RpgGamer

So it is a bit of a trial (by which I was not accusing you of being judgmental or manipulative, merely observant and competent) But thats a valid point, if they text first they're pretty down

http://wallstreetinsanity.com/50-signs-youre-dating-a-crazy-chick/

Do you explain that you won't contact them for at least 24 hours, or is this a trial to see how clingy they can get to make sure they're worth your time? Also, I found a buzzfeed article that I practically wrote

Ewwww, you do the three day grace period? I understand the evasion of clingy feelings but it seems so forced

I suppose sex is like tacos. Even if it's bad, its still good

I dunno, sometimes I think sex with attractive people is a silly social standard. A lot of them aren't even that good because they just assume looking good means the sex is good

I kinda want to get a bartending license, but I kind of feel its a waste of time and money

So youre suggesting you are more than willing to be friends with an ex (at least your version of an ex) provided the sex wasn't spectacular? What if the sexual tension was less overrated?

Learn to sew or make friends with a cosplayer. String and a needle is super cheap. Alternatively, a professional tailor will do a professional job, but will be considerably more expensive than if you learned to do it yourself. Pending the material of the jacket and the size of the hole it'll be under $15 for most repairs. But tailors are usually super chill, so if you buy a tie or something and casually mention that the jacket youre wearing has a hole in it they'll probably do it super [bleep]ing cheap (the last suit I bought I got tailored for free because i bought shoes and a pocket square at the same time and the guy was making commission)

Also he probably has a lot of insecurity about people using him for his wealth ans social standing, he's liable to stick with her even against logic to a point because I imagine getting into the dating pool again at 25 sounds horrifying to him. I'd recommend he buy himself a Russian mail order bride instead of a Ferrari. But hey, whatever

Sounds to me like he's a sugar daddy that doesn't have time to give her the attention she wants, thus liable to be cheated on. Why do you think the scuzzy starving musician type manages to get with attractive women consistently? Because they have time to pay attention and give attention like no other. Financial security and support are amazingly wonderful things, but they dont make a relationship better, only make life easier. And if your buddy ends up passing out early from working so hard, that leaves a lot of idle time that his girlfriend has needs that he's no longer capable of fulfilling. Money and security go along way, but how many 20-something year old girls have you seen make decisions based on logic and future consequences?

First Date Discussion Touch early, touch often. The consequence of not doing so is a boring as hell dating experience. As soon as you see her, find an appropriate way to make physical contact. Been talking a while, and you're walking toward eachother? Go for a hug. She's meeting you at a beverage distributor (bar, coffee house, whatever) and one of you is sitting, do the ring that that Muggiw mentioned (its a real winner because its a conversation starter as well) ... (though hugging easily leads to "you smell real nice" which is also a conversation starter in a direction you defintely want to pursue. Also - always smell nice. Always.) But ultimately not every date you go on is going to be fun. Some people don't click with others. Some people are legitimately boring. I'm also a big promoter of ending the first date with the first kiss (provided the kiss hasn't already been escalated to by some other means [be it previous drunken hook up, or just very positive response to other physical escalation]). Kissing on the first date is a make or break moment for me, its a strong evaluation of lust and carnal sexuality which I personally prioritize very highly in a relationship. Having a fun anecdote or tow prepared is a good idea, but don't psych yourself out over it. Just be as interesting as possible always and you'll always have a current event story to tell to anyone you may encounter. If you haven't done anything interesting in a while...well, you're one of those legitimately boring people I suppose :p @Friendzone Discussion This "zone" only exists as much as you make it exist. Not everyone wants to have sex with you at any given time. I believe that given enough proximity and tension, there will be at least a fleeting thought of "what if" from any and all parties. This "what if" can be met with a "I wouldn't mind" or a "hell no". The "friend zone" seems to be when Party A can not accept that Party B has already reached the "hell no phase" but Party A continues to act in a submissive way to Party B in the hopes of reconstructing a better "What If". The truth is, the only people that ever get a re-do on their "what if" are people that got a "I wouldn't mind" the first time around. Opposing genders can only function as friends for so long before this "what if" scenario pops up for one of them (realistically, it happens first to the least secure party) and the friendship dynamic is shifted (friend zone). The alternative is that the other party doesn't know how to function as a human and acted like a friend to pursue a relationship just as the first party and now they've formed a relationship based on the weak foundation of a friendship based on false pretenses. (but perhaps that sounds more cynical than I intended because there certainly are benefits to being friends with someone before dating, but ideally a dating phase is initiated before any [if at all] commitment is made so that trust can be built by learning more of each other. This is less unstable than converting a friendship to a relationship when honoring personal boundaries and comfort zones.) I'm going to make a crappy flow chart: Friends->Relationship = Marriage or intense ugly breakup (pro: know each other well, con: high risk of losing close friend) Friends->Dating->Relationship = You better communicate feelings REALLY well, or this gets ugly fast Dating->Relationship = Ideal (pro: may or may not like friends; con: requires high trust and security) Relationship->Friends = Gets real ugly for all kinds of reasons unless it was 100% ACTUALLY mutual (and even then its risky) But many of things don't apply quite the same in Muggiw's world, because honestly the whole polyamory thing eliminates a lot of the flaws of dating and relationships. Granted, I'd like to hear it's benefits of friends (you mentioned they can only be friends if they are having sex, is that so there's no tension and there's full disclosure of feelings?)

She's either terrified of your buddy, or totally banging that other guy, let's be real

People of opposite genders can never be real friends. Unless there's a crazy circumstance of being raised as brother and sister or something

M'lady

Pretty solid yeah, I dont think anyone's had a good time when someone is trying to change the other directly

[bleep] relationships and feelings man. I shoulda just stuck to being single and modestly happy

She sounds like a [bleep]. But they're all kinda like that I one way way or another. Forst reaction to the story: he doesn't trust her. And no trust = no relationship

Even bad tacos are pretty good

I learned how to use "inspect element" to circumnavigate porn blocks. This is so vital.

Yeah I've had the censor ruin a joke or two for me before. Womp. Today I thought I had work but I dont. So hello binge watching Parks and Rec and playing Dark Souls

Yeah something like that. Its also harmless, just doesn't look very attractive during breakouts. Ah well. Like I said, better than herpes

Let your partner know! If you cant tell them how you feel it may be a fast relationship beginning AND end.

Got diagnosed with molluscum. But hey, better than herpes

That making bank in 5-10 year plan doesn't sound too shabby....