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Depends... do you have kids? Do you know how hard it is to say no sometimes? Comes down to the type of person you are too. I spoil my 3 year old rotten. I don't mean to do it on purpose it just kind of happens. I hadn't bought myself new clothes in like 3 years because I would rather spend the money on him. When I go out to the mall I have no intention on buying him anything.... and then he usually comes out with something like a strawberry milk and some new clothes or a toy :/ Maybe I just need to be more self disciplined? Maybe it has something to do with your up bringing? I have no idea. My parents missed out on a lot of things because they literally gave us everything we ever wanted. I agree with you though, I'm just saying I have poor self control when it comes to that and so do my other parent friends lol @transcript80 - the bank name is in the quote lol don't rely on it 100% though because that's the figure my brother gave me but I know it's not far off.

Had a nice cocktail that my fiance' made me.... cointreau shot, add ice cubes, soda or sparkling mineral water and squeeze lime juice in it. Taste like an alcoholic lime solo :thumbup: Drove to the rainforest where we'll be having our wedding and it looks absolutely gorgeous. we booked the place in winter time so now it has all blossomed and can hear all the birds of nature, the creek is flowing beautifully. Now I am listening to the "gruffalo" before dinner is ready and put my son to bed (he has been a handful today).

There's nothing wrong with the advice I've given, almost all of it would apply world wide. I was only a hospitality manager at the time and a uni student. I understand that is unheard of in other countries but that is pretty much a standard wage for that age $15-$20 here in Australia unless it's a trade or the job is commission based. The bits and pieces about housing and saving isn't advice, just merely what I plan to do with my life and any other fellow Australians could benefit from that. My completely practical advice mentions food, clothing, paying utilities ect

Save for it then you don't have debt. Never been in debt in my life :) Wages are higher here than most countries.... for example.... my American friend worked 50 hours a week for $8 something an hour. I wouldn't get out of bed in the morning for that, I was only 19 and earning $18.90 an hour. So it's a lot easier to save, plus if you have a child you get rent assistance from the government and family allowance which is like an extra $210 a fortnight. When both people are working (ie husband and wife) you won't really notice the mortgage repayments as they're only about $200 a week more than renting.

It's disrespectful to post things like that... but it could have been a hundred times worse lol Yup I'm at court tomorrow.... dohhhhh! :wall:

Still waiting for my solicitor to settle things out of court.... not looking good at the moment there's only 1 1/2 hours until they close for the day. If I don't sign off it means I have to go through court tomorrow which will be a long, boring process. A waste of 3 or 4 hours when I have so much to do tomorrow (basically agreeing to continue the court order for my ex and I's son). Also have to do wedding rehearsal with my wedding celebrant tonight... wont be done until about 10pm errrgh

Just to add to my last post I found some pictures so you can see what the housing market is like here. Cheap as chips compared to other countries. I just blacked out the property numbers and addresses because it is local.

Thanks \:D/ This is my little boy trying on his suit for the wedding on Friday...Don't mind the huge tag we were just making sure it fits before cutting it off! R and I having milk mustache competitions This is one from a professional shoot we got done

Grats H2PM!! You did a thumbs up so I guess she must be a nice lady :grin:

Can someone please tell me how to post pictures now since tip it has changed (I haven't been around for a while) I have tried uploading them to imageshack and posting the link in the picture icon but it doesn't work so I don't know what to do now

I'm not sure about the full story of your circumstances but how is your relationship with your mum and dad? If it is civil why not talk to them about her behaviour as it is a mother's and father's responsibility to talk to you about those things, not hers. She is over stepping her boundaries as a sister. She can give you advice but if she has a bone to pick with you, she should be going through her parents and then them talking to you and sorting it out. Use them as the middle man, that's what they're there for. In the meantime, give her the finger, smile and show her the door. Don't show that she is getting to you. Then she has no choice but to go to mum and dad :thumbup:

Listening to my partner curse because he has somehow broken our lawn mower, needs to fix it then finish the mowing... Meanwhile I'm sitting inside in the air conditioning with a refreshing beverage :twisted: Earlier his sister took me to get a tiara to wear for the wedding, my son said I looked like a princess <3: Then we went for a drive across a long bridge to an island and had lunch and a swim in the beautiful, clear, water. And tomorrow I have solicitor dramas :wall:

:huh: No bank is going to give you a 'high' interest rate for even a 10 year account; even if you did, how are you going to save money for a new house while paying for one to live in? Maybe you live in a house already bought or another individual advantages, but do know you are extremely lucky if you're in such a position right now. Err there are plenty of banks with high interest accounts? Maybe you live in another country? :/ Or maybe your definition of 'high' is unrealistic? Westpac gives close to $5000 annual interest for just $40,000 and it goes up the more you save. currently, we live off my fiance's wage and save money quite easily (minus wedding expenses) which means we'll be able to bank every cent I earn when I go back to work. I don't see the problem? Or am I missing something? $60,000 x 10 years = $600,000 not including 10 years worth of interest. Probably looking at around $350,000 here for a nice 4 bedroom home. Probably looking at around $500,000-$600,000 for the dream home. Also have a few online businesses which produce monthly income.... then there are shares.... and we'll stop there. I feel awkward enough having to dab in to my personal life to explain a point. I don't know whether to laugh or feel offended that you honestly thought I didn't know what I was talking about.... I'm heading to 30 dude and believe it or not I have a life plan ;)

