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That Sir screams sex. And no it isn't. Especially if it this girls first attempt at a relationship she should be given a good experience.. Not instantly disregarded when a new possibility comes up for you because however crappy this may sound it seems you pick and dump too quickly. sounds like it would be sexual sure, but it isn't going to be in all likelyhood, because I don't think it should be. And I am hesitant at all to commit to #2 because I want to be sure that I can be the best me for her when I do, and I feel that at this moment in time, as long as there's that "sexual" tension between me and #3, I don't think I can do it. Finally. That's what I've been saying since my first post about all of this rofl And I think IamDan finally started asking the right questions :P [/hide] If that is the case, sorry. From what I read it was more about which girl you could get more out of than their own feelings, especially #2. And to be fair, age has little impact as long as age of consent is sorted as that can cause hiccups with parents and such. But, will you be able to take it slowly? Give her time to learn and not scare the monkeys out of her straight away? As it seems you've been in numerous relationships while it's this girls first shot at it and an experience difference can hamper relationships as the experience expects more sooner and forgots this and usually leads to arguments, strains and sometimes cheating on her with a girl of mor experience, somebody who can give you what you want. And no, I'm not implying you will cheat on her, I'm just saying worse case scenario. (Plus asking a question instead of straight up criticism.) My darkest moment was when the bolded became reality. It's happened to me before, and I don't think I'll ever forgive myself for it. I genuinely want to give #2 everything I have to give in a realtionship, patience, maturity, the whole nine yards. I'd be her first boyfriend, and lord knows I wouldn't want to tarnish the good name of dating for her. She is fairly younger than me, but not so much that it's a real issue, and even though she is inexperienced in the field of relationships, you wouldn't guess it talking to her. I realize it may cause issues later, but I'm a rather patient guy, and other than the one instance of fault, I've been able to restrain myself pretty well. I really really don't want to cheat on her, given we were committed to each other. But realistically, it's still a possibility, as I've always held to the 'once a cheater always a cheater, no one truly changes' things. I've caught myself in my own judgmental pitfall. This is why I want to see what I have with #3, get it over and done with to get it out of my system and then commit to #2. I have absolutely 0 intention of bringing any other girls into the fray, as it seems 3 is more than enough, and as I've said, #1 and I will be finished with very soon, it's just a matter of trigger pulling at this point. I don't want to commit to #2 too early because I don't want to have the lingering/wandering emotions/imagination of the possibilities of #3. I want it out of my system so I can be done with it for good.

my first initial, some squiggles ending in an "l" followed by a very large surname initial lots of squiggles and a z that wraps and underlines the whole thing, with random dots and crosses to signify i's and t's. Based it on the fact that cursive sucks.

That Sir screams sex. And no it isn't. Especially if it this girls first attempt at a relationship she should be given a good experience.. Not instantly disregarded when a new possibility comes up for you because however crappy this may sound it seems you pick and dump too quickly. sounds like it would be sexual sure, but it isn't going to be in all likelyhood, because I don't think it should be. And I am hesitant at all to commit to #2 because I want to be sure that I can be the best me for her when I do, and I feel that at this moment in time, as long as there's that "sexual" tension between me and #3, I don't think I can do it. Finally. That's what I've been saying since my first post about all of this rofl And I think IamDan finally started asking the right questions :P

That Sir screams sex. And no it isn't. Especially if it this girls first attempt at a relationship she should be given a good experience.. Not instantly disregarded when a new possibility comes up for you because however crappy this may sound it seems you pick and dump too quickly. sounds like it would be sexual sure, but it isn't going to be in all likelyhood, because I don't think it should be. And I am hesitant at all to commit to #2 because I want to be sure that I can be the best me for her when I do, and I feel that at this moment in time, as long as there's that "sexual" tension between me and #3, I don't think I can do it. @TTanT she's been your girlfriend for a year and you love her, I'd say thats a good time to give the class ring gift. I think it's adorable.

