Iamdan

Would you treat someone you love like that?

I think you looked too deep into the L word when she used it. I love just shoot me, but I haven't seen an episode in years. It can easily be used with a much more casual context than the way you interpreted it, especially by a lot of women who tend to use it more. My guess is that she wanted a pen pal because like you at the time, she didn't talk to many people in real life. When she did start talking to more people, naturally she prioritized them over someone she talked to over long distance and met once. You had a much bigger emotional investment than she did. If you tell her that you're in love with her you're most likely going to weird her out and make her not want to talk to you. I suggest starting conversation with her every now and then, but to move on like she has.

I kiss both ways, I alternate sometimes. Keeps things interesting. My impulse is to lean left but my right eye is dominant.

Couldn't help myself :P I wanted to spend some time on it but I'm going back to bed.

A kiss isn't an obligation on the first date. It's not about the date, or what she says, or whether she laughs at your jokes. It's about her level of attraction, body language and emotional investment in you. Do those compliance tests I've talked about to see whether she wants to kiss you or not. I broke up with a girl right before a trip and she said she wished I waited. It would be different for each girl though.

I'm starting to take an interest in a girl that's been just as jaded as I have been. She was a seductress, only more along the lines of a tease. It's a very fun game. Yeah this was the one who I had a short thing with 5 years ago, and I got friend zoned after but we still flirted a lot. I stopped talking to her for like a year, and then the mind games started. It was fun. We've been [bleep]ing for a while now but it might end up getting more serious. I mean I usually get sick of girls I've been with pretty quickly, but it's been 5-6 years. Still being careful though, especially when she was involved in the original love triangle that [bleep]ed me up. [hide=][/hide]

Most "christians" aren't really christians and just invent their own morals and beliefs based on society and their view of the world - essentially creating their own religion. A "christian" who picks and chooses their morals and beliefs from the bible is no more christian than an atheist imo. It's not really a true faith if it's only partial. Also this forum needs a Godwins law, except about religion.

Might as well expand on [hide=] [/hide] because I was supposed to go to the coast but got dogged and I have nothing to do for a couple hours. There is a huge part of flirting but I haven't really posted much about it. I call it push pull, romy posted about it and called it something else, and it's important. Two steps forward and one step back. You want to do the exact opposite of 'spilling your feelings,' which I have seen so many people do in this thread and post back with bad results. Yet people still do it. If she does something you find attractive, let her know it, but don't overdo it. Negate it a little, to keep her wanting more. "That was pretty good, you get 10 points" or "You have a nice smile, too bad you're such a dork." I guess the bluntest way of putting it would be to compliment, but then take half of it back. You can do the same thing with your body language. Also, I think I might be falling for someone. As in feelings I haven't had for a few years.

My wisdom teeth have been coming though and I have an infection :( [bleep] it's painful... I have like a flappy bit of gum growing over the top of the tooth.

The only song I like so far is love the way you lie, but I often have to listen to a song a few times before I like it so I might get into others later. It made me go back and listen to encore. I kinda liked it when I first listened to it when it came out, but I've really only just realized how good of an album it is. The songs are kinda goofy, but god damn he can rap. Each line sounds perfectly crafted the way they all fit together.

Asking a girl out has been covered a few times here, and on my blog. Just do the 'tell her about a cool thing you're doing but don't invite her until later in the conversation' thing. If you're already dating but you want to be exclusive you don't have to buy her anything... Either have 'the talk' or just let it progress naturally. The second option is better, just see her more often and you both just develop a mutual understanding.

tbh I posted the idea mostly to make the trolls think twice and to maybe get a rise out of them, but it bugs me that users make personal attacks anonymously but then post here acting all mature and a part of the community. Two-faces irk me, and we don't need them here. I mean if they don't like us why do they post here?

It's funny how defensive you're getting now.

Except that a forum doesn't really work like a democracy. The trolls are definitely known, (some of them anyway) there doesn't really need to be proof which is pretty much impossible to get.

^ pretty much, it's easier to fix than the logo though. I know 2 of them. It's pretty pathetic really, especially since it takes more effort to wreck it than it takes to make it as there are much more people helping.

You can't ban somebody on one site for doing something legal on a completely separate site. Of course you'd say that. afaik the rules are up to interpretation of the mods/admins to prevent loopholes.

Why not temp ban the known trolls? I mean trolling is against the rules here, and it gives them some incentive to grow the [bleep] up.

