RpgGamer

There's always homosexuality. Boys scare me :( Can i be asexual? Only 1% of the human population is asexual. I've met two of them. Definitely not for me, but hey if that's what you want...

What job are you looking for? I'm American, and I'm just looking for a job that'll be enough to pay for rent to live an existence over there with a functional social life. If I truly love it, I'll look to career options after I get my citizenship.

Is it easy to find a job in Britain as an immigrant? How about housing?

I'd recommend finding someone else/ going alone. Going alone would be more fun than going with a person who you have one-sided feelings for, and then you can still flirt and such. @Happynooblet: Try to hang out with her alone, and if that fails then tell them to cut it out. Or even better, do both in that order. And @my issue: RPG, your suggestion helped a bit because something simialr to that HAD been running around the back of my head. And your brash mentioning of it helped me acknowledge it. So yeah, I'm going to avoid dating anyone for a while later (until at least a month/ two months post-breakup),a nd after that anything'll go pretty much. But I'm going to try to put an end to the friends with benefits stuff tomorrow when I see her, as I have a feeling it won't end well. However, I may end up asking out that girl I've developed minor feelings for after that time period has elapsed. Assuming she's single. And that what I'm feeling for her at this moment isn't rebound. For now though I'm just stepping back and letting rationality set back in for a bit. Good idea Y/N? I agree with you with all but one concept: don't wait 1 month/2 months/whatever. Never put a deadline on an emotion. You'll be ready when you're ready. If you're ready now - do it. If' you're not, get ready as soon as you can. Don't waste your time planning out things you can't control. For all you know someone else is trying to move in on her, and you could lose your opportunity cause you were off dicking around in your head.

Hey, I was drunk. And mad. But usually I give decent advice. Probably like a 70/30 split. So hang out with her alone? this pretty much. I had a friend that did that too, but after talking to him about how much of a douche he was being he cut it out.

A very emotionally unstable erratic blur.

I'm drunk so take this with a grain of salt. bang your ex, then try to get with new girls whatever.

One of my best friends got fired today, so we drank in tribute to him. then my ex texts me and got me all riled up and long story short I threw my first drunk punch. Not feeling very good about myself right now

(edit) eh, screw it nevermind

Sweeeet @muggi not to take away from the sentiment, but that sounds like the biggest load of crap ever. I just channeled the pain I felt into motivation for physical efforts, and my job and felt 1000x better about myself. Just accomplish stuff for yourself that you can be proud of and take your mind off it to focus on better things.

that's a heart breaker. I've been in those shoes too. You can't keep letting her put you in these situations where you feel confused for so long, get a hopeful string of clarity dangled in frnot of you only to be replaced by a wave of disappointment when it vanishes back to it's distant home. She likely does love you. She might always love you, but as I said before she's not the same person she used to be, and she's only going to change more. What you mean to her is, form what I can tell slipping into a past tense. You'll always mean a lot to her, but...not something to move toward in the future necessarily. More like a great memory to always reflect on. So yes, break your dependency on her, the emotional flush you felt when she told you she'd call. And break the habit of letting her disappoint you when she promises to get back to you and doesn't. Maybe she is having some family issues, but from the sound of things, she's best resolving them on her own. It's confusing yes, but think with emotion instead of logic. The dynamic has changed with the situation. The future is just as likely to hold you two together as it does you literally never communicating with her again after tonight. Do yourself a favor and set your mind on other things. Get this girl out of your head.

he's got a "lady friend" and you're trying to rope him into something serious? Good luck with that. If he's not feeling something really strong, I wouldn't expect him to make the life style change. What is the age gap exactly? Ah, I'm not trying to rope him into something serious. That's why I was also asking if I should pursue it since I'm happy being friends with him, just those feelings keep flaring up. So maybe advice on how to keep those feelings from affecting how I act around him would be better? And the age gap is 17 years. Sorry if I don't really seem like I know what I want, I'm just really struggling with this :unsure: oh shit haha if you're of age you'd probably make his day hitting on him lol. But if you're cool being friends with him, then look for his flaws. He bad talks the girls he's "with" ? who's to say he wouldn't do that to any other girl he's "with" ? stuff like that Hmm, I guess that might work. Though I might have trouble thinking of flaws, since I think he's pretty awesome. Definitely one of the better friends I've had. But if that'll help get me over my other feelings for him I'll give it a shot. They don't have to be super character flaws that'll make you never want to see him again, but more like reasons why being more than friends with him would be stupid