If you're suicidal whenever you're not dating someone then you have much bigger problems :P a true statement, fortunately I'm not on the suicidal side, though I do initially become very mopey and unpleasant for a while. WOAH hold the phone bro, I never once mentioned having sex with #3, because I wouldn't. I couldn't. That wouldn't happen. And I suppose in a sense I am stringing #2 along, which isn't very nice... so you got me on that one ;/

Different views from different people. I understand your standpoint, as it is one that I once shared with great pride. Unfortunately, the way the real world operates, doesn't comply well with such ideals and will leave you miserable and lonely. I'd rather be a happy douche, than a suicidal idealist. I'm not out to hurt anyone, because that's something I would never intentionally do. It's not a matter of "playing girls". It's a matter of dating without commitment, which plenty of people do, and it has been argued on this very thread that commitment at such a young age is against human nature. Who am I to defy nature? My boundaries for moral and immoral are certainly different from yours, but ultimately we have the same goals in mind. I assume you want to be happy, you don't want to hurt anyone, you don't want to be hurt, and you're looking for love. I have the same goals, but different means of pursuing them. Also, please don't assume that I disrespect anyone, or lack affection/care for anyone I may or may not be dating or even just be friends with. i respect everyone equally, and care for everyone I talk to. It is because I care that I'm dancing around like this to avoid hurting people. If I didn't care about feelings at all, I'd have already committed to and inevitably cheated on near all of them. But that's not what I want. I'm not going to enter a committed relationship unless I sure she's the right girl. Until then, it's just about testing the water and dating. If things don't work out, things don't work out. If things go well, the relationship gets kicked up a notch and I'll commit. Out of the 3 girls in question, I would only commit to #2 seeing as how my 'relationship' with #1 obviously lacks the connection I'm looking for, and #3 lives impossibly far away. I'd rather be miserable and lonley than knowing I screwed around with numerous girls and upset them greatly as that would weigh on my conscience more than sexual gratification. Do I really come off as the type to only care about sex? I feel like everyone hates on me for that when its not even true. Numerous meaning more than 2 fine, but I refuse to being anymore girls in the mix because its messy enough as is in the interest of protecting them. Also, I don't see it as screwing with them. I'm being friendly and affectionate to them, as I would anyone I care about.

I contradicted myself? Well that's not a good sign...

Today I went to my first classes. I have 3 psych core classes, a comp sci class, and a class that revolves around the internal and external manifestations of conflict in the book/film Fight Club. This semester is going to kick so much ass.

Different views from different people. I understand your standpoint, as it is one that I once shared with great pride. Unfortunately, the way the real world operates, doesn't comply well with such ideals and will leave you miserable and lonely. I'd rather be a happy douche, than a suicidal idealist. I'm not out to hurt anyone, because that's something I would never intentionally do. It's not a matter of "playing girls". It's a matter of dating without commitment, which plenty of people do, and it has been argued on this very thread that commitment at such a young age is against human nature. Who am I to defy nature? My boundaries for moral and immoral are certainly different from yours, but ultimately we have the same goals in mind. I assume you want to be happy, you don't want to hurt anyone, you don't want to be hurt, and you're looking for love. I have the same goals, but different means of pursuing them. Also, please don't assume that I disrespect anyone, or lack affection/care for anyone I may or may not be dating or even just be friends with. i respect everyone equally, and care for everyone I talk to. It is because I care that I'm dancing around like this to avoid hurting people. If I didn't care about feelings at all, I'd have already committed to and inevitably cheated on near all of them. But that's not what I want. I'm not going to enter a committed relationship unless I sure she's the right girl. Until then, it's just about testing the water and dating. If things don't work out, things don't work out. If things go well, the relationship gets kicked up a notch and I'll commit. Out of the 3 girls in question, I would only commit to #2 seeing as how my 'relationship' with #1 obviously lacks the connection I'm looking for, and #3 lives impossibly far away.

I've asked myself the same question. What I have with #2 is alot more mature than what I have with #3, and I've been talking to her almost daily for the past 8 or 9 months. Most of the conversations are very in depth, well thought out, intelligent and last hours and hours. That's a quality I really like. #3 on the other hand, while the feeling is there, I've only been talking to her for about a month now, and yes there's definitely some strong emotional connection, that's about all there is. Now I am usually the one to pick chemistry over logic, but seeing as how I'd never actually see #3, and I'd be able to see and interact with on a fairly regular basis, I do feel #2 is the more logical choice. I do have feelings for #2 don't get me wrong, it just isn't as fresh and vibrant and new as the ones I have found I have for #3, and I don't think it'd be a good decision to throw away what I have with #2 for what's essentially a very frustrating long distance relationship. I do wish to carry my ambiguous status for a nother few months or so, but I really want that week with #3. it's going to be like one of those fairy tales, and we [#3 and I] have already discussed the saddening impossibility of a real relationship so while we will be together for a week, we're cramming everything a real relationship is into those 7 days. Now obviously, That's not going to be very possible if I've committed to #2. Long term wise? #2 is the right choice in every aspect. #3 is and would be a temporary fling. But one of the most epic, passionate, and chemical flings in history.

