Not really looking for any specific dating advice at the moment, but feel free to give me your .02¢. I've never had much luck with women, unfortunately I always find myself falling into the friend zone at one point or another, and never seem to be anything more then that to the ladies. I'm tired of it, and I want to change that; although I'm not exactly sure of how to do so, especially after my last 'failure'. (See below) There's this new girl at my work. I notice she's having a hard time adjusting to the new job so I decide to introduce myself, which is something I wouldn't normally do right away but rather wait until we bump into one another. After a quick introduction, we make some small talk, I give her a few tips, crack a joke or two, and soon after I take off and left her be. After breaking the ice, I felt like there's was a connection between us, like I had a great opportunity at hand and so I decided to pursue a little further. Fast forward a little bit, over the next two weeks I get to know her pretty well, learn some of her interests, find we have some things in common, all that good stuff. Eventually I decided to man up and ask for her phone number, and add her on Facebook so we could talk outside of work. She gladly gives me her number and accepts my friend request. Great! Felt like nothing could hold me back at that point. One small step for man, one giant leap for mankind hahaha.. Yeah, just as things are looking up, here it comes; the downward spiral. Naturally with my luck things aren't destined to go all that well for very long, and sure enough I find myself learning things about her I wish I hadn't. She's a few years younger then I am, but with a very different lifestyle and a lot of baggage. I'm a pretty laid back, down to earth guy while she is the wild party girl that is trying to recover from her past mistakes. I decided to look past most of the things she said, after all nobodies perfect, and offered some advice to get her life back on track. Looking back these were probably the biggest mistakes I made: not running (partially joking), taking a bit too much interest and probably coming across like a condescending parent.. But anyway, two weeks into the job she's settled in pretty well and after a long week I think we could both deserve a break. Friday after work I send her a text asking if she is interesting in a round of drinks, my treat of course. She declines, as I said she is trying to change her lifestyle, and has made plans anyway. Not a big deal, I reply back with a smug joke and tell her to have a good weekend. Realizing I may have said something offensive I eventually catch up with her on Facebook and apologize saying the offer still stands if she was ever interested. A minute or two passes and then she drops the bombshell, "I don't want you getting the wrong idea, I just want to be friends." Boom, head shot. There it is again, 0-3. Being rejected before I'm not too sad about it, in fact looking back even though I didn't get the girl this experience has probably made me a better man, and person overall. I've got a better idea what to do and what not to do when the next girl comes along. So some good definitely came out of all of this but it still kind of sucks. It might make me sound like a selfish ass but I am sick of just being a friend, I think I'll be avoiding her so I don't get any more attached then I already am. Maybe we were too different, maybe she wasn't ready, maybe I made myself too available, even now I'm not 100% sure. Ah well, live and learn. Come Monday I imagine there's going to be some awkward moments, maybe that's why people don't date coworkers. I'm kind of rambling here now so I'm just going to end it here and go to sleep, got some thinking to do.