he's got a "lady friend" and you're trying to rope him into something serious? Good luck with that. If he's not feeling something really strong, I wouldn't expect him to make the life style change. What is the age gap exactly? Ah, I'm not trying to rope him into something serious. That's why I was also asking if I should pursue it since I'm happy being friends with him, just those feelings keep flaring up. So maybe advice on how to keep those feelings from affecting how I act around him would be better? And the age gap is 17 years. Sorry if I don't really seem like I know what I want, I'm just really struggling with this :unsure: oh shit haha if you're of age you'd probably make his day hitting on him lol. But if you're cool being friends with him, then look for his flaws. He bad talks the girls he's "with" ? who's to say he wouldn't do that to any other girl he's "with" ? stuff like that

he's got a "lady friend" and you're trying to rope him into something serious? Good luck with that. If he's not feeling something really strong, I wouldn't expect him to make the life style change. What is the age gap exactly?

Was talking about Micheal Moore in my honors class. My brain derped and I started talking about how awesome Transformers was. it wasn't until after class I realized I was talking about Micheal Bay, and not Michael Moore. derppppp

Having trouble converting Kph to Mph are we?

Noxxx, I feel like you've come to us with this exact problem before. I am/was in a situation of similar proportions, dating the same girl for 5+ years off and on, and the distance isn't helping. She wants space. Give it to her. Be respectful of that, but realize emotional space put with the literal space adds up to a very large separation that will likely be unrepairable, especially if she's off "rediscovering herself" which is usually what me and my ex used to tell each other when we were doing things that would hurt each other with out actually admitting to anything. She wants space. Give it to her, but don't use this time to wait for her. Use this time to grow on your own. Go rediscover yourself. See what else is around, what you might like. Try new things. That way you won't have to lie if she asks how things are, you truly can say "I'm having the time of my life", Don't lie to her, but you don't have to sit around twiddling your thumbs hoping she'll suddenly revert back into the girl you fell in love with. People change, even more so when they spend time with different people. Even if she does "come back to you" so to speak, she won't be the same girl that you've been thinking about while you were apart. And you won't be the same guy. My advice, is make you not the same guy in a better light. Don't change into the needy desperate guy that waited. Don't be that guy that lied and played mind games to win her back. Be something better.

Which is why I suggested to stay away from the topic for now. http://forum.tip.it/topic/192134-i-want-a-girlfriendboyfriend-and-other-such-relationship-advice There's a thread for that ;) today I have to fake an interview with a child on their concept of gender within god for my religion class. good thing I'm a psych major

bought a paintball gun. mixed some vodka and water ice and fired it a few times. had a grand ol' time. Also, I watched Micheal Moore's Sicko today. Kinda really want to move to London now. How many British OTers have we got?

HEYYEYAAEYAAA

I havent had this issue happen this badly until this past month or so. just that, like, I pretty much talk to everyone in band and drama and my other group of friends doesn't really have anyone who is both single and attractive to me, which means I have a ton of friends by now but I don't really have many avenues open for a relationship, I guess. Excited for going away to college so I can break out of that rut, but for now it's what I have to work with, lol. And like I said, I don't really know many other ways to keep meeting people this late in the year. grad parties, but that's not til June-ish. Spring Solstice parties can get you in with the Pagans :P round here we have free Rita's Waterice on the turn of the season, and a lot of people make a thing out of it [especially since one is like around the corner from my house] Just gathering people for a pick up game of baseball, football, frisbee whatever works too.

I wore shorts for the first time today [been rocking skinnies since October] and man oh man is it nice to feel my balls again.

I bet you love recycling too

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Well, I must be the exception to that rule then. :unsure: oh, you ;) @kalphite if you've been talking to the girl, ask asap. If you haven't started talking to her by now, you best be doing that right the [bleep] now.