Need Advice...

[dwarfdude3]

So, I need some help. Sorry this is kinda long and stupid.

 

 

 

I've had these two great friends since freshmen year in high school (I'm a junior now). Last year, all three of us decided to run for class office (president, vice president, and secretary). We thought it would be fun, since none of us were really that popular, and we'd be the underdogs, and we tried campaigning and stuff and making big speeches and all that.

 

 

 

Well, it turns out that my two friends were not facing anyone really that popular, but as luck would have it, my opponent was a really popular girl. So I'm working extra hard to get votes and stuff. Finally, when the votes come in, I lost by like 5 votes, and my two friends won.

 

 

 

Now, they are always talking with and hanging out with this popular girl that beat me and it really bothers me. I know I shouldn't be bothered by it cause its just jealously and stuff, but still, I dunno what to do.

 

 

 

They've also seem to be hanging out with all these people I don't know and don't tell me about them and stuff. I dunno, it just makes me feel like I don't really matter anymore. And we were all three going to take these really hard classes the next two years, but they have both changed their minds and are going to take easy classes, leaving me to take the hard ones by myself. Though they claim it has nothing to do with these new people they're hanging out with... but still, I thought friends were supposed to like stick together, not abandon each other.

 

 

 

I know I sound really dumb whining to you guys about this stuff, but if anyone has any advice or anything, I'd definitely like to hear it.

[trapical]

Aww, that kind of sucks. If it makes you feel any better I missed being Homecoming King by one vote senior year... and three of my friends forgot to vote -.-

 

 

 

As for your situation? Try to not let it get the best of you. Actually, heck, if you really want ask the girl if you can be her assistant or something. I'm sure you can hang out with them if you want, schools rarely deny students that want to help out.

[IGoddessI]

If I understand correctly, you had 2 people you considered close friends and thought it would be a good idea to run for class office with them. It seemed as though you collaborated pretty well together but then things went pear-shaped because the person you were matched against not only beat you because she was more popular than you, she kind of stole your friends from you too.

 

 

 

I guess you're feeling pretty spiteful towards the girl, I mean it's one thing to be beaten at something but it becomes quite personal when they beat you and take your friends with them too.

 

 

 

I mean yeah if I was in your shoes I could see how cut you would be, like one way of viewing it is that this girl stole your friends and the other way of seeing it is that your friends should know that you should all stick together and not abandon one another.

 

 

 

I guess one way I can relate to you is one time in high school I was really well liked but then the group of people I was with liked to make fun of other people and I refused to make fun of this one girl because I know it wasn't the right thing to do. I thought these people were my friends but they abandoned me because I wouldn't act how they were acting. I mean these were people I had known all through primary school, people I considered my best friends. I was left alone and made to make new friends and I felt betrayed just like you did. I mean friends are supposed to stick together, yeah?

 

 

 

One thing I learnt and one thing I think you are about to learn is that people will come in and out of your life all the time. Sometimes the people who never come back will be the ones you cared for the most. There are times when you will feel angry, jealousy or resentful and most of all wanting to know why? You will only go through life counting your real friends on one hand. I think this is a time where you need to appreciate the people who are still in your life and know that your real friends are the ones who will stick by you no matter what.

 

 

 

Look who is left with you and understand those are your real friends, the ones who stayed with you when you lost and still stuck by your side even though they knew you didn't consider them as close as the other 2 people. For all you know, they could have been sitting in the dim light just waiting to jump at the opportunity to be your new best friend.

 

 

 

I mean how AWESOME is that? You know these people are your real friends if you search deep down. So smile eh? and appreciate them :D

 

 

 

Trapical's idea was brilliant too, if you want to fit in you could always ask to be an assistant.

 

 

 

If you do become an assistant though and they still ignore you and talk and hang out with her more, not really include you just remember what I told you.

[kelem_ryu]

Actually, heck, if you really want ask the girl if you can be her assistant or something. I'm sure you can hang out with them if you want, schools rarely deny students that want to help out.

 

 

 

That sounds like a good idea.

 

 

 

As for the classes you planned on taking, maybe you want to reconsider to. If you really want to take the classes, then stick with it, but if you'd rather hang out with your friends, then agree on what classes you all are going to do.

 

 

 

Let me give you a piece of advice: Have a great time, as long as you are in high school! It will only last for so long.

 

 

 

'nother thought: Could be good, that your friends are hanging out with this "really popular girl". I guess she'll have some cute friends to. So you might want to stick around just because of that. If you'd have won over this girl, then you wouldn't have the opportunity to get into contact with her and her friends. As it is your friends are already hanging out with her. So should you.

[Bubsa]

Just bring it up to them, saying something like: "Hey, we haven't hung out together and had a good time since [insert good time here], how bout we do that soon?"

 

 

 

On the topic of the classes, they might well be taking a different class because they have a lot of different responsibilities ahead of them now, due to their position. They could just be managing the situation.

 

 

 

That could also be why they're away from you more often as well. You could also try mentioning they've been stuck with something for a long time now, and try and offer a hand. That way, you're together and they're not shirking their responsibilities =)

[TotalTalker]

That sounds pretty bad. I cant really give that much advice, exept for just tell them how you feel, and ask them who is their REAL friend. They are probably just speaking to that girl so that they can be popular aswell.

[dwarfdude3]

Actually, heck, if you really want ask the girl if you can be her assistant or something. I'm sure you can hang out with them if you want, schools rarely deny students that want to help out.

 

 

 

That sounds like a good idea.

 

 

 

As for the classes you planned on taking, maybe you want to reconsider to. If you really want to take the classes, then stick with it, but if you'd rather hang out with your friends, then agree on what classes you all are going to do.

 

 

 

Let me give you a piece of advice: Have a great time, as long as you are in high school! It will only last for so long.

 

 

 

'nother thought: Could be good, that your friends are hanging out with this "really popular girl". I guess she'll have some cute friends to. So you might want to stick around just because of that. If you'd have won over this girl, then you wouldn't have the opportunity to get into contact with her and her friends. As it is your friends are already hanging out with her. So should you.

 

 

 

So, my ultimate goal should be to become as popular as possible? :roll:

[dwarfdude3]

I suppose I should just try to get away from them and make new friends or just be alone.

[kelem_ryu]

 

So, my ultimate goal should be to become as popular as possible? :roll:

 

 

 

Nay. Popularity doesn't hurt though, if it comes somewhat naturally. The last word is important. I didn't want to suggest you should act and pretend to be popular. Might have sounded that way.