, he knew: "He is so in with your ex."

"lol jk" didn't start on Facebook. It's been around ever since Instant Messaging has been availible. You guys have got to stop blaming Facebook for every annoying social problem... Facebook makes it mainstream and that is when the problem arises as everybody does it and then gets annoying. A few people in private jokes is fine but on that scale is just plain irritating.

Don't bottle. EVER. It just builds up inside of you until you spontaneously combust. It isn't a good way of coping. Mmm realised that today. Didn't end well. I was fine up until his friends (her new "guy") talked to me... Then I lost it and struggled to keep composer without being rude/insultive

How do you guys/girls get over your ex's? As my method of bottling and pretending everything is okay is failing badly as was evident at school today.

Edit: :D Working after loading it through the bios thingy :) However... msconfig says i still have an operating system on the D drive even though the C drive is still the main operating system. Is it save for me to delete the operating system off the D drive without it going to [cabbage] again like it did last time? (via msconfig) Also how do I format... It refuses to let me format the D drive >.<

Windows... I'm not exactly good at stuff like this.

Err What?

Will try that... Then I'm going to run another installion of the system to see if that does something. I'm hoping as i can't install anything, window install client isn't working as well now. Edit: Instillation CD now won't work either.

I suppose I have to unless there is other ways around fixing this problem. However i did try this but it just crashed upon installing updates part.

Can't format either. C states that something is open. F states that the operating system is being run from it?

How good friends are you two?

Kinda need help here. Was re installing windows 7 onto my laptop as it was all strange and acting weird. It decided that it wanted the F drive (recovery?) to be the main operating system as it couldn't delete the previous operating system from the C drive. So now upon loading up my laptop the bios makes me decide between the two operating systems and which one I want to run but both are the same. I did try to do another re install to see whether that fixed but that just crashed and refused to install. The only problem is the F drive is tiny and cannot hold the files in there without them being deleted every over second but t won't let me i) re install the operating system or ii) delete those files in either the C or F drive. So basically how do i delete the operating system on the F drive and get it back with a clean install onto the C drive?

Yeah, take the gamble. I wasn't a big fan of Indian food until I found myself in a situation similar to yours. Ended up ordering something I thought I'd had before, turned out not to be what I thought it was but I ate it anyway and it was amazing. I guess I will do. I might mention it to my friend when we're going (there'll be quite a few people, though). She's nice so she'll understand, even so... eh, I might just have to go for it. Just don't go for a hot one straight away... that is a recipe for disaster. Today.. had an exam which was meh. Wasn't helped by the fact that I keep having back spasms.

And that is me and her ended. I thought that was going to hurt more than it did but it hasn't. Instead I'm laughing at what she has become >.<