Age differences in relationships

[RSBDavid]

^^ so are asian girls ( especially my GF )

[The_Who]

My cousin has been married to someone 15 years her senior for over 17 years. Honestly, I don't see anything wrong with it as long as both people are mature adults.

[BlueLancer]

Like The_Who said.. There are much more "extreme" cases than just a year of age difference.

 

 

 

I guess it doesn't matter, unless the other person isn't of age. Like if you're 16/17, you can legally be with someone who's 18 in some countries or jurisdictions. But 15, 14, that's cutting the line and it's usually not acceptable, because the boy/girl is usually still undeveloped and basically still a child, compared to the person who is 18 or older.

 

 

 

When you get older, it's no longer really a dilemma. 20 year old can be with 25... 25 can be with 35... It's problematic only when low age is involved (under 18). 1stly, you don't want to destroy that person's development and cause him/her harm. 2ndly, that's usually illegal, if the age difference is big, like 4-6 years, no matter how much the persons like each other. The older person in that situation could go to jail or at least get fined.

[Agunimon979]

Yeah, like everyone else says, age difference can be extreme and normal. Like my brother is 8 months older than his girlfriend, but then theres the 10 year old muslim girls marrying 50 year old bean farmers... that's kinda weird :uhh:

[Kenshinjapan]

Yeah, like everyone else says, age difference can be extreme and normal. Like my brother is 8 months older than his girlfriend, but then theres the 10 year old muslim girls marrying 50 year old bean farmers... that's kinda weird :uhh:

 

 

 

Don't bring other cultures' beliefs into this, especially when you don't have a clue about it.

[BlueLancer]

Yeah, like everyone else says, age difference can be extreme and normal. Like my brother is 8 months older than his girlfriend, but then theres the 10 year old muslim girls marrying 50 year old bean farmers... that's kinda weird :uhh:

 

 

 

Yes but those islamic cultures (and to some degree hindu) are different when it comes to the concept of "marriage". It only includes taking care of the wife. If you "touch" her against the contract before she is of age, you pay with your blood and the marriage can be canceled.

 

 

 

You might think they're barbaric sadists, but nobody really wants their own daughter to get abused. They pretty much make 100% sure nothing happens before she is 16-18.

 

 

 

I strongly oppose the idea of forcing people to marry though... It essentially makes you just a bargaining item, instead of a free human being..

[Agunimon979]

I don't think they're barbaric sadists, I just think we're raised to believe it's kinda extreme

[BlueLancer]

Just as personal opinion.. It does seem extreme. And in some less radical islamic countries, young people don't adhere to the wishes of the family 100% when it comes to marriage. Even less so when it comes to muslims living in western countries.

 

 

 

It's a backwards component of culture, which will probably be eradicated as people in those nations, especially women, become more educated.

 

 

 

Remember, arranged marriage was a normal part of life in all european countries since thousands of years up to WW1. After that, people in Europe started being conscious about their rights and humanity (instead of embracing the idea they are inferior to royals and authorities, and that women are just possessions). Forced/arranged marriage practically doesn't exist anywhere in EU anymore.

[Roseiah]

One of my cousins who has just turned 18 was going out with a 29 year old. It created so much hassle for her. She had to lie to her family, and then he turned out to be a total control freak and he kept trying to kidnap her dog that he had given her in the first 6 months of their two year relationship. It has warned me off relationships with that age difference, while I am still young.

 

 

 

I think in teenage years, because one year you change completely in terms of maturity, two years seems to be the maxiumum, any older and it becomes a bit off.

 

 

 

After you hit about twenty going out with someone older isn't so much a big deal, and when you hit about 25, going out with someone older or younger means nothing because at that age the majority of people are on the same wavelength.