its not so much a sort as a convenience. It's just a casual thing for fun, but I fear she is getting emotionally attached, which is why I have a "deadline" to being with. I do like her, but not nearly enough to commit to her. I do plan on ending it on grounds that I don't wish to lead her on. It'll probly be a bit awkward between us for a while, but I feel it will turn out similiar to my last ex where it was weird for a few months, abut now we get along pretty well. [wow I just realized its been a year since I started dating my last ex...weird]

yup. haven't gotten laid in quite some time. been hanging around to many young chicks. You should be proud?

I've run myself in to some trouble. Not sure if I'm asking for advice so much as I am ranting and looking for feedback, but regardless, I feel the need to post it. See, there's this girl. And then there's this other girl. And then there's the other girl. It seems I've enjoyed single living a little too much. One of these girls, I've been casually dating for a month or 2 now and she's cool, albeit a tad boring, but she's friend's with my best friend and his girlfriend so it'd be weird to be around her...I lost my train of thought there. But she seems to be growing very fond of me, where I am still only interested in the occasional date here and there. Letting her go would be kind of bad, but i understand it's going to have to happen soon regardless. Sucks, but y'gotta do what you gotta do. Fine whatever. next girl is a nice girl I've been takling to for like. ever. And we click real well. Where's the problem in that you ask? Well, in all actuality I'm buried in them. First of all, she's insane about schoolwork, so she rarely has time to be social, and she's never had a boyfriend before because of it. Now, I'd love to be this girl's boyfriend, no doubt. but if I'm going to commit to that...I want to do it right and proper. So while she was talking to me today her saying that she was into me, and I her I had the perfect opportunity to be like "oh, well lets go on a date" - I couldn't bring myself to do it. I'm not worthy of the title boyfriend as of yet. I'm still casually dating the first girl, not to mention the third girl. Speaking of the third girl, she is AMAZING. I practically love her. We hate everything that the other likes [Chase Coy blows, and she hates Nirvana...it's like she's from Saturn] but we well have very strong feelings for each other. Sort of. Thing is...she lives rediculously far away, and even after extensively talking for the past few weeks, I really want to hop on a plane and meet up with her. Date her for a bit, and call it a day. Thing is...I can't get that chance for another 4 months at best. That's 4 months of being on standby. And somehow saying "I can't wait that long, I'm sorry, we'll have to wait longer" is not a phrase I want coming out of my mouth. There are certainly times where she kind of annoys me and I have to question why I'm even so into her, but its stuff like that that keeps a relationship interesting. Biggest problem being distance. I'd NEVER see her. Like....ever. So while I very much desire that one week with her and have the most romantic and heartfelt filled week ever....I'm fairly certain that won't be possible if i were still dating girl #2 [who i'm very confident that if I'd commit to her, I'd stay with her for a very long time]. SO. I've kind of screwed myself. I gave myself options, and now I don't know which route to take. What I'm going to do, unless someone can convince me otherwise is continue dating #1 for a while, tell #2 that I'm not ready for a relationship and that she deserves the best me available, and that she'll have to wait until summerish to get it, then meet up with #3 in May for a week, have a blast [by then already be done with #1], come back home and then start a real relationship with #2 to whom I will commit to and be a proper boyfriend for. She deserves it. And honestly, #1 isn't going to be my casual dating partner much longer regardless. It's just....not going anywhere. Her birthday's coming up soon, so it's not going to be immediate, but I still feel it's probably best to do before the big 2/14. Just so she doesn't get all hoped up and stuff. Nip the bud before it grows to attatched. Right now it's hard to tell how into me she really is. She's not the most expressive broad. but... yeah. That's what I've been up to today/past 8 months.

belongs in relationship thread? I was in love once. It was pretty awesome. The kind of stuff that made your want to be a poet. The kind of thing that drove me to BECOME a poet. Those days have come and passed. Ah well, love await me around the corner surely.