Somebody asked me to write a bit on flirting, which suited me great because I was bored as hell at the time. You can build attraction through a few ways. The way you dress, your body language and tone, DHVs through stories, your social status and flirting/teasing. Flirting and teasing makes people feel like they've known each other for a while, even if you start doing it straight away. It disqualifies you so she won't think you are hitting on her and put up her [bleep] shield, it lets her qualify herself and work towards seeing your more serious side, and it sets a playful and fun tone. People really only tease those who have the same/lower value, so it tells her that she doesn't have a higher value than you. You joke and tease your friends because you all respect each other, if what you're busting her balls on might be a soft spot then make sure you've already shown you respect that aspect of her. If you overdo it or don't show respect first when you should have, take a step back. Maybe say something like 'where I grew up we all teased each other to show affection, I was just playing. Let's start over.' You can also start asking logical low compliance questions to build it back up again. Stuff like her name, what she likes to do etc. Ask her things she isn't going to ignore and probably has default answers to, to get back into normal conversation. Start off with light stuff that's low compliance, later on you can move onto bigger role plays with more sexual themes. How fast you can progress depends on how good you are at it, and on the situation. If the situation is right I'll just walk up to a group of girls and start organizing about a four-some. If you're reading this, chances are you've seen me emphasize role playing over and over because it works so well it's like a cheat code. Since I can never emphasize that point enough, role play - do it. Especially if you role play sex, because it's just fun so she will just go along with it, but it will get her thinking about sex with you and make her more comfortable with the idea of being physical. Flirting and teasing should be natural or it's weird. If you say something on a specific topic in the wrong situation then it's more about you being a legitimate [bleep] and she will just reject you to keep her self esteem. Everything should be in context somehow. Because it needs to be natural, writing a guide for it doesn't really work. Instead I'll just give examples of what I do. Remember that your flirting should be consistent with her idea on who you are. You don't see james bond point at a girls chest and flick her nose when she looks down do you? I will playfully: Exasperate in a crowded area loudly "no I will not make out with you" (It's from a movie, can't remember which though) Act really impatient when she's getting ready to go out, even if it's obviously a normal amount of time. Make something that is clearly my fault, look like her fault via some ridiculous means. Tell her to make me a sandwich/get me a beer. Play [bleep] marry kill Tell her that we should find her a boyfriend, someone who will send her flowers and hold her purse for her at ikea. I'll point out the dorkiest looking guy in the area, and sometimes introduce her to him 'because she thinks you're hot but she's really shy' and then walk away and let them talk. Switch stereotypes, for example act like she's trying to get me drunk and take advantage of me. I'll warn her that I brought my rape whistle and mace. If we're talking and her friend comes up, act like she just said something mean about her. for example look back and forth between them and say 'nah I don't think she smells, that's mean. It's ok I think you smell nice.' and give the first girl a dirty look. Offer her a helmet and crayons so she can sit in the corner with the other [developmentally delayed]s and not hurt herself if she does something stupid. Play on stereotypes. If she lives on a farm talk about how she must churn butter all day and she can't stay out too late because she has to get up early to feed the pigs. If we're around a stranger, or about to be served by a checkout operator/bartender etc I'll pretend to have the end of an embarrassing conversation with her. "Yeah I'm not really into fetishes but I guess we can try that if you really want. I don't know how we're going to get bagpipes though. *looks up* "Oh sorry, two tickets to x please." Act really selfish and ask for ridiculous favors to the point where it's obviously a parody. Act really cold and hateful to the point where it's obviously a parody. Tell her I'm really high maintainence and I require too much attention, or act like she's really high maintainence. Spank her if she bends over, or say 'while you're down there...' Eat food seductively but exaggerate it to the point where it's a parody. Role play a sex fantasy. I put the lighter ones you can do early towards the beginning, but they aren't in a strict order. I'm sure you can figure out which is and isn't appropriate for where you stand with her. Hopefully that's enough to go on.

I agree with muggi, and resenting women like that isn't healthy.

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zoom out all the way and you'll see it on the lower left side. it's more of a circle of dots than an O atm.

I started a giant O for /OT/ on the left side in black. It's less likely to get trolled than a runescape fan logo.

I don't know how you can call it love when you were together for like a month and you're already over her... Anyway if her friend has any source of decency she won't go out with you after what happened. Also,

I gave up trying to figure out the right shade

He's pompous about it, plus, it's different when you have a scarce amount of other true friends and your only true friend is consumed by a guy she met a year after we became very good friends. From what you've said, all he did was get a bit defensive when you told him you love his girlfriend. He hasn't done anything wrong, just because you don't have many 'true friends' doesn't mean they have some sort of obligation to be around you a lot because of it :unsure: Do have romantic feelings for her? If she dumped him and threw herself on you, would you just go with it?