Getting my fiance' to crack my back for me all the time I will only drink icy cold water.... like half the bottle filled with ice I love cold showers with only cold water on I think they're refreshing I still crack my fingers but not as bad as I used to I hate hot weather and wish it was winter all year around I'd love to live in the snow

That probably be true but at least uni students and high school kids can come to this page and learn a thing or two if they're smart enough or even suggest a few of these ideas to their parents or friends who may be struggling.

Trolls are usually intelligent... no offense but you have no material. It was more like "I've got nothing... so I'm leaving now" poor attempt. Is that for me rpg? Because that is done by the anna bligh government not who you mentioned.

Obviously nothing more than a troll and knows nothing about mental illness. At least 45% of Australian's will experience it in their lifetime. It's not something you just shake off and become better in the morning. People are just afraid of things, they have no idea about. ^^ And great post mate. Tim is seeking a solution, that's not feeling sorry for himself at all. http://www.changeourminds.qld.gov.au/

To be honest I have trialed lexapro for a month and the social anxiety just didn't exist. It took only about 4 days to really work. But then I started on Lithium and pristiq to manage my bipolar and just didn't want to be on so many pills. Side effects I warn you of is cotton mouth, make sure you drink plenty of water and if water doesn't help, sports drinks with heaps of potassium and electrolytes like powerade. I found the icier the water, the more satisfying. I have a brand new mum these days because of it and I swear by it. It's okay to be on medication. If I wasn't on medication for my bipolar I'd be a binge drinking nut, gambling our savings away because I'd be on the world's biggest high.

I'm getting really nervous... or excited... maybe both? I don't even know how I feel... butterflies in the stomach yet I want to throw my arms up in the air and give a huge "woohoo!!" only 9 days to go and all I feel like doing is going to the pub and sinking a few... I don't know if that's a good thing or a bad thing because I haven't really drank much at all in the last year it would be under 10 standard drinks. I'm also sad that Rick can't make it because of work (dark rick) but at least he rang me early and we got to catch up on the phone.

I'm often a grumpy shit, just not towards little tackers who hardly know better :thumbup:

Tim, I have social anxiety I can safely say that hypnotherapy was a short term fix, it worked for a little while and wore off. Self help books had some great tips but still did not get rid of that yucky feeling inside your stomach. Cognitive behavioural therapy did not fix my anxiety but made it A LOT better. It helps you to identify situations that bring it on, how to deal with feeling overwhelmed ect warning, lots of homework involved but it's worth it. And finally, there is medication such as lexapro which is usually a big hit. I don't take it because I already take enough of a cocktail mix for my bipolar disorder but my mum takes it and it is a god send for her. She had it all her life and now she is so much better.

I agree... I was getting married and called it off and left my ex. I took our child with me since he worked until 10pm at night and stayed a single parent for a while, just being happy raising my little dude. Leaving him was the best thing I did, especially since Rai was only 1 when we separated. When my ex took me to court for 50% custody the little fella had a little separation anxiety because he was used to being with me all the time but after a few weeks he settled. He is not happy with 50% as he constantly tells me he doesn't want to go and when I call, he asks me to come and pick him up. But I can't do anything about it until Rai is old enough to choose where he wants to be. The positive thing though is the fact that he easily accepts change and adapts, it will really help him later on in life. He is smart, before his 3rd birthday he asked me why myself and his real daddy live in different houses. I told him that we used to fight a lot and that made baby Rai cry and upset so we moved in to different houses and found people who make us happy so that he can be happy. And he just smiled and said "oh okay mummy!" and wondered off. As much as I hate my ex I encourage a healthy relationship between him and my son. I never bad mouth my ex infront of Raiden and encourage him to speak positively of him and help him make art work or write post cards ect to show his daddy that he loves him. I regularly send photos, tell him what he has been up to, what he is learning in swimming lessons ect Even though none of that is done in return for me. I choose not to be as bad as him, my child will thank me for it one day. It's not up to me to show how much of a tosser he is... I think in due time and when Raiden gets older and more observant he will come to that conclusion on his own. I have a daily diary written up since the day we separated, if he is ever curious to the things that went on and wants the 100% truth, he is entitled to read it and make his own mind up.

Sucks that they didn't say thank you that would have been annoying. Thankfully we only had 5 groups of kids with at least one of their parents and if they forgot to say thank you they were kindly reminded

Have to excuse my dodgy eye sight didn't see milky ways in the brown packaging, i think they are still in blue packaging here and m&m's wow I missed a lot....snickers? and they taste pretty dodgy :thumbdown: milky ways that is.