Iamdan

I asked a while back if anyone has a topic they wanted me to write about. Would you guys be interested in a short piece about texting? Yeah it's not something you do to a friend the first time. Plus you're 15 so it's not a good idea anyway, it's great at 18-19+

That's the kinda guy I used to be, it ended in heartbreak that still [bleep]s with me today. Just because the girls your friends with like you being one of them, it doesn't mean it's a good thing. You're the perfect best friend for a girl, as was I, but you aren't going to attract them. Talking about the same stuff over and over on the forums does nothing. You know what our advice is, if you've been lurking you'd know I sure as hell know what I'm talking about as I've had and overcome pretty much every issue you can think of related to this. Take it or leave it but actions speak louder than words.

I haven't read the whole last couple pages but I gather he's realized he needs to move on, but isn't sure how? You don't need to only talk to girls you are into. You really have no idea whether a 'party girl' isn't for you until you've dated all of them. Don't talk to girls you think you'd like, talk to people. Talk to everyone. Go out, and force yourself out of your comfort zone. Have fun. Cave man her for a week. Shoot for just a week. When she talks to you, drop the conversation randomly over text and etc. Be really bored with her in person. See what she's like after a week. Cave manning is something different. It's basically having spontaneous rough sex without asking first like a caveman would do. (if they say an obvious no then stop of course) Throw her against the wall, hold her arms above her head. The whole deal. Girls love it :D 'cave man her for a week' made me lol though. I assume you meant talking to her less and being more aloof.

You can't get youth living away from home payments? Or make up a story and get even more via unreasonable to live at home? My friend got it by saying she had a fallout with her parents.

Ehh, I feel your pain bro. I've been there. It's probably not what you want to hear, but don't go after her. I made that mistake, she ended up with my best friend and it still [bleep]s with me today, years after they've broken up I lost 2 best friends that way, and I barely talk to either of them now. I've been in the "if she only gave me a chance, she would see how great I am and fall in love with me" boat too, and it doesn't lead anywhere good. Attraction isn't a choice, and she just doesn't feel it for you. Spending money on her, getting mad when she doesn't give you attention etc only makes you less sexually attractive to her. There are lots of other girls, and while it might not seem like it now, there are plenty who you could have a great relationship with. If you want to move out of friend zone, cut off contact with her almost completely. If you're close now, you can come back 6 months later and it will be like you never parted. Except that you get a clean slate and have the chance to attract her. You have pretty much zero chance with her by continuing to chase her like you are now. If you read my post just above yours about my new [bleep] buddy, I was friend zoned by her originally also. I had no chance and was in a similar position to you, and rather than keep shooting myself in the foot I moved on, met new girls and came back a year later. Try it. In the meantime, meet new people. Meet new girls - you could hit it off with one. If you want to know more about meeting random people, and being the guy that a girl lusts for, rather than the guy she spills her feelings about other guys to, read my blog. Link is in my sig. If there is a topic not covered in there that you want to know about. Let me know and I can add to it.

My first was when I was like 17. Nothing has ever been official but I've had a few friends and we would ring each other to 'hang out.' This one was more like.. her: 'omg that was epic, we have to be [bleep] buddies now' me: it sure was, tell your friends I'm here all week :cool: I kinda wanted something more because she's a pretty awesome girl but we're already close friends so it could develop into something else easily anyway. See how it goes. ahh I love life btw you aussies down south, I know some guys looking for a new room mate if you were serious about coming up. Great area, good blokes, 5 mins from me, nice house and a good rent price.

Um... so we're [bleep] buddies now. Holy mixed signals, and what a weekend :thumbup:

Yeah me too, until grade 1 when I played the age old 'show each other your junk' game with a neighbor. My first thought was "idk what it is, but it's awesome'

There's plenty of other cringe worthy stupid things I've done, can't remember any atm

Surprised there haven't been any 'play rugby you skirts' posts. (not that this thread doesn't deserve one :P) I've played a bit of american football, it's awesome on the beach :thumbup:

Seems I'm one of the few people happy where they live :/

I like eternity by KC. It's got a dry/woody/soap smell

It's what I've always done and I'm pretty happy with it.

imo Guys of your skin colour shouldn't wear black button ups, I do like the shirt though. (I have the same issue) A hat? Seriously? I could be mistaken because you can't see it too well, but those shoes look like sneakers or something :/ Jeans are a bit baggy but still good, hem the legs a bit :thumbup: I'm hoping you had a light undershirt on to offset all the dark colours.

Pro life and pro choice are nothing more than political labels. Pro life because everybody is technically 'pro life' so it's easy to say 'omg you're against life?' etc. Pro choice because pro death doesn't sound as friendly.

I was drunk at a party with fondue, and dropped the strawberry or whatever it was into the kerosene. I fished it out and through it would be ok to eat after a little shake. It wasn't.

Mostly watched movies while wrapped in a blanket, and I made my own pizza. I made the dough, raised the cows for the cheese and everything :thumbup: Party/gathering tonight and work tomorrow. Can't wait.

Man I've said over and over, this stuff doesn't mean you only have a fling. You turn it into whatever you want. Approaching lots of girls just means you're much more likely to connect with someone if you let it happen. You can get a girlfriend if you approach a random girl on the street and proceed to own the world, or if you play nice guy and get [bleep]ed around until you bumble into a relationship. I don't like the term pua, but it makes getting a point across easier. Just like the word 'kino' brings a novel's worth of information into 1 word. It doesn't mean you have to associate yourself with the cheesy guys who wear cowboy hats to clubs and use canned lines they read from the game. THAT'S what would make you a tool. And wallowing in pity and wishing desperately for a girlfriend would do the same thing. (not saying that you're doing that) Girls don't feel bad because they use the things that guys are attracted to, to their advantage. Do you think they wear high heels because it's comfortable? Does wearing heels and a low cut shirt automatically mean they're fake and a [bleep]? If you want to play the game you don't have be promiscuous just because others do. You also don't need a girlfriend or anybody else. Just have fun.

How are you gonna go about doing it? dling a program at the moment called tell me more, it's supposed to be really good. My first choice was mandarin as it is the most used language, and the chinese will undoubtedly take over the world someday, but I couldn't find a program for it. Spanish was my second choice, and is [cabbage] loads easier anyway. I'm pretty keen for it. I'm not working full time and I'm not a student so I'm just teaching myself stuff. I did quantum physics and philosophy for a while. NLP and spanish now.

Yeah do that. mmm. When I screw up I have a habit of always needing to know why. I'm in damage control, but no longer care what happens. gtfog in the meantime..

Today I decided to learn to speak spanish.

ohi Don't feel bad, you guys won the last 4 years. Oh wait

[hide=] I think I may have gotten ljbf :( She's naturally flirty, but then throws out IODs She wanted to have sex one night, but we were both drunk and I was hoping for a relationship so I didn't do it. No idea if that's what screwed it up, or that I mistook her flirting as something more serious. Or maybe she's attracted, but still pissed at me from the other night... Except I can't ask her because it would be needy..... It's the perfect situation to caveman but I'm good friends with her so I can't. fml :wall: [/hide] I think I know how I screwed up now. Her wanting to hook up was a bait when she was semi interested. If I went through with it, it would have just been a 1 night thing which wasn't what I wanted. I said I would (which is where I lost) even though I decided not to. Ah well, learned a lesson. gftog before it turns into oneitis.

Not many OTers are doctors/psychologists. If you want an answer that hasn't been pulled out of someones [wagon] then you should seek professional advice.