First class of the semester got canceled today :D dancingmerlin.gif

bro, NEVER bottle up. I tried it once, and it screwed my body up in ways it took months to recover from. Just let it out, so you can move on. It's not going to go away on its own. In the mean time, spend lots of time meeting new people and hanging with the bros.

pretty sure this is not what you're looking for but, might as well try: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rfr9bhSmfXc

it takes your body over 2 months of 0 sleep to slip into a coma[usually they just die around 6-7 months]. I've seen a lot of insomniacs. And not the everyday Amp-drowned teenage gamer, but the legitimate can't EVER sleep kind. OT funfacts: My dad stayed up for a straight week with no food or sleep to save a powerplant from failing, where I, myself have never made it more than 40 hours

Listen to the song a lot and play the chord to the rhythm of the song, while ignoring the picking. Change chords when signified over the word it's over. Basically it just gives you a gist of what chords to play, and it's up to you to find the timing. Personally, my ear isn't good enough to pick out the timing like that, but that's why I gave up teaching myself guitar :-#

It was a joke, and I would barely call it condescending... Anyways, life has been interesting lately. For one, good bye virginity, and I owe a friend a slap as part of a bet. Second, sex isn't really that great (At least she seemed like she was having a blast), although it could just be that I'm not that attracted to her; I started something and it quickly fizzed, I plan on killing things tomorrow. Thirdly, remember how I was talking about a girl two years younger than me? I'm back to that again, confused as [bleep] about how I feel about her, and I think I would know for certain if she wasn't so much younger than me. Fourthly, I had what I guess I would call a mental breakdown on Friday, all stemming from a conversation I had with a friend. More on the mental breakdown: Me and my friend were supposed to be doing a project, but instead talked about a lot of other things, lifeguarding, counselling at a camp we'll both be working at, backpacking across Canada, and pen spinning. He's quite good at pen spinning, and taught me how to do some basic stuff. Afterwards I got to thinking that I don't have anything that I'm good at. I'm athletic, but haven't really done much, I'm smart, but not some kind of genius, and there are no real tricks that I know how to do. So then I got distracted by some friends, and the thoughts were left to soak into my head. A couple hours later, while watching a movie with my ex (Who's my best friend now), the thoughts came back full-force. I then proceeded to become completely stressed out. I left and she went to her boyfriends, and then I pretty much had the breakdown once I got home, thinking about what I'm going to do about this, and that, and these people, and how I'm going to end things with Vivian, and what am i even doing in my life, what do I want to do, what am I good at, what aren't I good at, what do people think I'm good at, and my mind was going a mile a minute. So yeah, was all jittery and worked up, so I went outside and played with my dog for about 20-30 minutes (Of literally sprinting back and forth), then drove down to pick up pizza my dad had ordered, had a good scream on the drive back. Starting texting Emily (Younger girl) while eating, and talked to her for the rest of the night, and that definitely helped me calm down. Oh, I'm also nearly certain that she has feelings for me. Now this weekend I spent mostly alone, figuring my stuff out and making plans for what I'm going to do. I've realized just how good my accomplishments are, I will be doing awesome in life, and [cabbage] doesn't matter. Completely unrelated, anyone else here good friends with an ex? A) Just go be with the younger chick. Feelings are much more important that slighted social acceptance. Would you rather be happy and have a few people look at you a tad funny, or would you rather be miserable and "correct"? B) Everyone is good at something, just as everyone will inevitably be shown up by someone else at that something. But somehow, we're all equal because that better person will still have something they're not good at, where you are C) I am/was friends with both my ex's. Although, one of which I fight with constantly, and the other has an attention issue where if I ignore her while she's trying to talk to me for more tha n30 seconds she gets pissy. And while I think it's hard to be friends with your ex, in a lot of situations it's perfectly possible.

Johnny can also be found in Woe, is Me and A Skylit Drive temporarily. Pretty sure he's in a few others, as well as an album or two of solo stuff that was rather "meh"

Fame<Infamy - Fall Out Boy :cool: ahhh this brings me back

Turns out this only concerns people born after 2009... I got worked up over nothing lol. I'll sauce that statement tommorow, I'm on my way to bed and cant be arsed.

I went from being a pair of fish, to jsut water. LAME

Shiny best be trollin' and I am also not a fan of the new facebook layout, but i suppose i'll get used to it, just like we have in the past. Sucks that it was forced upon us. It's really an awful layout. and I miss my text box :( Today I'm meeting up with an old friend who I haven't hung out with in 4 or 5 years. Fingers crossed for minimal awkward silences :unsure: