Iamdan

There are still some things we can't resist. Love for example.

You've missed my point though. You can't reason somebody out of suicide. Telling them it's selfish and weak won't do anything, because their brain isn't functioning properly. It's not about blaming anyone. Would you blame someone with a learning disability, for not learning well? We are hardwired to survive, and to fight for life in the most helpless situation. When the brain stops doing that, why would you blame the person for it? I can understand how the suicide still effects them, however I'm sure they are still a functioning member of society. Also, I still stand by what I said before about how everyone is really only an object to everyone else. Someone will value their own life more than someone else's, unless their brain chemistry effects that. From their point of view, the suffering the victim would have gone through over the years would be much greater than that inflicted on loved ones. It's also a double standard to blame someone for causing a suicide by committing suicide.

This. Yet people still act like they do.

So basically humans aren't accountable for anything they do because it's their brain's fault? If it's not the brain's fault, what controls our actions exactly? Also, http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Insanity_defense If people were a wreck for the rest of their lives when a loved one died then the world would be a lot different. I don't need to know the way someone things to know that people can move on.

That's [cabbage]. Everyone is just an object to everyone else. You can know somebodies history, their favourite food, and their deepest fears but you still have relatively no idea who that person is compared to them. You don't know what they think, or how they perceive things. Friends might be sad for a year, close friends and family might be sad for 5, but they all move on. Sure they might have relapses, or wish they were still alive when they think about the person, but they will still go about their daily lives as usual when the grieving finishes. If someone commits suicide, from their point of view they will never 'move on.' They won't go about their daily lives again, ever.

The brain not working as it should. How [bleep]ing difficult is it to understand? You can tell someone how stupid they are for killing themselves until you run out of breath, but at the end of the day their brain is not working how it should.

heavy metal kings - JMT

After listening to the awesome that is JMT, I want to downl buy an army of the pharaohs album - any recommendations?

Did you actually just make that stuff up on the spot? The majority of suicides (90-98%) are caused by mental disorders. Mental disorders obviously being when the brain isn't working as it should. I'd bet anything that there is a situation where you would rather die than not upset family.

People do the same thing. The suicide only happens when the brain isn't working like it should.

imo a faux hawk would only suit you with long bangs What about a medium length messy look? http://coolmenshairstyles.com/fashion-medium-length-hairstyle-for-men.html kinda thing

People with depression generally don't kill themselves, they might think about it constantly but most often they won't do it. This is because they have no energy, they don't care about anything at all - including their want for death. When they get prescribed the wrong medication and have a reaction with a burst of adrenaline, that's when they do it. This medication has an effect on the chemicals in their brain. I know this from experience, but it's also what I've been told by professionals. When my panic disorder was bad, I was much more likely to kill myself because of my brain chemicals and a bad connection between the neurons. I was perfectly fine at times, while I had almost constant anxiety worrying about the next attack I still wanted to live. Then when the attacks hit I was flooded with hallucinations, depersonalization, paralyzing fear to the point where I couldn't speak properly, the feeling of going insane, the feeling of impending doom. At times I was fully convinced I was about to die, even though my logical side knew I wouldn't. That, combined with the thoughts of having panic attacks and anxiety for the rest of my life made it hard to keep out suicide thoughts and I knew it was only a matter of time unless I figured out how to improve it. The only reason why I hung on was because I beat my depression and I had hope that I could do the same with the panic attacks. Anyone who thought they were about to have a horrible death would have trouble keeping out thoughts of ending it quickly. That's what having suicidal thoughts feels like. The feeling of life not being worth living, and having no control. Paralyzing fear, and thoughts of spending a life in an institution. Knowing that it will effect your life in a horribly negative way, and having little or no hope for being happy. This combined with a burst of adrenaline is what does it. Those who say suicide is cowardly, or that it's a matter of simply sucking it up have absolutely no clue what they're talking about. No clue. It's so much more than being sad all the time with no hope for the future. Also, we have a hardwired instinct to survive. It's pretty damn difficult to fight against your own hard wiring. Cowardly my ass. Sometimes we do blame mental problems for rape and murder.

I figured that's what you were after since you posted a picture

I do that to contrast colours and for warmth, not with the same colour though :P

please throw away that shirt

No, it would be considered more like common sense :P Personally I don't buy things for girls, I just have the frame of going 50 50 and it works out without having to say anything. I'm more concerned about losing attraction by spending money on her that I wouldn't for someone else I had known as long as her. After she's attracted I'll do the 'I'm gonna grab x, want anything?' thing once, until she does it back.

Body language is universal. They're going to make that assumption whether you like it or not, and they probably won't even do it consciously. If I ever put my hands in my pockets, I leave my thumbs out which replaces the defensiveness with a sexual vibe. If he's sort of just meeting her again and they don't really know each other any more it gets much easier than that. If you go for attraction straight away, and she responds positively to your flirting and being playful before you build comfort, then she's probably into you. Mall is a good idea. Invite her to help you buy something. A present for somebody or an item of clothing works. That way depending on how it goes, you can do pretty much anything. Grab lunch, play pool, go bowling, go back to somebodies house for a movie etc.

Most communication is done through body language, and things such as voice tone.

You aren't a bad looking guy, imo a faux hawk will really suit you. Anything that is strictly ornamental with no or little use is a good place to start. Piercings, tattoos, bracelets, neck chain etc. Every man needs a good watch. Get a tan, and lift weights. Find a good button up, long sleeves. I personally like the ones with the clips at the side of the arms, where you can roll up the sleeve. That's all I can really say based on that picture. Brad P's fashion bible is an excellent read. Piercings are a really good idea imo. Some girls will love them and feel somewhat attracted to you straight away, it will merely be a benefit/neutral thing for most girls, and only a small percentage will disqualify you for it. Plus you can take them out if you want.

Also true. I've been in so many situations where it probably would have been awkward for most people, but if you have a strong frame and you're comfortable than they will be too.

I hug my guy friends all the time Actually come to think of it, I don't do that so much anymore..

Walk up to her group with high energy You're awesome! High five! You know what, you're awesome too! High five. (Turn to her) You're also awesome, high five! (when she goes for it move your hand away) Oooh, I can't believe you fell for that. You can either start a conversation from there, or just leave and do it later. Might as well. e: askjeeves in here too.

Best way to directly tell a girl you like her short of making a move, but do it preferably after making a move: You just popped into my head, so hi. Now stay out of there. (via txt) Please don't anyone ever do the 'I've really liked you these last few months' speech, use that if you have to. That's assuming you don't want to take the much better option that I posted about, it's also a good line if you're doing it anyway. It's not even mine, someone used it on me. It works well though. I can't really directly tell her that we didn't, because she didn't directly say it. I missed my chance for 'we didn't get up to anything if that's what you were angry about.' Hoping she gets over it soon..

Fixed. OT: I think I just made plans for my first date...Anything I should know about dating? http://forum.tip.it/blog/191/entry-1772-flirtingteasing/ I've only hooked up with 2 girls in her presence, (she wasn't literally there, but she saw us meet and flirt) and I also told her about a [bleep] buddy. Surely that's not enough to justify her making that assumption

ehhhh my friend's mum is pissed at me because I crashed in her bed with a girl, she thinks we had sex in there :(